Luke Skywalker
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That's if she knows about it and if I'm inherently unsure about what I'm doing and it's vibing out to them that something's up. For example, I'm seeing a 50 year old woman on Saturday that's a totally different religion/philosophy to me and would be taboo or forbidden territory -- but I'm meeting her over coffee and it's like talking to any other stranger -- so no big deal.Bible_Belt said:If you want to be nice to mommy, that's fine. Give her a ride once in a while. But don't let her tell you whom to date. You have told us before that she gets to tell you which girls are good enough for her required approval.
That's right, I have not had girlfriends yet to find that out.Bible_belt said:You have not had girlfriends yet to find this out, but no woman is going to tolerate being second to your mom. They really hate that.
First of all, not every girl is the same. Maybe you are correct and most women may feel that way, but you cant say all women feel that way, and seeing as I only need the right girl to have some sort of relationship with then maybe this girl is the exception and not the rule.
Second of all, I think there are many inner and outer game issues to deal with that would make that into nothing. My philosophy is that if you are really good player, then you could actually mask the living at home situation -- you just have to keep your cell phone off so that mom doesn't interrupt the date and ask where you are and when you are coming home on speaker phone. You press the off button. See, I can mask this - nobody give me advice for this, see how smart I am, you press the 'off' button.
Thirdly, I've read a thread on here, maybe there may be a few of them like that, of guys who live on their own, are independent, about my age range, and yet still cant get a girl.
Fourthly, if I'm moving from home BECAUSE I want a girl, that becomes part of approval-seeking behaviour. One of the cardinal rules is that you cant do anything to seek validation or approval from a woman. You do anything because you want to but not care what a woman thinks...
That's fine because I am not seeking approval from your girlfriend or her friends. In fact, as an aspiring DJ, I'm not an approval seeker and do not care what women think. I have to learn to develop tough skin.Bible_belt said:I've heard my own girlfriend and her friends laugh at the idea of a man living with his mother.
I've already decided that to be consistent with a DJ, I can not be approval-seeking or validation seeking. If a woman accepts me for me that's fine, but I'm not going to change to please any woman.Bible_belt said:You have to decide between the comforts of living at home and the comforts that a woman can offer you.