Do you think their are pros and cons of dating a single mom or just cons?

[B80]

In my 20's had no interest prior to having kids myself. Slept with a few back then, including 1 who was still married but always had 0 intentions of it ever being more than fwbs.

Now I have kids, wouldn't put me off as like others said, likely to be more understanding, plus I'm really busy with other interests, so prefer once or twice a week for a few hours rather than more frequently than someone who I'd childless is more likely to demand.

Plus I don't want more children which I imagine the majority of childless women are likely to push for.

 

[metalwater]

I recall a single mom that more or less behaved like a slave. single mom with grown kids ok. with baby or babies naw...

obviously, if she is a widow, think about it differently unless she is the one that killed the guy...

 

[lost_blackbird]

I'm 48 and have no kids, no sympathy for children or any affinity with them apart
from my niece and nephew. To me they are mostly annoying little upstarts who would
9 times out of 10 really benefit from a bloody good thrashing, I especially include my
sisters son in that, he's a nightmare. My sister is a Police officer who amusingly works in
child protection so clearly he will never get the damn good spanking he deserves to teach
him some respect towards his elders and betters. Obviously in todays wokie woke woke world
that is an unpopular opinion, but I'll be damned if I'm going to change my mind on it, zero
discipline anywhere in their lives and absent fathers are a big reason why the kids in London are
running around stabbing each other to death all over the place. I was regularly given a damn
good hiding as a kid, by just about everybody, caned at school, belted by my father, grandfather
and mother as my autistic tendencies weren't seen as anything but bad behaviour back then in the
late 70's & early 80's. I'd be incompatible with someone who had kids purely because of my beliefs
which at my age doesn't really leave me much left to work with.

 

[SW15]

I honestly believe everyone would be happier if women found a good man to marry and have kids with, stay married, raise healthy and well adjusted children that grow into functional and respectable adult members of society. If this was more the norm, we wouldn't have threads about dating single moms, attention *****s, psycho women, etc. Women like this have always existed but going back not all that long ago they were the exception instead of the norm.

All of this is accurate.

single mom with grown kids ok.

Dating a woman with children over 18 is an interesting topic. They are technically single moms since they are moms but not typically what we associate with single motherhood. Dating a woman with children over 18 is no walk in the park either.

First off, women with children over 18 are not commonly seen in women under 40-45. If you're dating a woman with children over 18, you're dating a woman over 40 and likely one over 45. A lot of the men on this forum haven't turned 45 yet. Some of the ones that have would prefer to date substantially younger women.

When a man dates a woman in her 40s and beyond with adult children, he doesn't know if her children will be a nuisance. In the last 15-20 years, many 18+ children have had a stint living at home somewhere between ages 18-30. More Millennials (1982-1996) than not lived at home as adults, especially since a lot of Millennials graduated into poor economic conditions between 2008-2012. However, even before 2008, a lot of young adults were living at home. With late Gen X'ers (1977-1981 births), some had to live at home during the 2000-2002 dot com bubble bursting era. Additionally, the adult children of a single mom won't think much of the new man their mom is dating because he wasn't around for their formative years. Family gatherings feel quite forced, especially in situations where a single dad has his own adult children and the single mom has hers.

I'll end by saying that a lot of the ways of thinking about women over 40 and their kids are changing. In the next 5-7 years, there will be a wave of Millennials turning 40 and childless. Childlessness is common in the Millennial generation, so Millennial men turning 40 in the next 5-7 years will be more likely to be dating similarly aged Millennial women without kids.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Dating a single mom is fine, as long as she isn't expecting you to treat her like the mother of your children, which will be the expectation unless you set it.

You can date a single mother but don't bless one

 

[HaleyBaron]

I remember in college we kinda crashed a dance at our Student Union Building. It was all 18-20 year old girls. After dancing with a few of them we realized they were mostly Born Again Unwed Mothers. We beat a hasty retreat....

I will like to add, I never knew there were so many single 18-20 year old mothers until I met a 20 year old who actually has a kid. Then on Tinder, I run into also very young women who then have in their profile "I have a kid." Seriously?

 

[RickTheToad]

Pro - You can usually get a hotter female who's a single mom as most higher end dudes do not want to mess with that. Fine for a plate or if you already have a child or two.

Con - She's going to look to you for a possible replacement for her kids dad. Make sure she's on birth control or you are wearing a condom with lube inside so it doesn't break (been there before). If an accident happens, rest assured she will not abort the kido.

 

[SW15]

I will like to add, I never knew there were so many single 18-20 year old mothers until I met a 20 year old who actually has a kid. Then on Tinder, I run into also very young women who then have in their profile "I have a kid." Seriously?

I remember once when I was 21 being out in a bar on a Thursday night and meeting a 23 year old with a 3 year old. I was surprised.

 

[B80]

I remember once when I was 21 being out in a bar on a Thursday night and meeting a 23 year old with a 3 year old. I was surprised.

theres certainly a % of women out there who have kids between 16-20. usually low class or 'chavs' as we call them in the UK. so not totally unrealistic to come across them from time to time.

I get the impression single mums are not outcast as much as they have been 50 years ago. People quite happy to look after their kids, dads more likely to be around to a greater degree and not disappear without trace compared to previous generations, allowing them to still lead a reasonably active social life