Mysterious_Learner
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Hello, guys. I have something that really bugs me that I want to talk about here.
There's this girl (17-18 years old), and a family friend of ours, who sounds like the type of girl that you guys constantly warn against - the type with one of the Cluster B personality disorders. I have a strong feeling that what she has specifically is the histrionic type. Let me list some of the behaviours she has exhibited in my presence, and I hope the experts here confirm to me whether or not she does based on what I state. She happens to be my brother's girlfriend, by the way.
* She is normally a very shy and quiet girl, with not much to say when in social gatherings. She is not always a big talker. But still she manages to catch the attention of every man (married or not) around her! And it's not her looks that does it (although she is above average in beauty) ... it's her body language! She walks and sits in a way that tells men that she's an innocent and shy virgin ready to be taken by any man willing to deflower her. There was one time (I was at her place sitting and socializing with her family) when she sat across from me, had her body faced towards me, slowly unbuckled the belt of her bathrobe, opened her robe slowly (in case you're wondering, no, she had extra clothes under the robe), and then caressed the belt of her robe in a sexually arousing way. All this to get my attention since I was not paying her much attention. It was very shocking to me. Her parents and grandmother were there, but I don't think any of them noticed what she was trying to do, or else she would have been in big trouble, espeically since her parents are fundamental Christians and they happen to be very protective of their children.
* Another time (when I was again at their place) I was helping her father out in something outside in the backyard. And she was inside the house. Then, suddenly, she approached us outside with a pissed look on her face (because she was not happy being alone inside) and she started to do very weird movements in front of us. Like walking in a macho but humorous way and throwing and kicking stuff on the ground. I look at her father to see his reaction, and I could tell that he was used to this behaviour from his daughter by the way that he tried to bore it with patience. It's as if he is already aware that there's something wrong with her. Anyway, what an extreme way to get attention!
* Also, there have been several times when she would come on to me (for no particular reason) and starts flirting strongly with me. Even in front of her parents and my brother (her boyfriend)! And, although I admit I find this all flattering, I knew very well that what she was doing was very inconsiderate and selfish. And even when I kept rejecting her advances in my responses to her, she'd still continue to flirt with me. She even hinted (in front of my brother) that I'd make a good husband to her! Plus she tried to find a way to get with me alone with her, which (funnily enough) led to my brother giving me the fierce look (instead of giving it to his girlfriend). In other words, she is one shameless flirt who doesn't give a damn about my brother's feelings.
* She is also very demanding and wants me to do silly and unnecessary favors for her. At first, I used to agree to do some of the favors for her because I used to stupidly think she was sincerely in need of help. But later on, I refused to do any of her favors and requests (since I figured out how insincere she could really be). Despite my rejections, she still manages to find an excuse to ask me to help her out in some things, like calling her boss for her and asking him if she should really go to work in her uniform!!!
* Despite the fact her Christian parents told her about how kissing before marriage is a sin, she actually once emailed my brother asking him to go pick her up from school as an excuse to be with her alone, suggesting they hold hands and kiss before going down. Now, while I know that my brother excitedly agreed to go pick her up from school, I don't know what they actually did after that, but the point is: as a Christian girl, she disrespected her parents and led my brother (who is also a Christian) to disrespect them also. They actually trust him a lot! If they knew what was actually going on, they'd be very pissed.
* And in case you haven't figured it out, my brother is the typical "nice guy". He has given all the power to that teenage girl and he does everything she tells him to. Keep in mind that she never orders him to do things for her. She just sweetly but mischievously manipulates him into doing stuff for her and he does it with joy. To be honest, she does do sweet things for him (like giving him a present on his birthday or getting him a free meal from her work when he goes topick her up from work) but it's never as much as he gives to her. He is hopelessly in love with her while she is simply just having some fun being in his company, ready to ditch him when the right opportunity arises.
* From what I know, she had a couple of secret boyfriends (if not more) before she got involved with my brother. I said secret because her parents don't know about it. And I wouldn't be surprised if she has a secret lover besides my brother! Oh, yes, one thing: I have another younger brother ... and guess what? They used to be in a special but secret relationship years ago. And although it was nothing sexual and serious, thank God he was smart enough to dump her.
* She has told my brothers and my sister stories about how she always gets bullied at school without ever telling them why exactly. She makes herself the victim and the everyone else at school the bad guys. She even told them once that she was knocked unconscious. But she fails to give details! I have a strong feeling she is making it all up. Typical of histrionic personality disorder people.
* She has no personality! It's empty! What I mean is ... she has no opinion of her own! It's always based on what others think. And when asked about why she "thinks" what she "thinks", she just gives me vague childish "explanations".
* I feel she is very influenced by me in many ways. I always notice her mimicking certain behaviours of mine. For example, I used to burp out loud in front of her and her family just to give 'em a few laughs. And most of the family did laugh. Yes, it's stupid, I know. I have stopped doing it after her father complained to me about it. Yet one time (after I had already stopped doing it) she burps out loud and then looks at me with a sneaky grin! Now this was a very silly example, but the point is ... she mimics my behaviour! She even roared once in front of me because I once did the roar thing with her once (just for fun).
* And while I have many other things to tell about her, let me end it here by saying that lately she acts as if she doesn't acknowledge me anymore, and I mean not even as a friend. And this is for no particular reason. Which has left me a bit disturbed and led me to type this post after doing research on borderline/histrionic personality disorders (having been influenced by some of the posts here in this forum about the cluster B girls). Seriously, I thank God that, while I do find her attractive, I'm not interested so much in her or else I would've been so attached to her to the point that I wouldn't be able to escape her trap. And if you want to know, my interest is in another girl (which explains my lack of interest in the girl of this topic).
Now, I want to know, can you clearly tell whether or not she has histrionic just by what I stated? And if so, should I let my brother know about this, knwoing that this could cause even greater tension between me and him (we don't get alone well, but I do care about him)? Or should I stay silent?
Thanks in advance for any answers posted in this thread.
There's this girl (17-18 years old), and a family friend of ours, who sounds like the type of girl that you guys constantly warn against - the type with one of the Cluster B personality disorders. I have a strong feeling that what she has specifically is the histrionic type. Let me list some of the behaviours she has exhibited in my presence, and I hope the experts here confirm to me whether or not she does based on what I state. She happens to be my brother's girlfriend, by the way.
* She is normally a very shy and quiet girl, with not much to say when in social gatherings. She is not always a big talker. But still she manages to catch the attention of every man (married or not) around her! And it's not her looks that does it (although she is above average in beauty) ... it's her body language! She walks and sits in a way that tells men that she's an innocent and shy virgin ready to be taken by any man willing to deflower her. There was one time (I was at her place sitting and socializing with her family) when she sat across from me, had her body faced towards me, slowly unbuckled the belt of her bathrobe, opened her robe slowly (in case you're wondering, no, she had extra clothes under the robe), and then caressed the belt of her robe in a sexually arousing way. All this to get my attention since I was not paying her much attention. It was very shocking to me. Her parents and grandmother were there, but I don't think any of them noticed what she was trying to do, or else she would have been in big trouble, espeically since her parents are fundamental Christians and they happen to be very protective of their children.
* Another time (when I was again at their place) I was helping her father out in something outside in the backyard. And she was inside the house. Then, suddenly, she approached us outside with a pissed look on her face (because she was not happy being alone inside) and she started to do very weird movements in front of us. Like walking in a macho but humorous way and throwing and kicking stuff on the ground. I look at her father to see his reaction, and I could tell that he was used to this behaviour from his daughter by the way that he tried to bore it with patience. It's as if he is already aware that there's something wrong with her. Anyway, what an extreme way to get attention!
* Also, there have been several times when she would come on to me (for no particular reason) and starts flirting strongly with me. Even in front of her parents and my brother (her boyfriend)! And, although I admit I find this all flattering, I knew very well that what she was doing was very inconsiderate and selfish. And even when I kept rejecting her advances in my responses to her, she'd still continue to flirt with me. She even hinted (in front of my brother) that I'd make a good husband to her! Plus she tried to find a way to get with me alone with her, which (funnily enough) led to my brother giving me the fierce look (instead of giving it to his girlfriend). In other words, she is one shameless flirt who doesn't give a damn about my brother's feelings.
* She is also very demanding and wants me to do silly and unnecessary favors for her. At first, I used to agree to do some of the favors for her because I used to stupidly think she was sincerely in need of help. But later on, I refused to do any of her favors and requests (since I figured out how insincere she could really be). Despite my rejections, she still manages to find an excuse to ask me to help her out in some things, like calling her boss for her and asking him if she should really go to work in her uniform!!!
* Despite the fact her Christian parents told her about how kissing before marriage is a sin, she actually once emailed my brother asking him to go pick her up from school as an excuse to be with her alone, suggesting they hold hands and kiss before going down. Now, while I know that my brother excitedly agreed to go pick her up from school, I don't know what they actually did after that, but the point is: as a Christian girl, she disrespected her parents and led my brother (who is also a Christian) to disrespect them also. They actually trust him a lot! If they knew what was actually going on, they'd be very pissed.
* And in case you haven't figured it out, my brother is the typical "nice guy". He has given all the power to that teenage girl and he does everything she tells him to. Keep in mind that she never orders him to do things for her. She just sweetly but mischievously manipulates him into doing stuff for her and he does it with joy. To be honest, she does do sweet things for him (like giving him a present on his birthday or getting him a free meal from her work when he goes topick her up from work) but it's never as much as he gives to her. He is hopelessly in love with her while she is simply just having some fun being in his company, ready to ditch him when the right opportunity arises.
* From what I know, she had a couple of secret boyfriends (if not more) before she got involved with my brother. I said secret because her parents don't know about it. And I wouldn't be surprised if she has a secret lover besides my brother! Oh, yes, one thing: I have another younger brother ... and guess what? They used to be in a special but secret relationship years ago. And although it was nothing sexual and serious, thank God he was smart enough to dump her.
* She has told my brothers and my sister stories about how she always gets bullied at school without ever telling them why exactly. She makes herself the victim and the everyone else at school the bad guys. She even told them once that she was knocked unconscious. But she fails to give details! I have a strong feeling she is making it all up. Typical of histrionic personality disorder people.
* She has no personality! It's empty! What I mean is ... she has no opinion of her own! It's always based on what others think. And when asked about why she "thinks" what she "thinks", she just gives me vague childish "explanations".
* I feel she is very influenced by me in many ways. I always notice her mimicking certain behaviours of mine. For example, I used to burp out loud in front of her and her family just to give 'em a few laughs. And most of the family did laugh. Yes, it's stupid, I know. I have stopped doing it after her father complained to me about it. Yet one time (after I had already stopped doing it) she burps out loud and then looks at me with a sneaky grin! Now this was a very silly example, but the point is ... she mimics my behaviour! She even roared once in front of me because I once did the roar thing with her once (just for fun).
* And while I have many other things to tell about her, let me end it here by saying that lately she acts as if she doesn't acknowledge me anymore, and I mean not even as a friend. And this is for no particular reason. Which has left me a bit disturbed and led me to type this post after doing research on borderline/histrionic personality disorders (having been influenced by some of the posts here in this forum about the cluster B girls). Seriously, I thank God that, while I do find her attractive, I'm not interested so much in her or else I would've been so attached to her to the point that I wouldn't be able to escape her trap. And if you want to know, my interest is in another girl (which explains my lack of interest in the girl of this topic).
Now, I want to know, can you clearly tell whether or not she has histrionic just by what I stated? And if so, should I let my brother know about this, knwoing that this could cause even greater tension between me and him (we don't get alone well, but I do care about him)? Or should I stay silent?
Thanks in advance for any answers posted in this thread.