zekko said:
One thing I really disagree with on this forum is the notion that women are the way they are because nice guys supplicate to them. That has its effect, but the players are just as bad at driving women's value up.
I know a fairly average looking girl at work. There are several "big stud" natural player types who hit on any decent girl and try to get in her pants. Good looking guys, supposedly. So this girl thinks that because this good looking guy hits on her, that's the quality of looks she should be getting. It doesn't matter that the guy would simply consider her a disposable lay, he hits on her, therefore that makes her desireable. This is a big part of what drives women's sense of entitlement. Everyone wants to get into her pants to get that golden pvssy.
Agreed! Also, sites like PoF and FB. Most people get big heads because their perceptions dont match reality. A lot of average girls are viewed as easy and desperate, so guys prey on them for a quick ****. Of course they charm them and tell them theyre beautiful and sexy - as part of their game. Hence, all the fatty losers complaining about being used for sex, and boasting about all these people who think theyre hot. Theyre LYING to them to get sex - since the guys figure these girls cant get ****. Remember that most players and jerks are predators who target the weak, unknowing, desperate, of low self esteem, etc - then go in, get what they want, and leave. It means nothing beyond that, and a lot of guys dont car who they ****. They also know they probably dont guys like that on the regular, which makes it that much easier.
So now, these girls think they can get hotties, but havent found the right one. This is where the delusion and expectation begins. Truth is, they were decent enough to ****, and were fed BS to make it happen. Thats all.
I dont know if this delusion ever leaves them, either. They tend to settle with an average guy (much like themselves) because they believe all good looking guys are jerks and players - when they never wanted them beyond sex in the first place. Most of them NEVER got into a real relationship with a good looking guy, and are still waiting for Mr Right (see: nasty *****es on PoF). Theyll also make up excuses like emotional unavailability, fear, distrust, etc - when theyre simply not that attractive or desirable.
Oh well. Its best to not care about what other people are doing with their lives. Losers will always be in denial, look down on others, not view themselves as losers, etc. Thats their own problem. Let them be delusional, and believe to better and more attractive / deserving than they think they are.
Female players and jerks do the same thing to guys, by the way - hence why they get used, manipulated, put down, strung along, flaked on, etc. Learn the difference between genuine interest and a player / ***** who's just using you because youre easy prey with no self esteem or romantic life. They hone in on, and exploit this ****.
