What makes you so understanding of the inner workings of women, besides the fact that you're a woman yourself?
Good question.
Lovely Lady is a woman whom has spent a great deal of time understanding herself and relationships,and the male/female dynamics. Far more than the average SoSuaver. She is indeed very well informed and quite capable of offering excellent insight into subjects like these. She has made deep observations derived from personal experience, and gained insight from others expereinces as well.
She is
very understanding of the subject matter.
I highly respect her insight.
As far as I know women don't even understand themselves especially when it comes to matters of the opposite sex. I know you won't agree with me but it's a fact.
Women know what they want as much as men do.
Which means that just like women, some men dont know who they are or what they want.
You're making a vast generalizaton about women, when it also applies to men as well.
Some men knowo what they want, some women do too.
This is a non point. Sorry.
While I may not agree with all of his concepts I must admit that Doc Love knows his stuff and is on target about 90% percent of the time. When I follow his advice things almost always goes well for me. What other explanation is there for that?
My take is that it
does work , but only because there are certain concepts that will work anyway. Regardless if it came from Doc Love's System or not.
I am sure that Lovely Lady is quite aware of the things that DO work to gain her interest and attraction in a romantic relationship.
Ultimately ALL of this comes down to Calibration.
How well one calibrates the 'tactics' comes down to your level of savvy and social adjustment, and of course, your ability to read the romantic interactions with a woman.
Saying a crass joke at the wrong time, or being unavailable at the wrong time, or calling too little are all examples of poor calibration to the woman's frequency, the way SHE relates to men, and wants to be related to.
You can follow a 'tactic' and have poor timing or not know how to use it in moderation and you've blown the opportunity.
I think you've been reading too far into something you don't understand therefore you developed some fantasy radar for "spotting" the men who use his system.
I believe Lovely Lady is doing nothing of the kind.
She is quite adept at 'understanding' the male/female sexual and romantic dynamic. Plus, she has the added insight of seeing it from a woman's point of view.
She simply has a knack for reading the material and finding areas of weakness when it comes down to dealing with healthy, high self esteem , full grown and mature women.
That she can 'spot' men using 'tactics' on her speaks on her ability to tune into men and assess their motives and level of skill and confidence.
In other words, she's no fool, and not easily duped. No matter how many 'tactics' you use or try to justify.
Just because a man shows a similiar attitude to his principles doesn't mean that he must be reading up on Doc Love.
OK, but no one has a monopoly on the truth. Principles are independent of owning. No one can own these principles.
What ultimately matters is the intent behind them ,and the character quality of the man.
Also Qualities such as over-sensitivity, insecurity etc. are actually contrary to his teachings.
They are. However, you're not seeing that much of the advice is geared for men whom do not have authentic self esteem and self confidence, who deal with high self esteem,healthy and mature women.
Doc Love's System is a good starting point for men who are not used to being assertive and making and following their own rules. It gives them a place to refer to because of their lack of experience with women.
Some of it applies really well, most of the time, some of it doesnt.
The dating world is never linear or logical to an extreme sense.
So there cant be an over dependence on any rigid system or method.
I just find it rather ironic that you highly disagree with him yet those men who have mastered his principles or are naturals at this game are the same men who you would respond positively to.
I believe she is actually disagreeing from the perspective of what
SHE values as being a fulfilling, deep, meaningful and intimate relationship.
So, yes, perhaps she does have higher standards than the women Doc Love may be geared to.
And considering that Lovely Lady has a sharp ability to detect insincerity and insecurity, she
wouldn't respond positively to a 'tactic' performed inauthentically by an insecure and insincere man.
In essence, she may respond to a tactic, but if it is performed
AS a 'tactic', and not an expression of a Man's true personality, there's probably not going to be a serious lasting effect on her.
I am sure that she's not disagreeing with the basic principles found in male/female romantic interactions.
women do feel better in the courtship ritual when done in
proper sequence at the end of the day. So I dont think she has a problem with being 'courted' properly. And yes, that may mean not having to be 'perfect'.
For sometimes when something is too perfect, it may also be mistrusted.
Everything you say is entirely subjective.
This also applies to
you.
You certainly do not represent
EVERY Man's personal experience/opinion in life.
If you "feel" that men should act accordingly to their own judgement then why don't you let your son do the same well?
I believe because her son is still too
young to make the most informed decisions on the subject.
I say give him the book and let him make his own decisions based on his (not your own) experience.
And you're entitled to your opinion. But it's
her son, not yours. And the young man has little 'experience' to draw from.
To sum up, my belief is that Doc Love's Sytem has value.
It
does address many issues and questions men have with regards to dating women.
It is not deep or as comprehensive. And it
is somewhat oversimplified.
BUT... it IS helpful to men.
It IS something that helps men get pointed into the right direction.
One can only hope that as the man matures and gains insight and experience, he begins to recognize his value and principles and gives consideraton to experience something more meaningful if he so chooses, because he now CAN.
The deep meaningful relationship with strong healthy bonding and intimacy is
Earned.
So as his skill grows, so may his sophisitication and desire for more information and new fulfilling experiences.
Ultimately the idea is to empower Men to have CHOICE with women.
And to buld the better life.
It is important to try to not be
bound to a rigid system, and pay attention to the principles behind them.
