Don't be like my friend...talked to a woman for 30 days straight then drove 12 hours to meet up and...

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He drove all the way, she gives him the green light and he doesnt put it in? Wtf?
 

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Tag, as in the children's game?
I had to re-read that several times to make sure I wasn't reading slang.
Terrible frame! It's a teenager's frame, not an adult frame.

If you're gonna rent an airbnb and drive 12 hours, at least get one with a hot tub.
Then you can bring Champagne and your secret weapon Mr. Bubbles.

Then you play dumb and tell the chick "The owner just informed me about a jacuzzi in the house, wanna help me find it?"

He probably wouldn't be able lead her further than that I'm guessing.
 
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The sad part is nice guys like this usually have good intentions. He didn’t want to pressure her or make her uncomfortable. But the chick doesn’t ever see it that way.
If you move to fast and she gives it up she feels like a sl00t afterwards but if you don't make a move you in end up in the guy's shoes, you damned if you do and damned if you don't sometimes
 

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“Me too” scared off alot of dudes from being aggressive and going for it. Then there’s the coach who’s in hot water for having some harmless phone sex and is out of millions. Guys watch the news, they see what’s going on. Not saying this excuses what he did but I bet it had a lot to do with it.
 

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If you move to fast and she gives it up she feels like a sl00t afterwards but if you don't make a move you in end up in the guy's shoes, you damned if you do and damned if you don't sometimes
You just got to be on that mindset where you give no f***s about what she thinks or how she would feel after and think about your needs and wants first.

I guess the dude OP posted about "cared" about her feelings or was prjecting how he wanted to be treated. In reality, maybe the girl wanted something else. Nice guy epitome where you walk on eggshells.
 

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You just got to be on that mindset where you give no f***s about what she thinks or how she would feel after and think about your needs and wants first.

I guess the dude OP posted about "cared" about her feelings or was prjecting how he wanted to be treated. In reality, maybe the girl wanted something else. Nice guy epitome where you walk on eggshells.
That’s all fine and dandy until it’s not. It takes ONE woman to change her mind and lie to the cops and you’re done. Think it won’t happen to you? It happens to many dudes who thought the same thing.
 

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Tag, as in the children's game?
I had to re-read that several times to make sure I wasn't reading slang.
Terrible frame! It's a teenager's frame, not an adult frame.

If you're gonna rent an airbnb and drive 12 hours, at least get one with a hot tub.
Then you can bring Champagne and your secret weapon Mr. Bubbles.

Then you play dumb and tell the chick "The owner just informed me about a jacuzzi in the house, wanna help me find it?"

He probably wouldn't be able lead her further than that I'm guessing.
Apparently...but it seems she used it as an excuse to run in his bedroom and jump in his bed.

How he didn't end up fvcking this chick I have no idea.

She basically served her pvssy up on a silver platter and he didn't take advantage
 

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Quite shocked on how the discussion is more about that the guy drove 12h to meet a girl, instead of the women giving herself on silver platter and that guy missing the escalation point, and then ofc the line “ there is no chemistry”

Most of the guys here are ok with going to a god forsaken place that is more “traditional” and most likely more than 12h away from where they live, but yet when someone goes to some other place instead of the god forsaken place that are ok people get triggered

From my end this is a story about what happens if you miss the escalation point, not about that a guy went to another city to sleep with a girl

A lot of hypocrisy :)
 

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The lesson here is if you spend a month talking with a woman and end up with her in your bed offering "no resistance" and you don't give her what she clearly wants that you are the problem not her.

I mean imagine the roles had been reversed and he was being super playful and flirty and she responded to that energy by acting like she didn't feel the same way or that she may think men/sex are icky. We'd all tell the guy to run for the hills. It goes both ways gentlemen.
If I'm in bed with a chick, I WILL attempt to get the panties off (I'll keep the top on, LOL) and insert. I will only be stopped by her telling me no.
 

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2 hours? did he meet her off TInder? lmfaooo
I can't remember the last time I had to drive 2 hours, typically women come to me if they live 2-3 hours I can't be bothered I live in a small town but even in a shythole where I live you can find women in a 30 mile radius
I remember dating a coed at my alma mater (I had graduated 7 years prior), and I didn't have a problem with the 80-minute ride.
 

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Was it worth it?
If a chick is not within uber distance (20 minutes tops 30 if she is a baddie)I dont bother it's a waste of my time
Yes, it was ... of course, as a GeoMaxxer, I don't have a problem with going a long distance. :rolleyes:
 

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The closest I ever came to this was my boy drove to a Midwest state to see a girl from MySpace that ended up becoming a Miss America contestant, who we both fvcked, he stayed with her for a year or two and needless to say I don’t speak with him any longer. I would never in a million years put that kind of mileage in. I considered it once last summer when I was newly single and I decided to offer to fly her out. It never happened which kind of proved the Theory
 

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Hi Divorced w 3,
"....my boy drove to a Midwest state to see a girl from MySpace that ended up becoming a Miss America contestant, who we both fvcked "...well that's something I've never done,definitely worth a thread!
 

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3) If a woman gives you a green light, you better take it or else run the risk of her thinking you don't know how to lead her to sex or worse are afraid to.
It's like racing at the drag strip. Once the light turns green, if you ain't flooring that go pedal, you're done.
 

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Tag? That’s a first for me….
 

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Honestly, he could have just asked, and it probably would have been fine.

Make out, fool around and once things get really heated, just ask her “Did you want to….?”
A very long time ago during my first ever physical/sexual experience with a woman I actually did something very similar. I was a late bloomer in my 20s and had gone on a couple dates with a woman that was 19 or so. Anyway, I mentioned I was totally inexperienced and she didn't seem to judge me at the time. Sometime later we were hanging out at my place and we were watching a movie together sitting on my couch. She had little shorts on and a small top with the mid drift showing and I asked something like "You don't mind if I do this do you?" and I caressed her legs lol. It kind of makes me cringe and laugh at myself looking back on it but I was totally inexperienced at the time and felt it was the best way to go about this.

She later ended up rejecting me because I was inexperienced but it was a stepping stone and a good learning experience for me.
 
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