Does anyone here go to Co-Dependents Anonymous meetings?

[Alvafe]

True, this isn't that kind of site which is probably why the OP didn't reply back lol.

Bottom line to me is men, just like all human beings, should be able to seek ways to feel better in anyway that works for them. On their own John Wayne style, talking to someone, writing it down whatever. If a guy thinks it's not helpful to talk to someone for help then don't. If some guy wants to talk to someone then do it.

There's enough bs we have to put up with from people as it is, telling us how we should be based on what they think is the ideal standard.

again and that is the problem, men don't like to talk, men don't write about it, that is a female thing, I find more easy to fix problems, playing video games then talking with others and writing I don't even waste my time trying better I punch a sandbag over and over to vent all my anger, that is what works for me, at most I notice too is men vent, blow steam, by watching sport games, drinking beer, doing sports, not siting in a place talking hoping to get pity from others, that is a female thing

till you undersdant that, I don't think you will help men and even less men here on this forum, men need to be in action, doing something, not talking or writing

 

[stovepipe]

You want some fvcking sad stories? Go to Online Gamers Anonymous and read some of the 5hit there. People (mostly guys) who are so fvcking addicted to online gaming that they abandon their families and neglect themselves, solely because they can't stop playing video games.

I was a gambler for a short amount of time in my younger years. Made one huge loss that changed my life forever. I learned from it and never gambled again after that. Once and a blue moon I'll play poker with friends for $20-40 then walk away if I lose it, or most times not even play, just watch from the sidelines.

Known many extreme gamblers in my time, one in particular I'll always remember. He took a few of us to Atlantic City one night on his dime. He would lose $1-2k per sitting like it was nothing. Thought he was wealthy from all the big talk he always spouted to us. Only to see him sneaking around the casino getting cash advances on his credit cards. He ended up losing $8k that night as a result got comped 4 star dinners and a penthouse sweet. I felt like a king that night all thanks to him losing. I later found out his wife left him due to his extreme gambling, lost his home, lost custody of his daughter, and was attending gamblers anonymous. Then he vanished, stopped answering calls, then phone # disconnected. Still till this day I have no idea what ever happened to him.

Had friends of friends who were $100k+ in debt with bookies. Worst story of them all is my uncle. He moved to Vegas back in the 80's to start a new life and gamble as he enjoyed it. Was gambling every paycheck away, bouncing around from motel to motel, sleeping with hookers, the city consumed him. His wife left him right after she gave birth to their daughter. He never met his own daughter up until she was 27. He asked me to go with him to see after she finally agreed to meet. He kept telling me on the way there how nervous he was to see her cause she always hated him and never wanted to meet him. We took a bus 7 hrs to meet her at a mall. She never smiled once, didn't seemed thrilled at all to see her dad for the first time. It was one of the most awkward situations ever. They chatted for 10mins and that was the last her ever heard from her. He basically gambled his life away for the past 40 years and still lives in Vegas.

Is there a meeting for everything these days? Did men forget their balls somewhere? Boy humanity is really heading down the crapper...

Meeting for everything like their is pills for everything. Humanity is heading down the crapper. My 2nd meeting was when I called it quits. There was about 8 men in their 30's-50's that were talking about how their wives control them. Some looked so scared to even talk about their wives. It was cringe worthy to listen to.

 

[AJ84]

again and that is the problem, men don't like to talk, men don't write about it, that is a female thing, I find more easy to fix problems, playing video games then talking with others and writing I don't even waste my time trying better I punch a sandbag over and over to vent all my anger, that is what works for me, at most I notice too is men vent, blow steam, by watching sport games, drinking beer, doing sports, not siting in a place talking hoping to get pity from others, that is a female thing

till you undersdant that, I don't think you will help men and even less men here on this forum, men need to be in action, doing something, not talking or writing

Again, I'm saying that men should seek help in whatever way they want to. Including not talking to anyone if that is NOT helpful.
You find it easier to fix problems playing video games. That's great. I'm NOT telling you NOT to do that lol. If some guy finds letting off steam at the gym works that's great, I'm not saying he's shouldn't do that. If not talking about it is preferred, then don't talk about it I'm not saying they should.

Do what works for you and another guy will do what works for them. Not all guys are the SAME (are they??) you can't speak for ALL men (can you?).

Jesus Murphy I'm out. I ran out of ways of explaining the same damn point.

 

[SteveSDCA]

Interesting.

In fact, when I think about it......there's a book called codependent no more by melody bettie or something. I remember a guy I knew
raving about the book (talking about a good 15 years ago)....got it from library and it was really good (apart from mentions of higher powers etc)

I remember something in it saying if you are codependent....you are like a leaf that gets blown in whatever direction depending on how the winds are blowing.....or something like that.

These meetings are on the same idea? What happens at the meetings?

I remember there's a lot to do with the art of detachment too no?

That book is what the CODA meetings followed for years.

 

[SteveSDCA]

Not acting like John Wayne is how men gave all their power away and got involved in these faggot azz feminine support groups.

Should men start going to the bathroom in groups too? You know women can't seem to handle that task without each other.

Have you ever read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? Men go to their cave to sort out their issues and return to center. They don't behave like women and announce their problems to anybody that will listen.

What you don't seem to get is the connection that urging men to act like women and seek out support does no good for them. It does nothing other than to turn them into women, and last I checked the weaker more feminine men really struggle with women. Lord knows we don't need more men depressed because they aren't good with women.

I once read an article on Shame and Men. One of the main points was Men are more afraid of being called a Pu$$y than almost anything else. One Man talked about being on a football team and showing fear during practice and his coach noticed. Of course his coach called him out as a Pu$$y in front of everyone else. He said he went on to use rage as a motivator from there on after. Both football and everything else. He became a successful businessman. He kept up with the Joneses and got married and had kids. In the interview he said after years of refusing to ever show his feelings again he ended up becoming an alcoholic and his wife left him. He admitted holding all of his feelings inside all those years made him act as an ******* to everyone including his family. Some Men are willing to use alcohol, drugs, gambling let alone commit suicide or become homeless before they dare show feelings in front of anyone. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.