Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
This subject always sticks in my craw a bit. I don't even know what a craw is, but it feels stuck.
When a man asks a woman out, he pays. What many fail to realize is that paying establishes dominance. You look weak and classless when you vacillate on paying. A man takes charge and pays for the woman who is considering being with him.
Now having said that, it's important after a relationship has been established that you mention (in casual conversation) how you appreciate when a woman pays once in a while, a woman who is willing to "invest" in her relationship in whatever way she can.
If she has class, she will occasionally offer to pay for this or that, and you should accept.
The bottom line is that relationships aren't fair and equal. The man pays because he is the dominant protector and he establishes that by taking care of her. Don't forget, while women have all the power when a relationship is just barely starting out, she is destined to completely submit to you and lose much of that power. The price of her submission and giving herself to you, gentlemen, is that you tickle her where it counts by showing a capacity and willingness to ensure survival.
You are paying a few dollars here and there, and she will be paying her entire life and devotion to you. A fair trade, if you ask me.
Fair in the sense of dollars and cents? No, but fair in the eventual payoff. When a woman submits to you, it is the greatest thing in the world. Does your gut tell you that she will want to submit to a man who is bartering over a few dollars here and there? Or does it tell you that she will submit to a man who simply takes care of business with no payback expected?
You are the one who is resourceful. You are the one who dominates. She is the one who submits to a man who steps up, takes care of business, and doesn't fret about who pays for the first date. You ask her out, you pay. Simple.
Sometimes you just have to look at things as "This is just the way it works", without a concept of fairness. Look down the road for the potential payoff of her devotion to you.
If you ask out a woman who incites a sense of "We should both pay", you are absolutely with the wrong girl. Most men will have no problem paying for a date with a pleasant, feminine and friendly woman.
Remember Anti-Dump? You should only be going out with women who have expressed intense interest in you.
Finally, dinner dates or other expensive dates are never a good idea at first, as many have mentioned. Simple action dates like mini-golf, antiquing, disk golf, any fun activity are the way to go. Buy her a light lunch or a light dinner. It won't kill you and it will establish strength, character and dominance.
My .02.
When a man asks a woman out, he pays. What many fail to realize is that paying establishes dominance. You look weak and classless when you vacillate on paying. A man takes charge and pays for the woman who is considering being with him.
Now having said that, it's important after a relationship has been established that you mention (in casual conversation) how you appreciate when a woman pays once in a while, a woman who is willing to "invest" in her relationship in whatever way she can.
If she has class, she will occasionally offer to pay for this or that, and you should accept.
The bottom line is that relationships aren't fair and equal. The man pays because he is the dominant protector and he establishes that by taking care of her. Don't forget, while women have all the power when a relationship is just barely starting out, she is destined to completely submit to you and lose much of that power. The price of her submission and giving herself to you, gentlemen, is that you tickle her where it counts by showing a capacity and willingness to ensure survival.
You are paying a few dollars here and there, and she will be paying her entire life and devotion to you. A fair trade, if you ask me.
Fair in the sense of dollars and cents? No, but fair in the eventual payoff. When a woman submits to you, it is the greatest thing in the world. Does your gut tell you that she will want to submit to a man who is bartering over a few dollars here and there? Or does it tell you that she will submit to a man who simply takes care of business with no payback expected?
You are the one who is resourceful. You are the one who dominates. She is the one who submits to a man who steps up, takes care of business, and doesn't fret about who pays for the first date. You ask her out, you pay. Simple.
Sometimes you just have to look at things as "This is just the way it works", without a concept of fairness. Look down the road for the potential payoff of her devotion to you.
If you ask out a woman who incites a sense of "We should both pay", you are absolutely with the wrong girl. Most men will have no problem paying for a date with a pleasant, feminine and friendly woman.
Remember Anti-Dump? You should only be going out with women who have expressed intense interest in you.
Finally, dinner dates or other expensive dates are never a good idea at first, as many have mentioned. Simple action dates like mini-golf, antiquing, disk golf, any fun activity are the way to go. Buy her a light lunch or a light dinner. It won't kill you and it will establish strength, character and dominance.
My .02.