Do women care about looks?

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Alright guys, there's been a lot of talk on the importance that women have on a guys looks. Do they care about looks? What do U think?

The shocking truth of it all is that women place a greater importance on looks just as much as men do. Yes, it's true. Let me explain.

When u first meet a girl she gives u what i call The Physical Attraction Test. THis test subconsciously takes place in her mind the moment she sees u. It takes place in a split second and determines whether u are in or out as far as winning her heart goes. So before u get the chance to even open ur mouth, she has determined whether u past this test or not.

Once she determines whether u past the test or not she puts a percentage on her interest level. It may be 55%, 68%, 49% (which means u failed her test) or 90%. If u pass her test her interst will be 51% or higher, if u failed it is 49% or lower.(which means that u dont EVER have a chance because she doesn't find u physically attractive. If she has 51%, u are like a guy hanging on the side of a cliff by his fingertips, but ur not dead yet.

U can then raise her interest level by saying and doing the right things. If u are a clean cut guy who can make her laugh and exude confidence, control and challenge u will be doing everything right 90% of the time, and this will raise her interest level higher than the moon.

U don't have to look liuke Brad Pitt to land a beauty, she just has to find u attractive or u have to have a look that she likes.

The more beautiful the girl is, the less guys that past her test (she can afford to be picky because she has so many guys to choose from)

When she has positive interest (51% or higher) she will give u her number when u ask.

No woman will ever admit that they put a great importance on looks. They like to believe that they are big believers in "fairness", and that the'll give any guy carrying a bouquet of flowers a chance. And its politically incorrect to say they judge a guy by his looks.

If women didn't care about looks how can they conclude that "it was love at first site" when looking at a guy across the room. If women didn't car about looks then why are they making such a big deal out of Brad Pitt or David Beckham. Just ask any happily married woman what attracted her to her husband and she'll probably say "Well, i kinda thought he was cute."
If women didn't care about looks than how can they say "Ur not my type."

U'll read dozens of posts that interviewed women of what they look for in a man. U'll get the usual result like: 65% want sensitivity, 22% want a guy with a great personality, 10% care about looks, etc. This is all female propoganda to make men more confused about women after reading these polls.

Do u know why men have been known for judging women by their looks. Its because men get turned on sexualy mainly by sight. women get turned on by all the other senses. If men didn't get turned on by visual stimulation, than we wouldn't be blamed for only cariung about a woman's looks.

Guys, looks will give u huge success with women, just remember that if that's all u got, than women wont be attracted to u for long. To most women looks aren't everything, it's just a part of the equation. So if u dont have the looks of Brad pitt then u better have what it takes to raise her interest level in u.

Remember guys, SHE has to like YOU FIRST or else nothing starts, if she doesn't find u attractive than u can't get the love boat off the dock no matter how hard u paddle.

Remember, if your an average looking guy, nothing can change that, God made u that way and those are the cards he dealt U. U gotta do the best u can with what u got, so keep pitching those beauty's because u'll eventually run into one who thinks ur Brad Pitts lost brother.

-Ratisson
 

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I've got an even better question.

Do you care about your own looks?
 

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No kidding Ratisson, you just figuring this out? Did you write this post or did someone else? This almost sounds like a Doc Love article. Of course, women who say looks do not matter are full of crap. I guess they feel guilty saying they do not matter.

Not to change the subject a little, but my friend's fiance just dumped him after 5 years of going out. I do not know what she looked like but my friend is kind of goofy looking. I don't know why she dumped him, but it would not surprise me if it was because a better looking guy came along.
 

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there used to be a dating show that came on TV, forgot the name, but it was similar to many of the other shows. The contestants sat behind a wall so that the girl or guy they were trying to win, could not see what they looked like.

At the end of the show, the audience would pick the best looking one, and the girl/guy who was asking them questions, would pick the one he/she thought had the best personality. Seems like about 90% of the time, the girl would always choose the one that the audience said looked the best, over the one with the best personality.
 

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Originally posted by Ratisson
Once she determines whether u past the test or not she puts a percentage on her interest level. It may be 55%, 68%, 49% (which means u failed her test) or 90%. If u pass her test her interst will be 51% or higher, if u failed it is 49% or lower.(which means that u dont EVER have a chance because she doesn't find u physically attractive. If she has 51%, u are like a guy hanging on the side of a cliff by his fingertips, but ur not dead yet.
I think this range of looks idea explains it pretty well. If you are in the acceptable range, then other factors can weigh for or against you, like status, money, confidence, personality. But the cuter the competition, the higher you have to score on the other areas.
 

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I think women do care about looks, but not quite in the way we think they do. For example you DON'T have to look like a model in GQ to pull attractive women. But you DO have to have some aspect of your looks that turns them on.

For example here's a truism a friend pointed out way back in my schooldays:

'Women are supposed to like men who are 'tall, dark, and handsome', but they often don't bother too much about the 'handsome' part.'

You don't need to be perfect but you do have to have some aspect of your appearance that women like - ie tall and rugged, cute and boyish etc. In my own case, I'm short, thin, not amazingly handsome but I have a sort of 1930s 'matinee idol' look (sort of Alan Ladd or Humphrey Bogart) that women seem really to go for, so I just play this up.
 

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Let's put it this way...if you are butt-ugly, or don't take good care of your appearance/hygiene, you have a SEVERE uphill battle on your hands.
 

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Any guy that says women don't care about looks as much as men is just fooling himself. They do. They just don't want to admit it as much because they don't want to come across as chauvenistic and sexist.

And the guys that believe that women don't care as much about looks have either some major insecurity issues or..and I hate to say it...just plain ugly.
 

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I'm getting serious deja-vu here. This topic has been posted a lot of times I think. Anyhooo... Yes, women care about looks. But not all women care about JUST looks. Personality is very important. And the more you like someone the better looking they become in your eyes (and vice versa). Personally, I like my men a little bit flawed. ;)
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Looks vs. Personality...

What's the difference between the two?

Really?

(I'm hoping that one of you will eventually take the hint...;))
 

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Well, I know that the fact that girls try to form long-term relationships with guys that appear more intelligent than the rest of the other men. Like for example here at my university there is a number 9 that has commited to some homely asian guy 'cause he is a strait A biology student who leads science labs and is probably on his way to becoming a doctor. I really don't see any other reason for her to latch on to him other than that he is a winner in everything else besides looks.

So yeah, I think a guy can make up for ugliness if he is good at everything else.

Don't let that fooll you, though. Girls still want an attractive man to look at just like men want an attractive woman to look at.
 

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Of coarse there are exceptions to every rule. Hardly anything is 100% certain. And you'll always notice the blatant exceptions because of just that...theyre so blatant-like the previous posters example of the asian guy. But if you took a HONEST poll of many different women, looks win out in a landslide.
 

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And don't forget about that "eye of the beholder" thing. One woman's ugly is another woman's hot. No sh*t.
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Personality is very important.
Personality is often an illusion. A chick sees a cute guy and imputs a favorable personality into him. Then she says she was smitten by his personality -- which she probably hasn't even really discovered yet.

In reality, personality ranks down low as a first attracter -- not because a chick doesn't like a good personality -- but because she will insert a fantasy one into a good looking guy's body until his true personality flaws, if any, can no longer be overlooked.

In this way, personality is more a long term VETO rather than a near term VOTE.

If a DJ remains somewhat of a mystery, the chick will fill in the blanks in a favorable manner until the DJ is just so awful in behavior that she leaves or is dumped in a tearful bewilderment.

So the last thing in the world a DJ-in-training needs to work on is his general personality. He should instead work on the outer trappings of the attractive personality type -- confidence, ****y&funny, etc. Image is more important than substance in the pickup world.
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Originally posted by Ratisson
Alright guys, there's been a lot of talk on the importance that women have on a guys looks.
Yeah, too much talk.
 

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I think that the woman that don't care if the man is ugly or not are those that are ugly themselves and have a very low self esteem so they will accept any guy. This happens with butt ugly guys also. In others words, women do care about looks, i would say even more than men do.
 

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I am short and ugly but I have consistently had women falling for me ever since I can remember.
More often than not these women dump their conventially great looking boyfriends for me and I have been responsible for a broken engagement more than once.
Why this happens beats me anytime I think about this.
 

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Re: Re: Do women care about looks?

Originally posted by AMF
Yeah, too much talk.
The important thing isn't whether you look good or not. The important thing is that you look as good as you reasonably can/should, then stop trying to use looks as an excuse to fail.

It may narrow your search field, because women can be incredibly shallow, but if you show her a fun time and be masculine and sexual around her...

I've seen some real hotties with some ugly mo-fos. I think everyone has. :)
 

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Bringing this subject up every two weeks is pointless... of course looks matter to women. The good news is that HOW MUCH that matter does vary a little bit- and the fact that different chicks have different tastes. So all you can do is make the best of yourself and get out there.

The only time I can see where this is something you really need to worry about is if you're having no luck at all... at which time you might need to consider hitting on a few 6-7's rather than always the hottest chick in the room to get a sense of what league you're realistically in.
 
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