do u pick up your phone or text back on friday-saturday nights

[DonJuan11]

+1. Sorry guys but most of your responses are pathetic. Sure, you don't want to be accessible every second or drop what your doing to pick up the phone... but don't put on a facade either.

Call back if you can, or don't bother if you're not interested. No reason to play these ridiculous games.

Do you really think a woman interested enough to call you will say, "Oh my god! He picked up his phone!! What a turn off!"

She can. Girl phones you Friday night at 9:00 pm and asks "What are you doing?" "Nothing, staying at home by myself and watching tv." That's not going to make her knees weak.

Faking a social life is incredibly lame. Ignoring a girl you want to escalate with intentionally is even more lame.

You are being too black and white. People here aren't talking about ignoring the girl, they just mean that sometimes its good for a girl to wonder where you are and what you are doing. If a girl you like gets the impression that "I'm here at all times, anytime, whenever you need", she'll likely get turned off. It's nice in theory, but girls don't like that. They like to be number #2 most of the times. (As James Bond would say "Sorry Solitaire, I would love to sleep with you again, but England needs me.")

You know how fast a girl's interest level will peak and start to decrease? Keep ignoring her calls and she'll move on to the next guy that's not scared enough to ask if she wants to meet up.

Again, we are not saying ignore her calls. We are simply saying do not answer you phone every time and all the time when she calls, even more so on Friday and Saturday nights. If she doesn't have to put any work into getting you, then she's not going to value you.

 

[bam bam]

living in maybes

hey,

I've been going back and forth with this HB7.5. She doesn't pick up my phone calls and then will respond a couple days later via email. I've asked her out twice and each time she suggests another date or time period but I tell her I can't do that date (i'm in med school and don't have much free time).

She texted me last weekend on saturday night (around 11ish) "Are you out in the city tonight?". Since I was staying in studying for my first set of tests I didn't respond and waited til Wednesday to call. She didn't pick up and so I then texted her "horoscopes, got your message from saturday night but was busy. were you texting to try to win some brownie points? Cause its not that easy" Our previous text message conversation had been about how she was dropping the ball/losing brownie points and she said what could she do to earn those points back. I told her "maybe you can take me out for drinks but seeing as how you can't pick up your phone, I find that a tall order for you". She responded with a "I'm in the process of moving into the city with my future roommate but as soon as I'm settled in I will take you out for drinks".

She didnt respond to my text from Wednesday night and I'm thinking maybe I should've responded to her text on saturday night. Did I play it wrong?

appreciate any input.

brother who cares... no offense... if you did maybe she would of said come over **** me now or maybe she would of told you something else bla bla bla.. dont live in the past dude... next time try out the other way and see what happens... then do it another 100 x both ways and see which one works best when... there is no right answer and time... there are best possible things to do in situations but this is person dependent.... if she doesn't care or isn't in that frame then whatever you do wont change that fact... One thing i've learned in my short time on this planet is that dont try changing people... be yourself and do what you feel is best for you... people will respect you more and you wont waste time with woman not worth your time... if a woman was digging you a lot she wouldn't be playing with your head... it seems she doesn't know if she's coming or going... she probably has a few guys on the go and your one of them so she plays around with all of them... be a solid dj and she will come back to you... even if she doesn't you know if you she ever has to reference you to her friends she will say "I talked to johnny we didn't do much but he's a really straight up no bull**** guy" not johnny plays dumb mind games dont bother with him... the network you want to tap into is the woman network if you get a good name in that network you'll have good things come your way all the time from woman... your worried about one you should be worried about a problem you have while going on with others... failure is the best teacher so when you fail kiss the situation on the cheeks twice and thank it for this learn you have learned no matter how small it is... all these failures one day will make you into someone who hopefully has learned from them and become a master of his own domain...

 

[bam bam]

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it all comes down to one important thing... are you changing your world for her because your lacking something? Or are you going to a place and allowing for people to come for the ride?

If your rather a slower pace person who isn't into the social night life why are you going after woman that live that sort of environment? Be congruent with yourself and go after woman that are in your wave length. A girl that has respect for you wont disrespect you if your sitting at home and reading at 10pm on a Saturday. One that doesn't find that lifestyle interesting will next you because of it because you don’t fit into her life! But your keeping a woman around that doesn't fit your life style because? You’re needy and coming from a bad place...

Too many people on this form like ideas of things but don’t like the actual things. I like the idea of having a party gf or many gfs. Who cares what ideas you like? Or the thought of liking those ideas? What is it you actually like is a very important question that you need to answer so that you can align yourself to the best in that direction and meet wonderful woman that are aligned with it. Most of the guys here are posers liking the ideas of being a PUA but most of you guys sorry to say don’t want to be PUA's. You guy's barely love yourself let alone one woman or many woman. You're ego's are what drive you guy's to do this and find this sort of lifestyle desirable. You guys are going car shopping without having an idea of price ranges year ranges or car makes that you want. So you spend some a life time some less sitting in each one till one fits. If you knew even small ranges of all those it would narrow you're searches down so much and save you time/energy in your lives. Can't get to where you’re going on a map if you don’t know where you are. Find yourself people and you find happiness.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I still think of it like this, your girlfriend of 5 months would be pleased to know you weren't doing anything on a Friday or Saturday night, because as your girlfriend, she likes you, and likes seeing you.

So if you have a girl hooked enough, and she see's you are available, maybe she wants to see you. You already won her over. You don't have to prove you have a life, she already believes you do.

 

[verysuave]

I still think of it like this, your girlfriend of 5 months would be pleased to know you weren't doing anything on a Friday or Saturday night, because as your girlfriend, she likes you, and likes seeing you.

So if you have a girl hooked enough, and she see's you are available, maybe she wants to see you. You already won her over. You don't have to prove you have a life, she already believes you do.

Okay, this thread is then referring to women whom u just have MET and not hooked up with YET

 

[On_the_Top]

it all comes down to one important thing... are you changing your world for her because your lacking something? Or are you going to a place and allowing for people to come for the ride?

If your rather a slower pace person who isn't into the social night life why are you going after woman that live that sort of environment? Be congruent with yourself and go after woman that are in your wave length. A girl that has respect for you wont disrespect you if your sitting at home and reading at 10pm on a Saturday. One that doesn't find that lifestyle interesting for her next you because of it. Because you don’t fit into her life! But your keeping a woman around that doesn't fit your life style because? You’re needy and coming from a bad place...

Too many people on this form like ideas of things but don’t like the actual things. I like the idea of having a party gf or many gfs. Who cares what ideas you life? Or the thought of liking those ideas? What is it you actually like is a very important question that you need to answer so that you can align yourself to the best in that direction and meet wonderful woman that are aligned with it. Most of the guys here are posers liking the ideas of being a PUA but most of you guys sorry to say don’t want to be PUA's. You guy's barely love yourself let alone one woman or many woman. You're ego's are what drive you guy's to do this and find this sort of lifestyle desirable. You guys are going car shopping without having an idea of price ranges year ranges or car makes that you want. So you spend some a life time some less sitting in each one till one fits. If you knew even small ranges of all those it would narrow you're searches down so much and save you time/energy in your lives. Can't get to where you’re going on a map if you don’t know where you are. Find yourself people and you find happiness.

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[handle]

guys, do whatever the **** is congruent with your personality!

Personally, I don't answer my phone if I'm busy. That means studying, most times I'm in class, if I'm having any sort of conversation with someone and I'm not expecting an important call, etc. This comes from the way I was raised probably -- my dad refused to get caller ID, a cordless phone, or an answering machine. His rationale? "If it's important for me to answer, I'll run to the phone. If it's important for them and I don't answer, they'll call back."

I'm a guy who doesn't like the idea of being "connected" 24/7. Most people who know me recognize this. Some hot girl called me, and I was too busy because I got in my zone and I'm painting some really cool stuff now? Who cares?

On the other hand, a buddy of mine is one of those down-for-anything-anytime type people. Always ready to stop and have a chat with anyone he knows (helps that he has the greatest memory, he can strike up a conversation instantly about some tiny detail he remembers from talking to you once, 4 months ago.) And he always answers his phone to have a chat no matter what he's doing (usual answer? "oh hey Julia/John/Dave/whoever, I was just talking with my friend Maria/Amy/Ari, do you know him/her? Great guy/girl.") Guy gets his, no doubt. He's always at shows or parties, always wanting to talk. Why wouldn't he answer the phone? He wants to talk to _you_, whoever _you_ are.

Finally, one of the best DJs I knew would be out doing a freelance racy photoshoot for lesbians on tuesday, working at the wine bar a few nights a week, and on saturday he'd be in the mood for staying home and making some banana bread. If some girl called, and his phone was on him, he'd usually answer, talk to her about complete BS "oh I was just thinking about pirates actually," and then bang her after she'd help him with banana bread.

My point here is, different people with different styles. Do what you do... But don't fake it.