To the OP and others who are on the verge of saying F it, life is too good to do that to yourselves. Life being the key word here. I've avoided a lot in my past because I didn't want to deal with the BS. I'm beginning to believe people prefer being boring and living humdrum. No one wants to move forward for fear of being ridiculed for their efforts. What a damn shame.
We don't live in a society with enough supportive people to see dreams come to fruition. Could you imagine a world like that? A world where everyone would enjoy what they're doing because they're actually doing what they're enjoying? That's an ideal world for me, but a pipe dream nonetheless.
To donnyjondeppjuando, I'm battling with Aspergers/HFA as well. It's crippling without a doubt. I was treated rotten in my youth because of my poor socialization skills. Things got better there over time as I was rather talented (musician), which saved my arse in some respects. I still have trouble with eye contact, which lessens my awareness of being able to notice if a woman is showing interest in me or not.
My two cents suggests that instead of giving up, that you work on your goals and let things fall into place. The women will follow. There's no sense in chasing skirts until you're in a better frame of mind about yourself. You'd only be a burden to the woman because eventually your insecurities will show through once she gets to know you more. As you get involved with achieving your goals, if a woman decides to leave you, you won't be as concerned. She'll pretty much just be there for the ride. I'm sure you'll be able to pick another one up along the way because, once again, you'll be in a better frame of mind.
Bob Parsons of GoDaddy fame has a list entitled "
16 Rules for Success". One of the rules I remember best was "
When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think." I believe this to be true. I've done things in the past that if I had kept moving forward, they would have turned into something worthwhile and profitable. But I gave up too soon.
The problem with depression is that you're always looking at how far out of reach things are or that you feel you're not up to snuff (poor appearance, bad looks, awkward movements, etc). Truthfully, the bad things you say about yourself may not be as bad as you think to others. For instance, I'm always putting myself down look wise, but others have pointed out to me that I'm rather attractive and that hot looking chicks would glance at me while I was looking elsewhere or in 'tunnel vision' mode.
In closing, giving up is the easiest thing to do. What you get in return for it though will always leave you with regret. Yes, women are a pain, but it's better to at least try and make an effort with them than to live a life of wondering 'what if'.
Xanthus
