Dude tried cold approaching for 10 hours in NYC and got REJECTED

[Clockwerk50]

I think the general consensus among all the posters here is that there’s something off about the demeanor of the guy doing the cold approaches, and that there’s nothing wrong with the environment or the people being approached. Basically, the guy has no social game.

The argument against the "passport bros" is that they overlook the opportunity cost of moving to another country while ignoring the challenges of entering the foreign dating market. (For example, the financial requirements to live abroad, cultural differences, learning a new language, and varying social expectations around dating and relationships.) Essentially, the amount of energy spent relocating to another country might be better invested in dating locally in your own city.

 

[corrector]

I think the general consensus among all the posters here is that there’s something off about the demeanor of the guy doing the cold approaches, and that there’s nothing wrong with the environment or the people being approached. Basically, the guy has no social game.

The argument against the "passport bros" is that they overlook the opportunity cost of moving to another country while ignoring the challenges of entering the foreign dating market. (For example, the financial requirements to live abroad, cultural differences, learning a new language, and varying social expectations around dating and relationships.) Essentially, the amount of energy spent relocating to another country might be better invested in dating locally in your own city.

Perhaps. However, I don't get the vibe that was his arguement in the video itself. It's more likely he meant something more short term, like a two week to a month vacation trip. That way, if women are treating you differently in these countries, you at least have a positive memory in which to compare the local area with. Not sure if he got rockstar treatment in his home country or Thiland, but he definitely got more interactions with women and felt like a "normal human being" there.

The only thing I don't understand is there was no benefit for him to have visited those countries if he didn't gain any confidence from that experience that could be brought back to the local place. If there is no spill-over of confidence then there is an ego-trip rather than real therapy. It doesn't look like the great memories of those places he visited is giving him a happy vibe with his video.

Great post Clockwerk50. I'm going to have to official unignore you soon if you keep up with the good contributions to my threads. Well done.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Perhaps. However, I don't get the vibe that was his arguement in the video itself. It's more likely he meant something more short term, like a two week to a month vacation trip. That way, if women are treating you differently in these countries, you at least have a positive memory in which to compare the local area with. Not sure if he got rockstar treatment in his home country or Thiland, but he definitely got more interactions with women and felt like a "normal human being" there.

The only thing I don't understand is there was no benefit for him to have visited those countries if he didn't gain any confidence from that experience that could be brought back to the local place. If there is no spill-over of confidence then there is an ego-trip rather than real therapy. It doesn't look like the great memories of those places he visited is giving him a happy vibe with his video.

Great post Clockwerk50. I'm going to have to official unignore you soon if you keep up with the good contributions to my threads. Well done.

Exactly, it's a time value of money issue. If he’s only there for a short trip, it’s a quick ego boost, but no real long-term growth unless he applies that confidence back home.

It's like humping a pillow—it feels good in the moment, but doesn’t lead to anything meaningful. If he doesn’t bring that experience into his local life, it's just a temporary high with no lasting return. Investing that energy into improving his social game locally would likely give him better, more sustainable results.

 

[sevbucmash]

guy in the video is a 5/10

If he is 5/10 then I am -2/10 and you must be 11/10, Justin Bieber, Leonardo DeCaprio back when he was young. If you go out there right now and ask directions, 10 out 10 people would respond, they might say I don't know, but that still is a response. To get 5 responses in 10 hours, that's something wrong, and that's not something wrong with that guy.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Approaching any random chick by yourself in the streets is a bad idea. You need social proof and a friend to go with you to have a good time…that way it will be less creepy.

I would definitely bring a wing woman to go approaching with me if I were doing that in New York. If I can’t do that, bring a trendy male friend lol. You want to be friendly, giving and have warm vibes.

If you’re going alone, I would definitely hit up venues first instead of the streets. It should be INSIDE, not an outside approach. Go to Bookstores, resto bars, coffeeshops, Starbucks, bakeries etc.

When you get inside, you want to be talking to the employees first and the people there before going to talk to the girl you want. You want to build up social momentum. Get to know her, but don’t be a creep…give her your happy vibes.