It's contrary to the idea of YOU being the prize and HER having to sacrifice HER time to be with YOU.
A lot of the DJ sayings are made to give you confidence. Of course everything comes down to the woman. We are still slaves to the almighty poon no matter how we try. DJing is just a way to increase our chances of getting some. We can try every DJ tactic and have it execute perfectly, yet she can still turn us down. We can get naked and then she decides not to and goes off. You are stuck there with only you and your unused penis.
The key is really not to literally follow that advice. In fact, I recommend taking everything in the DJ Bible with a few grains of salt. Some of the DJ methods like neghits are just complete wastes of time and almost sure-fail.
I'm tired of being mediocre at everything I do. I'm tired of trying time and time again just to be stifled by my nature or my circumstances.
I'll be blunt.
You will never be the best at something. Sometimes it may even be DJing. Hell, often times after weight lifting, I have doubts on any progress. I noticed a lot of progress in the first month or so but the remaining two months, I've seen little to no growth in any of my lifting. I get down at that but I realized one thing:
Change is eventual. I hate how I'm not seeing any results. However I feel that in a year from now I will look like a whole new person. I will not be fat or even overweight. I want to be a man who has big (not huge) muscles, a six pack, and a bench of at least 275 pounds and do at least 5 reps with it. I seriously believe this is possible in a years' time. If not, I want to be as close to that goal as possible.
However its not going to be overnight.
I get that feeling too of mediocrity. Yes, I get turned down by women. Yes, I feel that physically I am about a C- if I were to get graded. However you have to take the time to turn that C- to an A+
I'm starting to doubt I was ever built for this.
Doubting is the first step towards failure if you ask me. Even if you're not as good as one person, if you try hard enough and see good enough results, you should be happy. If you're talking about girls, some people I know who are DJs or close to them that have the same behavior since they were 6, ie a DJ behavior. However some of us have been tainted by feminized values and must try to undo years of damage. 10+ years of damage cannot get undone in just 6 months. Hell, it may take another 10 years to see that change. Maybe 5. Maybe 6 months from this post. You have to keep trying. Its better to try and fail than to never try in the first place.
THAT's what I'm afraid of...that I'll end up mediocre.
So let me get this straight...your solution is to give up? If this is your only way out, don't let the door hit you on your ass on the way out of here.
that the most I'll be able to achieve is less than I want and I'll have to "settle" for a hollow victory.
Nobody ever gets to 100% of their dream unless its a really low dream. At age 6, you see so many kids wanting to be astronauts, doctors, and presidents but how many actually make it there? Less than 1%. Most people eventually just realize that their fantasy isn't reality and "settle" for construction workers, retail managers, and cubicle jockeys. Some hate it and others accept it and make the most out of it. Then they do really good at their job and make so much money that it all comes out well for them in the end. Meanwhile the disgruntled workers stay at their entry level positions or the default raises and become bitter, hating life by 50.
I just don't know how to deal with it right now
Take time off from this site is my recommendation. During this time off, do some more self reflecting and try to eliminate these doubts. Think of what you have accomplished. Write down a list of baby step goals that are achievable. Hit the DJ Bible and read every word. Go to malls and just say hi to everyone. Then move up at your pace. Don't let anyone affect your pacing. We all hear stories of people that go from DFC to DJ in a matter of weeks but if you're not comfortable at that pacing, then go as what you want. You will find yourself a better person in the end.
