Dont Use Aim/msn!

[Sammo]

Don't talk to girls over the internet, its stupid.

While talking to girls over the internet you are extremely restriced...

Think about it, kino is often the one thing that seperates you from being in the friends zone and the sexual zone, and you cant use kino over the internet.

The block button is your friend, you can talk to a girl for 10-15 minutes if you want to (all though i prefer the phone) but it should only be for the purpose of meeting them physically.

I have (had) all the girls msn adresses that go to my school.. well nearly all. I would talk to them as a DJ would over msn but i still ended up in a friends zone. It happened to my friends too. ALL of the girls that werent on my msn list have wanted to (or still do) get into my pants at some time or another.

Just trying to help a few people out...

 

[Eventide]

I disagree.

 

[Sammo]

Originally posted by Eventide
I disagree.

Care to elaborate?

 

[Hot Ice]

I agree.
All the sexuality and charm are gone.

If you talk few times it'll do. But many times online chatting will drop you to the friends zone.
(There are exceptions like I've known one chick via net over 3 years. I've seen her pic, never met. No friends zone.)

Talk only if you have to!
And be funny as hell.

If you are practising conversation and humour, it's good to go some random chatrooms. But I wouldn't use internet as a way to communicate if I know the girl already.
Again. It sucks and you WILL find yourself from the friends zone.

 

[Eventide]

No, not really.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by Eventide
No, not really.

Ummmm... can you share us your viewpoint?

 

[Sammo]

yeah evetide your not giving us much to discuss about.

Yeah humor is good online, you have to use this heaps because its pretty much all you got online.

Yeah when i was starting i used chatrooms, but dont practise on girls u all ready know. I discovered that it was a waste of time, you learn so much more if you just talk in person.

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

I disagree with this.

Why does everything have to do with sex?

So what, you can't touch the girl, big deal. To say AIM is stupid because you can't kino her is valid, but why do you NEED to be able to touch her?

Ever think that maybe talking doesn't have to be a means of getting into bed with a chick?

I think this tip has taken things a bit far. You can think of everything you do as a step forward or a step backward towards getting laid, or you can just do what the hell you want when you want, without worrying about all that stuff.

You can do more with a chick that just **** her. And what in the hell is the difference between a phone and AIM? You can't kino with either one, but for some reason AIM is just wrong.

I'm probably coming off harsh, but labeling everything wrong or right is worthless in the first place, but to label everything wrong or right because of sex is even worse. That is one thing i think is wrong with this site, people label what is "right" and what is "AFC" too much.

edit- also please note i spend no time on AOL anymore because i wasted a lot of time on it in past months, so i don't go home each day and talk to girls on AOL. I actually never use AIM anymore, so i am not defending AIM because i use it, im defending it because you just basically branded it "wrong" to do.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

Yes man your right about labels.

thats what the media does, they say THIS IS HOT AND THIS IS UGLY.

" to put a label , is the mother of ten thousand things " tao

 

[CaptianMorgan]

Originally posted by Hot Ice
If you are practising conversation and humour, it's good to go some random chatrooms.

i honestly cant get into a chat room that something can actually be said because there all cramed with porn advertisements.

 

[Serg897]

I partly disagree, becuase I know from experience that it is quite possible for a girl to fall for you only with contact online.

Right now, I know for SURE that a girl is crazy about me. She shows it in her words, her actions, and of course by what her friends say.

How did I meet this girl? Through AIM. ( one of her friends gave her my name )

Whenever talking to her online, I would use normal "DJ Techniques" on her. She would be just someone to talk to once in a while, but you avoid the types of conversations you would normally, as a DJ, while talking to a girl. Be funny.

Next thing I know, I receive word from 2 friends on the same day that she likes me. When I see her in person, she is extremely shy, and takes about 10 minutes to get out of her house ( no doubt preparing herself for my glorious presence, and I know this for a fact since her friend kept going in and out of the house telling me to wait "while she gets ready" ). Then SHE calls ME the next day.

Moral of this story? Its possible to get a girl to like you online, though I do agree that you really shouldnt limit contact with her to only AIM conversations!

 

[whatsupwiddat]

I talked to one girl online. Never met her in person. She had a boyfriend.

She went out with me.

AIM only is bad if you have no idea what you are doing.

 

[Captain Anonymous]

Using an Instant Messenger denies you the power of just about every technique on this site. Then again, on IM it gives you time to think about what you say, which is good.

It can be used, and maybe it can be made to work.

But if you are confident, then your best bet is definately over the phone, or better yet, in person.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by CaptianMorgan
i honestly cant get into a chat room that something can actually be said because there all cramed with porn advertisements.

Hmmm..
never seen such chat room.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

how are all these love websites sooo successful, if there is no kino? Kino plays a role but not as big as you are making it out to be.

Messenger is good because it adds a certain elusiveness to your words. Because you cannot show any emotions really when you talk, the person who you are tlaking to has to decide what you are trying to say in their mind.

Messenger is a good way to build conversational skills and gives you time to think about what you wanna say, and you don't have to worry about those long pauses in conversational topics

Most people display their true emotions when they are online (kind of like people after they drink) because they think they cannot be held responsible for their actions and they can just deny whatever was said online. Also in these conversations there are little/no witnesses.

Basically what you are saying is when you are not with a girl to become a recluse because you wouldn't talk on the phone either because there is no kino?

 

[Luscious]

Sammo, please get a clue before just reposting stuff that's been 'said' before, and moreover is false.

The internet (AIM/MSN/ICQ) is terrific for reeling in women - IF you know how.

When I'm on MSN with women, it helps a LOT to use more values-oriented and 'emotional' talk (i.e. the "I feel..." statement). My purpose using MSN is to connect with her and establish a bond, through being completely honest and trusting.

You don't HAVE to use techniques a whole lot. Just be yourself, talk about yourself sometimes, and talk about her.
Talk about anything. Let her become comfortable talking with you, and get a 'say anything' atmosphere going. Once she feels that connection with you, you've got a HUGE obstacle conquered.

You WANT her to be able to feel comfortable and to be honest around you, not to feel that she has to 'impress' you (which would happen if you negged her) or that she must 'compete' with you (a result if you chose to be ****y & funny).

You want her to feel like she could share anything with you - this will either make you a great friend, or an excellent LTR prospect. Truly, I could care less either way, as long as I'm making a connection with her, and we feel good being around each other.

Don't give me any flak about making women as friends, guys - because they talk to their friends, and by having one woman as a friend, she'll tell her 5 friends - now you've got 5 women curious about you. If you're more than friends - well, you're more than friends .

 

[Sammo]

Righto, maybe i didn't make myself clear.

I know from personal experience that messenger services are next to useless. I have met 4 girls over the net in real life.

Do you know how much easier it is to go out and find girls without using the internet? Do you know how much funner it is? well im guessing most of you do, so why still meet girls over the internet?

Sure it MAY work on a couple of girls, but it's not worth the effort.

Bottom line: It's easier and funner to find girls without use of the internet.

 

[Anson]

It's not impossible to get girls through AIM, but from my experience, RL approach is, like Sammo said, simply easier. You don't have to talk until exhaustion to get the girl to like you, unlike on AIM, where you can't use the body language, kino and/or eye contact to your benefit. But hey, I say go for it if you feel that it's more challenging or something... as long as you don't use AIM because you would be afraid of RL approach, that's the worst kind of AFC move you can do...

 

[Hot Ice]

Okays, all of you...
Read this thread. It says all.

 

[LaZaRuS]

I'm not really sure if I agree or not...It sounds good both ways! However, I do know that whenever I talk to a girl online I ALWAYS try to make our conversation focus on her! People love to talk about themselves. And if that doesn't work I try to make it something we can both relate to.