Do women stare at good looking guys?

[JdelaSilviera]

What´s your take on this? It would seem pretty obvious that they do, since we do the same, but on the other side their behavior is strange many times. Also I´ve been many times with guys that are considered super good looking, and I don´t see women staring at them.

For good looking guys here, when you walk down the street you see lots of women looking at you?

thanks

 

[Uncharted]

Not on NYC streets as most women on the street are full of themselves, but definitely in more intimate areas like coffee shops, classes, stuff like that.

For example, I have a 3 hour class every Sunday. I caught this chick staring at me about 5 times yesterday. Too bad she's not that hot.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Thanks uncharted, one think to note is that women are also more concerned in comparing themselves with other women..

 

[yyc12]

Based on what my female friends say and do, NO they don't stare at good looking guys. They do check him out though. They're very stealth about it. Women take lots of pride in being able to check a guy out without being obvious about it; which is kinda stupid if you ask me, lol. I'm sure i'm not the only one but I'd love to have someone let me know they're checking me out. Cuts my work in half.

It's human nature to project the way we see things onto everyone else. Most women hate being checked out/stared at; they think it's creepy so naturally they project this onto men as well. They think we also think its creepy to be stared at so they hide it.

 

[Uncharted]

Yes I'll have to agree - it's not that they are staring. You can feel them looking at you though. And sometimes if you look at them they try to catch your eyes and look away.

And I don't consider myself Brad Pitt either.

 

[NobodyCares1]

No they usually don't, I mean I sometimes notice a strange girl looking at me and smiling as she passes me by. It happened a couple of times that I didn't notice a girl looking at me, just my friend told me that she was looking at me.

But it's not really that often. I sometimes notice girls in my classes looking at me so I'd say that some girls do stare and some don't, or not so obviously.

 

[Deep Dish]

yyc12:
Based on what my female friends say and do, NO they don't stare at good looking guys. They do check him out though. They're very stealth about it. Women take lots of pride in being able to check a guy out without being obvious about it; which is kinda stupid if you ask me, lol. I'm sure i'm not the only one but I'd love to have someone let me know they're checking me out. Cuts my work in half.

It's human nature to project the way we see things onto everyone else. Most women hate being checked out/stared at; they think it's creepy so naturally they project this onto men as well. They think we also think its creepy to be stared at so they hide it.

Agreed, but there are two more explanations:

1. They are mortified of rejection. Women's primary mode of communication is indirect and subtextual.
2. Maybe they are occupied with their plates.

 

[pdx1138]

They definitely will check you out and multiple times at that if they are attracted to you. Some DJ referred to it as "the siren." As in their head moves to check you out multiple times like those circling lights on police cars.

I was having dinner with my best friend last saturday and this girl (with her date) kept checking me out. Fun stuff.

 

[nismo-4]

I wouldn't so much as say stare, I'd say they check you out. Speaking from experience. And I'm not a male model at all.

In New Orleans, this normally happens. In Atlanta, most women think they're real housewives/ stars in a Tyler Perry movie. (Princess syndrome)

They'll pay more attention to them but most won't get caught caught checking them out.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I consider myself to be good looking. I'm 6'2'', about 171lbs, with dark brown hair, and in good shape.

HOWEVER, it all has to do with how I'm feeling about myself. If I'm feeling insecure or awkwardly out of place, girls avoid me like I have herpes. But If I'm out on a date and I'm really enjoying myself and the girl I'm with, girls stare hard. In fact, I've only ever really noticed it when I'm out with another girl. Other than that, It's 50/50 when I'm alone or with a guy friend.

 

[Bossman90]

Yes, I get stared at all the time in the library at my college.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

I consider myself to be good looking. I'm 6'2'', about 171lbs, with dark brown hair, and in good shape.

HOWEVER, it all has to do with how I'm feeling about myself. If I'm feeling insecure or awkwardly out of place, girls avoid me like I have herpes. But If I'm out on a date and I'm really enjoying myself and the girl I'm with, girls stare hard. In fact, I've only ever really noticed it when I'm out with another girl. Other than that, It's 50/50 when I'm alone or with a guy friend.

Yep, I don´t know if it is the clothes or hair cut.. but somedays I get almost every women who walks by me doing eye contact, and other it´s like I´m an invisible man. Still haven´t figured it out what is going...

 

[Darth]

Yes.

Not to brag (I know I'm sounding like an arrogant *******), but I was walking down streets of a major city this morning and early afternoon and got loads of head turns, lots of pawing at the hair, etc. Even the tall blonde super-hot types. Regardless of their appearance and regardless if they were in a boyfriend's hand (the reason is that masculine energy attracts all women regardless of appearance because it does not care about approval, only power). Often they would do a double take and slow down or stop in front of me to "check" their phone. I was with my buddy at the time. There was one girl holding hands with her boyfriend which really jumped out at me because we were heading towards each other on the intersection. I wasn't looking at her, I was looking straight ahead, but maybe she could sense the power or something. Anyway, I watch her from the corner of my eye and she just melts. Gets those bedroom eyes and that smile which is not a sweet smile but a naughty smile. Hmm. I did not smile back, I thought, "Good luck dude," to the guy she was with because she clearly didn't have her mind on him.

I also complimented a girl who I'd rate a solid 8.5 if not 9 on her scarf on the train btw even though I'm not doing the official challenge. She was sitting across from me so I had to do it I said "That's a very pretty scarf" which is exactly what I was thinking.

If anything, I have noticed that the less hot girls will be ruder or show less interest. Like they will snap their head quickly to the other side and pretend not to see me as they are quickly watching past me. But then as I am passing them I'll see even their eyes float over and the hand go to the hair, so it gives them away. The very hot ones ironically do the full-on stares most often. Weird.

Girls can be extremely subtle in showing interest, or not. Depends on the girl IMO.

 

[yuppaz]

I would say that I am a male version of an 8. I'm very fit, handsome but average height, not tall and have more of a baby face then the masculine face (but I'll beat your ass pretty quick if you underestimate me (hahaha). So I'm representing those of us that look like me..hahaha

I rarely get open stares, but if dressed well and out with a good crowd I do on occasion. Mostly women are very coy. If you turn your head quickly you can catch them checking you out and they will turn away. I out with a girl they stare more openly. If out with my girlfriend they stare wide eyed and get their friends to look.

 

[Purefilth]

Yes

 

[goundra]

if she does stare, she's REALLY into you, so watch for it.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Hot chicks ALWAYS stare at me. It's so they can give an accurate description to the police sketch artist.

 

[SteR]

I was actually very reluctant to post in this thread since there's a fear of coming across as arrogant.

However, disregarding my opinion of myself, I can mention what I've experienced: First off, I'm probably the stereotypical 'tall, dark and handsome' (6'3, 220 - ~10% bf with very dark hair/features). I've been stopped in bars/clubs and told I'm handsome. I've overheard girls talking around me telling their friends I'm handsome and I have been asked to model before (although I was told I'm probably physically too big), so I guess you could say I'm a good looking guy. Bear in mind my childhood was the complete opposite - I was ugly, fat and bullied about my appearance so in a way I view it as divine justice that things have panned out as they have.

Anyway in answer to OP's question: Yes. Girls do stare. During the day it's a little more subtle since girls are quite good at staring when you're not aware of it.. however it's the bar/club scene that you'll really notice it due to alcohol and the lack of inhibitions.

I think brad nailed it above though - it doesn't make it any easier getting the girls you want. All it does is get your foot in the door. If you and the girl don't click then looks don't mean a thing and most of the time you're getting attention from girls you really don't want it from. I've also found that girls will make assumptions on your character ie. a player etc which ironically I wouldn't say I am at all.. I'm extremely fussy about who I get involved with.

 

[Darth]

I was... bullied about my appearance so in a way I view it as divine justice that things have panned out as they have.

Me too, friend. God's way of leveling the playing field, LOL

 

[SteR]

Me too, friend. God's way of leveling the playing field, LOL

In all honesty, I did feel quite bitter as a young kid because girls consistently ignored me - it was incredibly painful to be a teenager and have girls giving your friends all the attention etc while you're not even acknowledged.

It certainly makes me appreciate every time I get a positive reaction from a girl nowadays. It some ways it does make me a little annoyed at how fickle girls can be.. but then again men are no different. If a girl is fat and unattractive then they'll probably get the same response. I guess it just shows that you have to work hard at improving yourself and the opposite sex will take note..

Oh and one other thing I'll say to the younger guys.. don't worry if you don't get that much attention in your early twenties. I've found that as I'm approaching 30 that my features have become more masculine and there's a notable difference to how women respond.. so keep your chins up.