Do you think that chicks that always seem to get men that have erectile issues are just plain ugly, thereby causing their men to underperform?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me interested:

I’m Only 36, and I Keep Having the Same Exact Problem With Men in Bed

I feel trapped.

slate.com

I’m a 36-year-old single straight woman, and I really didn’t think this was going to be an issue until later in life. I’m a very sexual person (just reading about sex in your column is enough to turn me on) and I’d like to get married one day, but for the past few years, I haven’t even been able to manage halfway decent sex, much less great sex or a relationship. The problem I keep experiencing in the dating world is the same: men with all kinds of erection issues.

The most recent guy could get hard but would lose it after a few thrusts, saying sex doesn’t do it for him these days (he preferred mutual masturbation or blow jobs). Guy No. 2 was good in bed but refused any touching outside of that 20 minutes. Guy No. 3 required 20 minutes of me going down on his flaccid penis before possibly getting hard enough to have intercourse for three minutes (most of the time, he wouldn’t get hard at all). Guy No. 4 hadn’t had sex in years so he’d either come in 30 seconds or he’d stick it in and barely move so he could last five minutes (I could have worked with him sexually, but we broke up for other reasons). Guy No. 5 completely ignored his problem, continuing to thrust even after I told him he was soft (I suspect he had a porn addiction).

My opinion: If I have a very sexy young maiden naked ready for me to put it in, I don't have issues. I suspect this chick is fat, and the thirsty men that she gets realize just how disgusting she is, and their hormones are telling them ... NO!

 

[Xenom0rph]

I actually kinda believe her.

A lot of guys these days are overdosing on porn and this has been shown to affect endorphin levels.

Guys are so used to jerking off that when they do have a woman in front of them they can't keep an erection.

Also the average testosterone levels of this generation of men is less than our forefathers (due to environmental factors such as xenoestrogens found in plastic) and we can understand why so many guys are having erection issues.

I won't deny that I myself have had performance issues even when I was with a smoking hot woman.

When a you're sitting in front of a computer beating off to porn, it's easy to maintain an erection because you're sitting down and there is no physical exertion other than wacking your hand...

But when you're actually having sex with thick booty h0e, you're basically contorting your body in all sorts of weird positions. And as a man, you're expected to do all the work.

So it's difficult to keep the blood flow in your c0ck when you're having to contort your body in an awkward position while also thrusting your hips.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some of em might be very masculine, but also not too easy on the eyes. So it's not alot to trigger an erection in the first place. Imagine if she asks you questions, with a deep or raspy voice?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yup this is a real problem these days and why if a man takes the time to learn how to be a rockstar in the bedroom you will be a highly sought after commodity...

Mediocre sex is considered great sex these days and terrible sex is considered the norm. If they actually get a man who is a great in bed they likely have never experienced it before and don't even have anything to compare it to...

Woman will literally be shocked and will say things like "I had no idea sex could be this amazing!" or "I can't believe you taught me things about my own body that I never knew! No man has ever done that before!" and any countless number of other things I have heard them say excited like a 5 year old little girl that just got $20 to go spend in a giant candy store.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Look this up. On Average men last 5-7 minutes.
This article is no surprise. Its what a lot of women deal with

Omg that is a joke....45 mins is pretty much my worst performance...best would be hours and multiple rounds with a few minute rest in between...no wonder why women are so amazed amd ask me things like "are you human?"

 

[Hal9000]

Its totally the porn thing. Once you get used to the only time you get off being when you are sitting back, doing nothing with your rough dry hand doing all the work it becomes very difficult to actually stay hard when you're having to actually be up and moving around doing the hard physical work that good sex usually involves. This also explains why so many men have premature ejaculation issues. When youre used to doing it yourself, a hot wet female can be too much to bare. I hear these complaints from women all the time. Believe it or not there are men who can get off with a limp cvck. Who knew?

A female once told me that "women are like floors, lay them right the first time and you can walk over them forever". Words to live by gentlemen. Stop jerking off so damn much.

 

[Lookatu]

I actually kinda believe her.

A lot of guys these days are overdosing on porn and this has been shown to affect endorphin levels.

Guys are so used to jerking off that when they do have a woman in front of them they can't keep an erection.

Also the average testosterone levels of this generation of men is less than our forefathers (due to environmental factors such as xenoestrogens found in plastic) and we can understand why so many guys are having erection issues.

I won't deny that I myself have had performance issues even when I was with a smoking hot woman.

When a you're sitting in front of a computer beating off to porn, it's easy to maintain an erection because you're sitting down and there is no physical exertion other than wacking your hand...

But when you're actually having sex with thick booty h0e, you're basically contorting your body in all sorts of weird positions. And as a man, you're expected to do all the work.

So it's difficult to keep the blood flow in your c0ck when you're having to contort your body in an awkward position while also thrusting your hips.

I agree with this.

Internet Porn, Too much fapping, Not exercising or eating right are big components.

I think the other aspect is some guys simply can't get comfortable enough to perform when they are so obsessed in getting laid on the first or second date. For some, this doesn't put them at ease enough and they are still nervous or have high anxiety.

There is also a thing about sexual compatibility where sex can be great with one gal but not with another, even though she looks better.

I know it happens to good looking girls too as I've had many tell me all the ED problems they would encounter with previous guys.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Boner strength and beer goggle strength are inversely proportional.

BS = -BGS;

BGS = -BS

 

[Xenom0rph]

I've had situations where I was with a smoking hot female and yet I couldn't keep myself hard enough to slip on a condom... yes, it was quite embarrassing for me.

And I also get the feeling that she took offense that I couldn't get hard.

It got so bad that she even said "what's wrong?" and I had to ask her to keep blowing me until I can get it hard enough to slip the condom on.

Once the condom was on, the next challenge was to keep myself hard enough to keep porking her from behind.

Roughly every 30 seconds I would have to pull out and jerk myself off to get hard again.

The sex was pretty bad. A few days later she texted me and said she had a "great time" (yeah, right) but she wanted to slow things down..... that's her polite way of saying "get lost you limp c0ck bastard..."

The relationship went cold after that....

Ever since then I've made a conscious effort that if I know I'm about to get some that I need to pop some Tadalafil (generic Cialis) to make sure I avoid the embarrassment.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't write the stats but they are out there to look up
I think 45 mins is a bit over kill but multiple Os is a good goal to want to give your partners

I just have found that once I resolve that initial urge to cvm and get past it that it becomes extraordinarily hard for me to cvm and then I just focus on giving them an experience they won't forget haha

 

[Lookatu]

I've had situations where I was with a smoking hot female and yet I couldn't keep myself hard enough to slip on a condom... yes, it was quite embarrassing for me.

The sex was pretty bad. A few days later she texted me and said she had a "great time" (yeah, right) but she wanted to slow things down..... that's her polite way of saying "get lost you limp c0ck bastard..."

The relationship went cold after that....

Been there too brother. That's why I separate out looks with sexual compatibility. Just because someone looks good, doesn't necessarily guarantee sexual compatibility.

 

[Lookatu]

I just have found that once I resolve that initial urge to cvm and get past it that it becomes extraordinarily hard for me to cvm and then I just focus on giving them an experience they won't forget haha

Exactly the same as me!
I think it's called edging technique to train yourself to refrain from cvmming fast.
I never did this but for me, it was the fleshlight that I tried that desensitized me just enough to go as long as I want while still feeling pleasure but not too much pleasure where I feel like cvmming. I can pretty much completely control when I cvm now.
I DO NOT recommend any kind of fleshlight devices be used for a long time if you want to keep your erection. I feel it can do more harm than good. I just got lucky that I was able to regain just enough sensation again to stay erect.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Been there too brother. That's why I separate out looks with sexual compatibility. Just because someone looks good, doesn't necessarily guarantee sexual compatibility.

Not at all. Whats more important is their aura and how they act around you if that part is compatable. Looks are an additional icing on the cake, like a custom paint job and rims on that same car.

 

[Zontyy]

My last ex it was great lasted 30-40 minutes. I sometimes have sex with my baby’s mother, some reason with her I am only lasting 10 minutes tops. I haven’t been able to pinpoint why I finish so quickly with her and not others.

I just ordered some viagra and dapoxetine to use with her in the future.

 

[Lookatu]

My last ex it was great lasted 30-40 minutes. I sometimes have sex with my baby’s mother, some reason with her I am only lasting 10 minutes tops. I haven’t been able to pinpoint why I finish so quickly with her and not others.

I just ordered some viagra and dapoxetine to use with her in the future.

Nothing wrong with that IMO. This goes back to sexual compatibility. We just have more of it with some than others.
Case in point, my current plate, we are at it on the average of 2-3 hours. As old as I am, she makes me feel like a horny 18yo and she gets me excited without doing anything to me. This past weekend, we went at it close to 8 hours within a 24 hour period. That's even nuts for me and I was frankly surprised at it too.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

It’s a thing. Porn and fapping doesn’t help...aging doesn’t help...blue vitamins may not overcome whiskey d!ck in some cases...

And if a man drinks too much or parties too much he’s going to have issues with whiskey d!ck too...and he may get frustrated with his own performance and therefore have performance anxiety...

No bueno.

Edging is good, regular sex with actual women will help...drinking less will help...Morning sex is more likely to have strong erection etc.

Just some thoughts. I’ve seen performance vary from spectacular to ho hum within a LTR where attraction was off the chain based on the criteria noted above...

Having an understanding partner when a guy has a hiccup in the erection department is also a good thing....

 

[mrgoodstuff]

My last ex it was great lasted 30-40 minutes. I sometimes have sex with my baby’s mother, some reason with her I am only lasting 10 minutes tops. I haven’t been able to pinpoint why I finish so quickly with her and not others.

I just ordered some viagra and dapoxetine to use with her in the future.

Some of them actually do have "good pvssy". It's the juices, pheremones, textures, how the vagina responds to you, the mental effect. There really is a such thing.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nothing wrong with that IMO. This goes back to sexual compatibility. We just have more of it with some than others.
Case in point, my current plate, we are at it on the average of 2-3 hours. As old as I am, she makes me feel like a horny 18yo and she gets me excited without doing anything to me. This past weekend, we went at it close to 8 hours within a 24 hour period. That's even nuts for me and I was frankly surprised at it too.

Yessir. How does the rest of your life feel with her in it?

 

[ComeOnMan]

Yep. If the girl is hot and submissive i can go back to back nonstop. If she a 7 she has to suck me again after i finish

 

[MatureDJ]

When a you're sitting in front of a computer beating off to porn, it's easy to maintain an erection because you're sitting down and there is no physical exertion other than wacking your hand...

But when you're actually having sex with thick booty h0e, you're basically contorting your body in all sorts of weird positions. And as a man, you're expected to do all the work.

So it's difficult to keep the blood flow in your c0ck when you're having to contort your body in an awkward position while also thrusting your hips.

This is why I like to spoon; it's like the sidestroke of sex. And the topography of the member has a curvature in the opposite direction of the canal, so there's more internal contact.