Do women go on vacation looking for sex?!

[Truman181]

Seems like this thread was resurrected due to another fellow DJ that is going through the same situation, although from the looks of things its a still too early to tell if she will fvck or not and whether she chooses to spill the beans about it or not.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=148160&page=3

As for what's happening now with me and this chick. I stopped hanging around her and she seemed to have gotten the idea that I didn't condone her behaviour. I still see her at work and all and she also lives near by my place. The funny part is that after 3-4 weeks of virtual non communication due to my part she has come back to earth and is chasing me around.

I no longer believe she is seeing this new guy, I believe that it might have been a short sting after Cancun and when you take away all the elements of a dream vacation such as the ocean, the beach, the alcohol, the parties and the high you get from being on vacation then its back to reality. Now she started to be really nice to me, asking me and text messages me almost every day (sometimes I don't even bother to answer), asking me to come over that she would cook for me, dressing really nice around me with a low cut top that is quite revealing. She is basically trying to lure me back in but I pretend to be aloof. I drove her nuts when I stopped by her place so she can make me a nice dinner with wine/beer and I didn't even touch her. Its funny but I feel as if I dare to go back and fvck her that I would lose all this power I now posses and things would go downhill rather quickly.

Don't fool yourself. She still has all the power. You showed your hand when you said that you are "pretending to be aloof". The fact that you are still playing her game proves it. And yes you are still playing her game because you continue to go to her place or entertain thoughts about how she realizes what a mistake she made.

Dude, listen. Who cares whether she realizes now that she was a 'bad girl' on vacation? The fact is she is still a 'bad girl' and will be again in the future. She's shown you who she really is. Why would you even consider dating someone like that after she has demonstrated low character and low interest in YOU? Remember you can always trust a dog to eat a juicy steak when you put it in front of him. You can't blame a dog for acting like a dog. And a leopard doesn't change it's spots.

 

[DJDamage]

Don't fool yourself. She still has all the power. You showed your hand when you said that you are "pretending to be aloof". The fact that you are still playing her game proves it. And yes you are still playing her game because you continue to go to her place or entertain thoughts about how she realizes what a mistake she made..

I am not fooling myself, I am doing exectly what I want NOW. When I said I pretend to be aloof is not about me trying to hide my supposed hurt feelings, but rather get something else out of it. See the thing with this girl is that she was a plate and her purpose was to please me. Now I tottaly dropped this plate but she is still proving her useleness in ways that I don't have to burn any bridges or stoop down to becoming some emotional tampon chasing her. Since she still wants me, she is the one willing to do other sh1t for me while hoping that I will go back to her while giving her false hopes. I don't know why I do it, I guess its like therapy for me to actually be in the same position that I put girls given that they used me as a surrgote boyfriend in my AFC days.

Dude, listen. Who cares whether she realizes now that she was a 'bad girl' on vacation? The fact is she is still a 'bad girl' and will be again in the future. She's shown you who she really is. Why would you even consider dating someone like that after she has demonstrated low character and low interest in YOU? .

I am not planning on dating her anymore.

 

[DonGorgon]

I dont know about women but most humans do...LOL

 

[MikeYikes122]

I dont know about women but most humans do...LOL

You're still here!! You hadn't posted in a long time. I thought you had thrown the towel in.

Good to know you're still here, costing this site credibility with every post you make.

 

[DJDamage]

Now I tottaly dropped this plate but she is still proving her useleness in ways that I don't have to burn any bridges or stoop down to becoming some emotional tampon chasing her. Since she still wants me, she is the one willing to do other sh1t for me while hoping that I will go back to her while giving her false hopes. I don't know why I do it, I guess its like therapy for me to actually be in the same position that I put girls given that they used me as a surrgote boyfriend in my AFC days.

Update:

In the last four weeks she hooked up with another guy and she has stopped chasing me or calling me all together. When ever I see her at work she acts with an indifference towards me like she doesn't care about me anymore.

I guess once they hook up with another man they wrap themsleves in his life and forget about all others. Another proof why men and women cannot remain friends after a breakup/hookup.

 

[broken dreams]

whoa, you are right dude.
Its true cause you are better walking away than her stepping on you. and then you feel like **** she left you.

I got ex FB break up texting me to go out but havent responded cause she wants to win the hand.

Its definatley a game of who comes on top!

 

[broken dreams]

Remember you can always trust a dog to eat a juicy steak when you put it in front of him. You can't blame a dog for acting like a dog. And a leopard doesn't change it's spots.

Real , yep its reality...they are like that.

that is why I dont ever want to be emotionally invoved again.
you lose your logic and end up somewhere else you never thought you would.

 

[DJDamage]

whoa, you are right dude.
Its true cause you are better walking away than her stepping on you. and then you feel like **** she left you.

I got ex FB break up texting me to go out but havent responded cause she wants to win the hand.

Its definatley a game of who comes on top!

You are right. Women get some sick satisfaction of trying to get the better hand after its all said and done.

This chick is having her b-day soon and it would be interesting to see whether or not she invites me. I might have to decline the invitation because I have a feeling in my gut that it will not be just an innocent b-day invitation. She hasn't mentioned her new guy to me, but her facebook is plustered with pictures of him and her being very cozy together. So she knows that I know.

I bet she will be hanging all over her new man in front of me while having her other friends (who were previously nice to me) purposly ignore me and cheer her on. Women love to pull sh1t like this, by showing their ex how good they are doing and making them feel like a big turkey.

More added reasons why you can't just be friends with someone you slept with.

 

[Warrior74]

Its funny but I feel as if I dare to go back and fvck her that I would lose all this power I now posses and things would go downhill rather quickly.

It's good you didn't. This was your gut warning you. Now what was it warning you about? This is what you have to think about now. Was it warning you that you would turn AFC again? Let yourself be walked on and disrespected? Seeing how things turned out, your gut is getting smarter.

 

[STR8UP]

whoa, you are right dude.
Its true cause you are better walking away than her stepping on you. and then you feel like **** she left you.

There is no worse feeling in the world that to get dumped by a woman you should have dumped in the first place, or worse yet to take back a woman you dumped (in any capacity...this includes FB) just to have her drive a stake in you when she finds someone else.

It's kind of like taking the gun away from your mortal enemy, drop kicking his ass to the ground, then placing the loaded gun on the floor next to him as you walk away.

If (when) you get shot in the back, whose fault was it?

Walk the FUKK away, and for gods sake don't "leave the gun" behind.

 

[Warrior74]

There is no worse feeling in the world that to get dumped by a woman you should have dumped in the first place, or worse yet to take back a woman you dumped (in any capacity...this includes FB) just to have her drive a stake in you when she finds someone else.

It's kind of like taking the gun away from your mortal enemy, drop kicking his ass to the ground, then placing the loaded gun on the floor next to him as you walk away.

If (when) you get shot in the back, whose fault was it?

Walk the FUKK away, and for gods sake don't "leave the gun" behind.

Hell yah. Repped. I let my ex wife do that to me. Took her back as a FB and then when she dumped me for someone else it killed me more than the original breakup. Took me a long time to realize that I let that mistake happen. Serious freaking BURN!

 

[STR8UP]

Hell yah. Repped. I let my ex wife do that to me. Took her back as a FB and then when she dumped me for someone else it killed me more than the original breakup. Took me a long time to realize that I let that mistake happen. Serious freaking BURN!

I did the same thing. More than once, but the last one was most memorable. I went from being worshipped as a god (for having dumped her for her indescretions) to "I can't believe I spent the last two years with you. I hope no woman ever has to endure what I went through with you" in a matter of a week.

There is no doubt that to this day that girl would regret what she did and would want me back BADLY, had I not handed her the gun as I walked away. And of course, she shot me in the back as soon as I turned around. I got OWNED.

Every time you do something stupid like this you hand a piece of yourself over to someone else, something you will never get back completely cause you feel like such a fukking IDIOT.

It's so easy to keep your "power" if you can only resist the urge to try to gratify yourself after the fact. Cause all the woman is going to do is use it as the perfect branch to swing from, and she won't hesitate to make you out as the evil villian as soon as she has her "security" lined up.

 

[DJDamage]

It's good you didn't. This was your gut warning you. Now what was it warning you about? This is what you have to think about now. Was it warning you that you would turn AFC again? Let yourself be walked on and disrespected? Seeing how things turned out, your gut is getting smarter.

I have been listening to my gut more often and as a result I am able to view 2 steps into the future as if I have a crystal ball or something. Lower interest from a girl usually always bring on the same results.

My gut feeling was telling me not to date this woman from day one but since she basically threw her pvssy at me (without me even trying to seduce her), I decided why not. I think there is a law somewhere the states to always be wary of the free meal, cause in actuality nothing is for free and there are always consequences in the end for agreeing to recieving that free meal.

Yes my gut feelings was telling me that going back to her would make me hate myself. She hooked up with another dude in Cancun from my city, then comes to me and basically tells me that I can still be a second banana?? (my gut feeling was telling me she would do that) nah this sh1t has to be done and over with. Self respect is the one thing you can't give away and giving what transpired it would be just a matter of time before I was systmatically pushed out of the way.

There is no worse feeling in the world that to get dumped by a woman you should have dumped in the first place, or worse yet to take back a woman you dumped (in any capacity...this includes FB) just to have her drive a stake in you when she finds someone else.

That is a good way of looking at it. It all comes down to choosing a woman you feel greatly attracted too as opposed of settling for a woman who you are mildly attracted too and hooking up with her because she was easy. Plate Spinning is also an important thing because the decision would have been much more easier to get to with other options.

 

[DJDamage]

double post

 

[DJDamage]

2 years later and a study came out to confirm everything I believed regarding women going on vacation and looking for sex:

http://www.haaretz.com/news/study-for-israeli-women-going-on-vacation-means-more-sex-1.240116

For Israeli women, going on vacation means more sex and lots of touristy activities - whether they are with their partners or not

The study, whose findings were presented at the annual forum for tourism researchers, held two weeks ago in Eilat, sought to determine whether having sex was a motivating factor for going on vacation and if it affected the women's satisfaction from their tourism experience. The researchers also tried to compare women's sexual behavior on vacation and at home

The study's findings show that having sex is an important factor in a woman's satisfaction from her tourism experience.

In some cases, it is even an essential element and/or a motivating factor for the vacation, meaning that the vacation is perceived as an opportunity for a couple to conduct their sexual relationship in a new, relaxed environment.

A vacation abroad is an opportunity to have casual sex in an anonymous environment, while such a relationship could harm a woman's image if it happened in the home environment.

In contrast, a trip backpacking was described by participants in the study as an opportunity to have casual sex in a foreign environment. In such instances, the number of sex partners increases, but the quality is compromised due to the limited familiarity with these partners.

On such trips the interviewees had what they called an adventure that they would not repeat in their home environment. They related to men as sex objects, and when asked their feelings regarding the casual partners, responded with descriptions such as, "having him [at night] and not seeing him the next day."

and finally a bit of a conclusion from Roissy's blog

If you’ve got a girlfriend, and she’s going on vacation by herself, odds she will cheat rise 50%.

If she’s taking this vacation in a Latin country, odds rise 75%.

If she says you don’t have to drop her off at the airport, odds rise 90%.

If she bought a new bikini for the trip, odds rise 120%.

If she’s staying in a hostel for the duration of the trip, packed some spare rubbers, and routinely emails some guy named Jacque who runs a tour guide group, odds rise 1,000%.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DJ,
Just a little cameo on this topic.....I have been friends for many years with a pair of would be Cougars...very nice girls and very generous if you take my meaning...well the Demographic here in Auistralia,is skewed heavily towards the Male...So the Ladies decided on a cruise round Fiji,N.Caledonia....there were great expectations,each purchased dresses and made a fancy dress rig out,one was a Cowgirl,the other a Pirate...they even took Dance lessons,I was called in to help them with their Waltz.....After one such Session I asked the better looking Cougar what her expectations were...."Well I might meet a tall,dark,well dressed Male.A good Dancer,he would be rich,well educated and be rather sad after a break up"Hmmm....So off went the Trawling Fleet....The return a fortnight later was less than triumphant...neither had scored,the good looking one nearly had,but her friend wouldn't leave the cabin,and so they are not on good terms with each other either....Turns out their were precious few Men their age and even fewer could Dance,Most of the Guys were what we call "Ockers"rough Aussie boozers,the Ladies even had to Dance together...So most of it was wishful thinking,at least now,they are happier with the local talent.

 

[Zarky]

When ever I see her at work she acts with an indifference towards me like she doesn't care about me anymore.

This is your main problem right here. Don't date chicks you have to deal with at your job.

As far as your jealousy problem goes... once you have AT LEAST 2 plates spinning for real, with a couple more sort of spinning, you don't really care what the chicks are doing in their down-time. Having said that, if you think she's such a huge slut that she's going to give you diseases, then you shouldn't be boning her.

 

[slaog]

Girls who likes to hang out in nightclubs and party alot do so because I presume they like the buzz. When partying becomes normal for them they need something else like sex or drugs etc.