Dreading Women

[Stanley]

Alright thanks guys,that should do moderator can close it now I guess..
Besides that I do think I need "game" as stated before I'm inexperienced with 1 on 1 con, 2 days in she's telling me how she plans to bang some other guy in 5 months time?I think I should just take a break for now and focus on more personal development and growth,finding purpose and meaning cliche stuff as "Stanley" clarified and the other guys.

I just wanna say man to all people on here,I'm not praising or anything but you dudes have a lot of wisdom man, I remember reading all this stuff not wanting to accept it,trying to copemaking up excuses,but that's what the truth does,is it not?It's always a hard pill to swallow but that's how I knew it was the truth.I wish boards or media similar to these can just become more mainstream and acceptable.If boys were taught this as they were growing up? The truth.

yeah man now you're getting it. The majority if people here seek to provide advice and bring you up, unfortunately that means getting a often unpleasant kick in the a##. comes with the territory

Also, go read pook if you haven't already

 

[corrector]

C

Clarify please?what is this speak?It makes sense spiritually not rationally though,I'm a believer of God not of christianity or religion but Yahshua

Unless you feel at ease with her and you can be yourself then her blood does not take you.

 

[corrector]

Watching porn+masturbation reduces ones urgue to pursue women.. If you masturbate twice or thrice a day, you are already an addict... Brother,its no case, concentrate much on self improvement especially with women and grooming.

I dont watch it or fap as suggested and it makes me feel more holy and religious rather than wanting to pursue women. Avoiding carnal to pursue carnal is silly. As porn is contrary to religion it creates a cognitive dissonance that encourages pursuit.of women as you are signalling you like women carnally.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Corrector,
"Your blood does not take the girl. Just keep trying until you find the right woman who is compatible to your blood and wavelength. You will always feel uncomfortable otherwise."...Where does this strange analogy come from?....I guess by blood you mean the basic quintessence of your personality?bit tough to spring on a Guy to whom English is a second language.
"

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear C I Philosopher,
I spent six months in South Africa a while ago,the most stunningly interesting Country in the World for Scenary and Wild Life....But for Dating?....Remarkably insular and suspicious people,I was told the only place one might meet a Lady was in Church....Your belief system rules that out,if you are a migrant to the Country and not an Afrikaaner,move on to a less divided and happier land.

 

[Murk]

Quit the porn and masturbation or at least limit it to 1 time per week (absolute max). If you are doing it more then you will keep using it as a crutch for your sexuality. Why bother with girls when you can watch an 18 year old get dp’ed and blow a load all over your stomach and hands and go back to eating pizza playing video games. That life leads to happiness and contentment doesn’t it.

 

[corrector]

Quit the porn and masturbation or at least limit it to 1 time per week (absolute max). If you are doing it more then you will keep using it as a crutch for your sexuality. Why bother with girls when you can watch an 18 year old get dp’ed and blow a load all over your stomach and hands and go back to eating pizza playing video games. That life leads to happiness and contentment doesn’t it.

You look at Hazma's channel? He has a cool way of presenting that material.

 

[Murk]

You look at Hazma's channel? He has a cool way of presenting that material.

No, but it’s pretty obvious stuff and after a while the urge to masturbate dissipates. Maybe having access to sex from my gf made the process easy. For single men used to jerking it to porn at least once a day it’s a horrible cycle to break free of, but totally possible and worth it.

 

[kavi]

Porn is a terrible thing. It can be addictive. Use OpenDNS and block porn sites and then if you need to masterbate every now and then just use softcore. Porn is messed up it will destroy your soul.

 

[corrector]

Porn is a terrible thing. It can be addictive. Use OpenDNS and block porn sites and then if you need to masterbate every now and then just use softcore. Porn is messed up it will destroy your soul.

Softcore is porn though.

 

[kavi]

Softcore is porn though.

I mean just use like random photos, like hot women who are fully dressed or maybe nude but not porn.

Any time you spend 'appreciating' the beauty and sexual value of women it is gonna cause men to lose their 'energy'.

I feel for me personally, blocking porn is more important than nofap.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I feel for me personally, blocking porn is more important than nofap.

What about self created sex vids?

 

[corrector]

I mean just use like random photos, like hot women who are fully dressed or maybe nude but not porn.

Any time you spend 'appreciating' the beauty and sexual value of women it is gonna cause men to lose their 'energy'.

I feel for me personally, blocking porn is more important than nofap.

Hot women who are nude or are down to their panties is still softcore porn. Fully clothed women is non nude photography, but if suggestive enough can evoke lust (ie if you imagine deepnthrting a fully clothed woman), etc... My own issue is I tend to look at allot of softcore because I am turned on if there is a phone number and a dollar sign next to the photo. Escort ads are the worst culprit for both non nude photography and softcore porn. They are better than hardcore because there is a chance you can make the fantasy you are fapping about a reality and it becomes a tangible fantasy.