Does A Guy's Height matter??? (merged threads)

[andy lee]

Does A Guy's Height matter???

I am a 20 yr old male who attends college.

I just want to know how much does a guy's height matter to a woman's interest level in him? Does it matter that a guy is couple inches taller than her, same height, or he is shorter than she?

or the height thing doesn't even matter at all.

I ask this because i'm 5'9" and a woman i'm really interested in is 5'5". I asked her out on a date and she refused, telling me i was a bit short for her. I never really thought about my height until she brought it up. I asked my friend this and he says it's one of the main things woman look for in a man.

I am a bit confused by this. So there is a height requirement men must meet before a woman can be REALLY interested in a man?

Please give me more insight, thanks

Andy

 

[DonDadda]

Andy,

Unfortunately most women do care about height, it supposedly gives them a sense of security. Most importantly they look at men as if they are potential fathers of their children and they seem to think that tall men come from a better gene pool. They seem to forget overlook every other trait men posess. This can be combated though, if you are tall in stature. Act as if. As if you are the tallest man on campus and you'll overcome a lot of that junk. You encounter some shallow broad like that, forget it about it, her loss. You just keep on doin your thing, and the chips will fall.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Height doesn't matter. If you're hot, you're hot.

 

[Master of the Universe]

Looks, height, money... all those are important BUT only to the extent that we are comparing two people who are like for like in most other ways.

However, an average looking guy with kick-ass DJ skills will win in most cases when going against another guy with who has the physical advantage.

A week or so ago I was at a club working on a 5'10" chick (without her shoes... she was wearing high heels which made her over 6' high). I'm 5'8" WITH my shoes on.

I had her trying to convince me that she wasn't too tall for me. Actually after working on her for a bit, I told her that I don't think it will work between us. She asked me why not, and I told her that she is too tall. She then spent the next couple of minutes trying to convince me that she wasn't; that it was actually her shoes.

And then I addressed her brother who was there, and he started trying to convince me that she and I made a good couple... only then did I finally "let her win me."

So, yeah looks and height are important. If you've got them, use them. If you don't, then improve your DJ skills.

Master of the Universe

P.S. If anyone's interested, let me know and I'll write a field report of the entire evening.

 

[One on One]

Like everything else, height matters, but it's not something you can't overcome with skills. 5'9" isn't that bad and won't mess you up with too many girls. As long as you are taller than the girl, most don't care. I'd consider this girl an exception. Luckily, I'm 6'3" and I don't have to worry about this stuff.

 

[Darkart]

5' 9" Too short for her at only 5' 5", I smell BS, 5-8 is average height, I think she just made that up.

 

[drZaius09]

Height won't solve all your problems.... I'm 6'2" and women are still repulsed by me.

Don't be fooled by those who say "DJ skills are all that matter." Under the right circumstances this is true; but under MOST circumstances, appearance (height, build, looks) matters more than anything else ever will. This argument has been done to death, so let's please not start another one.

 

[almost 30 swf]

that's BS

from a woman's POV, most women just want a man who's taller than they are. It USUSALLY doesn't matter how much taller. Just like most men DON'T want a woman who's taller than they are. there's always exceptions, but that seems to be the general rule.

Now if you have a woman who's TOO picky, and 5'9 is too short for her at 5'5, than you probably don't want to be with her anyway.

I'm 5'4 and I've dated men between 5'8 and 6'4, but I would date a man who was 5'5, as long as he weighed more than I do. ha ha

 

[CCB]

I'm 5'9 also and I have never rejected because of my height. I've seen planty, i mean PLANTY of shorter guys with GF's. Sounds like low interest to me.

 

[killerasp]

most people tend to expect the male to be the taller one. in that case, my girl would have to be no less than 4 inches shorter or taller than me. anything more would be lopsided.

 

[DoubleA]

Andy...

Don't sweat it. Believe me it's not worth hagling over. You are actually average height for a male. It sounds like to me she doesn't know if you're for her or not. Since you can't make up her mind for her...dead her. In the sense, stay friends but put her on the back burner.

Girls have a way of eating crow a minute after they say something totally different about what they won't do. Remember you are dealing with an emotional creature. Trust and believe in yourself man. I think she doesn't know what she wants...cause logic says you're still taller than her.

So like EPMD...So what she sayin?

 

[Player69]

Most girls want a guy that is taller then them, but hight is not the make all break all factor. Your attatude plays the biggest role. Subconsiously, hight seems to give most women a sense of securety. This can be out weighed if you are strong in character. A big guy who puts women on a pedastool will never do as good as a midget with balls. I bet more chicks find Minime on Austion Powers™ more attractive then some tall pansy who sucks up to them.

 

[thejuice]

haha! u guys have it easy...u guys are bytching about being 5'9". im 5'6" and thats pretty short. i use what i got. i dont think chicks care too much about height as long as ur taller than them. fortunately, i know a lot of hot chicks that are shorter than me so ive never had a problem w/ getting dates or a girlfriend. attitude matters more...has anybody ever wondered how david spade dates models? think about it...

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

living proof of opposite

I agree with DrZaius, as I'm 6'4" and have never gotten any action. What pisses me off is that my parents constantly harp to me that "girls go ga-ga over nice, tall men" as if that is the end-all be-all to attraction.
Granted, I'm still very much still learning the tricks of the trade. I've only really gotten one number so far, and right now I'd trade six inches of height for a year of steady pooty.

 

[Chemistry]

Don't worry... it's this one girl who brought it up

You say it's never caused you problems before, so why should it now, just because this one girl has brought it up...

It's basically preference... I know successful guys who range from 5'7 to whatever height. The most successful guy with the women that I know is indeed, 5'7"

If you can make these women feel interested in you in the convo and your actions, and your looks aid you in this too, then there is no reason why height is such a big thing... it's just a small part of the equation...

 

[Big-J]

I like how fast seduction brought this one up.

It's the means vs. the ends values. The means being the ideals, and the ends being why they want that.

Chicks want tall men because it makes them feel safe, secure, and protected. If your a short guy that can make them feel that way, they'll over look the tall factor. The same goes for money, etc... Means, ends.

However, the hard part is getting around that. There's always the shallow chicks that won't put up with anything but their ideals.

In my dealings, I've found this to be true. Anyone else find this?

 

[violator]

It appears that this girl is a bit too shallow and superficial if she thinks you are too short at 5-9 and she is 5-5. I know plenty of mack daddies who are 5-7 thorugh 5-10 who have an endless supply of women. I am 5-9, and some chicks think that I am a God.

I wouldn't sweat it. Most girls are perfectly fine with guys who are at least taller than them.

 

[Kwah]

Im 5'11" and I've never been called to short. Sometimes I feel short but its more due to my not wearing height increasing footwear while everyone else does.

 

[USSOCOM]

Master of The Universe, That conversation quote is money.

 

[DJinArizona]

In my experience, women who are too picky about a guy's height have insecurity issues and/or are too worried about what other people will think about them. I'm almost 30 and have noticed that women in their early to mid 20's make an issue of height, but women in their late 20's or early 30's don't care anymore because they've become secure with who they are. If a woman needs a tall guy to make her feel secure then it probably means she's not secure with herself and you don't want her anyway.

Last night I had an awesome date and a great time with a woman who's a bit taller than me (in shoes, anyway). She has a very successful career, graduate degree, things are going well in her life, etc. She couldn't care less about me being shorter. By contrast, my last gf didn't have her life very much together and had some issues. She's 5'5" and I saw an internet personal ad she's now running that says a guy must be at least 5'10" to date her. Insecurity at it's finest. (I'm 5'9" so whatever!!)