do u pick up your phone or text back on friday-saturday nights

[crazymedstudent]

I think you did.



^ Lame. If you're p1ssed off at her, don't tell her how mad you are... just respond to her accordingly. Don't talk about it, be about it. She will see right through the tough guy routine if you lay it out in front of her.



^Whaaaattt... She's going to lose a.s.a.p. if you're treating her like a disobedient girlfriend and you've only been on a couple dates



^in other words, you're telling her she can treat you like crap and she'll still have her with way with you in the end



^ aka "Nevermind. I'm no longer interested."

Man the problem is you were already making her jump through hoops and holding her accountable for stuff and you two weren't committed to each other or exclusive. She doesn't owe you sh1t and vice versa. You need to ease up on your game and be more passive aggressive. Being more relaxed will attract her towards you, not punishing her and "making her pay" for forgetting to text you.

She can tell she gets under your skin and that makes you just like every other guy who worships the ground she walks on.

Telling her she has to earn you back is merely inviting her to do so and displays no strength whatsoever. I would have just nexted her in the damn first place and let my actions speak louder than words.

i appreciate the input tsmith...a point of clarification...

the text conversations have always been playful and she understands my sarcasm. For instance through text:

excerpt from convo
Me: you are rapidly losing brownie points in my book.
Her: Me? Oh Gosh, how am I losing points? I basically invented the brownie point.
MEoesn't matter anymore. Fact is now you have to earn them back. I don't know if you have what it takes.
Her: Try me.
Me: Maybe I'll let you take me out for drinks but seeing how you can't return phoen calls that's a tall order.
Her: I will take you out as soon as I am settled in. The future roommate just got a job so now the hunt for a place is on =)

We've gone back and forth with sarcastic remarks so I don't think she is taking any of this to heart.

I'm probably just gonna play "ganji games" and see what happens.

 

[slickaz]

this is another example of when i say some of you guys take this DJ thing way to seriously.
i mean cmon! some of you sound like women.should i pick up the phone? shouldnt i? should i wear red lipgloss or pink......

you're a dude..born to keep things simple and be straight up.. stop playing girlish games with girls in the intent to win em over.

if she rings you its probably coz she likes you and wants to hang out with you.

which means you've ALREADY ACHIEVED WHAT YOU WANTED TO!...

all you need to do is stop acting like a jaka5ss and answer the phone..

if you're busy, say you're busy..another time..
if you're free and you're keen..go for it..it may be the best choice you made.
if you're free but too lazy, tell her you're settled in with the best movies because you've had a busy week at work and you're very satisfied with your weeks outcome..

girls appreciate guys that know exactly what they want, and when they want it..a girl will understand if you say you just wanna kick it at home as long you sound like you've decided for yourself and what she thinks is not going to affect your decision..coz you're not changin you're mind to impress nobody else..

answer the dam phone..and take it as it goes instead of preplanning every lil detail..thats for girls to do!

 

[tsmith2334]

i appreciate the input tsmith...a point of clarification...

the text conversations have always been playful and she understands my sarcasm. For instance through text:

fair enough. that's not as bad then

 

[verysuave]

this is another example of when i say some of you guys take this DJ thing way to seriously.
i mean cmon! some of you sound like women.should i pick up the phone? shouldnt i? should i wear red lipgloss or pink......

you're a dude..born to keep things simple and be straight up.. stop playing girlish games with girls in the intent to win em over.

if she rings you its probably coz she likes you and wants to hang out with you.

which means you've ALREADY ACHIEVED WHAT YOU WANTED TO!...

all you need to do is stop acting like a jaka5ss and answer the phone..

if you're busy, say you're busy..another time..
if you're free and you're keen..go for it..it may be the best choice you made.
if you're free but too lazy, tell her you're settled in with the best movies because you've had a busy week at work and you're very satisfied with your weeks outcome..

girls appreciate guys that know exactly what they want, and when they want it..a girl will understand if you say you just wanna kick it at home as long you sound like you've decided for yourself and what she thinks is not going to affect your decision..coz you're not changin you're mind to impress nobody else..

answer the dam phone..and take it as it goes instead of preplanning every lil detail..thats for girls to do!

answer the phone.. if its a "GUARANTEED BOOTY CALL" meaning, if it was scheduled earlier in the week

 

[verysuave]

i mean, I WILL answer my phone if we talked about it earlier in the week. But if i had nothing planned with that chick, then hell no.

Why no? because i have something else planned NOT with her

 

[oakraiderz2]

i mean, I WILL answer my phone if we talked about it earlier in the week. But if i had nothing planned with that chick, then hell no.

Why no? because i have something else planned NOT with her

Then you tell her that you have plans and you cant hang out, OR invite her to hang out with you. Why is this so difficult? Your logic is flawed.

 

[volkme68]

one of the dumbest discussions ever. If you feel like txting back do it. If you don't then don't. Turning music up is dumb and fake and insecure AFCish behavior. Do what you want, live your life, and the rest will follow. Some of the best times of my life have been spur of the moment. If I didn't pick my phone up bc I wanted people to think I was busy, I would be missing out on a lot of stuff

 

[verysuave]

Then you tell her that you have plans and you cant hang out, OR invite her to hang out with you. Why is this so difficult? Your logic is flawed.

Whats the point of me calling her back if I can't hang out? NONE if the outcome will be the same.. if i can't hang out with her.

The best thing for me is to call / text back next day.

 

[verysuave]

one of the dumbest discussions ever. If you feel like txting back do it. If you don't then don't. Turning music up is dumb and fake and insecure AFCish behavior. Do what you want, live your life, and the rest will follow. Some of the best times of my life have been spur of the moment. If I didn't pick my phone up bc I wanted people to think I was busy, I would be missing out on a lot of stuff

its not AFCish. He's simply trying to make THE BEST of scenario he is in.

 

[crazymedstudent]

one of the dumbest discussions ever. If you feel like txting back do it. If you don't then don't. Turning music up is dumb and fake and insecure AFCish behavior. Do what you want, live your life, and the rest will follow. Some of the best times of my life have been spur of the moment. If I didn't pick my phone up bc I wanted people to think I was busy, I would be missing out on a lot of stuff

While I agree that sometimes you should pick up the phone I think that it is a case by case matter. For instance, if I am out with friends, in a happy good mood because I am having fun and have interesting things to say I agree that picking up the phone would be a good idea because you can invite the girl to where you are at and meet up. Conversation would go perhaps like this:

Her: Hey, what you up to tonight?
Me: Don't you wish you knew.
Her: haha. I am over at XYZ but its lame.
Me: Well then get your ass over to ABC because you know that I'm a guaranteed good time.
Her: haha. I'll be there soon. Bye!

However, it was saturday night, I was studying (and wasn't going to be convinced to go out for any girl -- passing med school way more important than any piece of ass). I wasn't about to have a conversation like the following:

Her: Hey, what you up to tonight?
Me: I have my med school exams this week so I'm studying all night.
Her: Well that sucks!
Me: Tell me about it.
Her: Well I guess have a good night then. Good luck!

I think that by NOT picking up the phone/texting is a much better idea. When I'm studying for class I'm not in DJ mode. Maybe its because I'm fairly new to the game, but I like to put my best foot (DJ) forward and not half ass it if im not in the mood to deal with a girl. Furthermore, I don't think the element of mystery works to anybody's disadvantage.

I would just disagree about making blanket statements about whether you should pick up or not. If it was that easy, we all wouldn't be here.

 

[DonGorgon]

do u pick up your phone or text back on friday-saturday nights without having prior plan with that chick?

I don't ever text or call back on friday-saturday nights

It is understood in the game that friday and sat are collection nights or nights when everyone goes looking for new prospects....

If you are male you should never contact your plates on these nights as they interpret that as you being needy and having no other options... If your plates contact you respond very late unless they contact you during booty call time , ie. after 12 am...

 

[oakraiderz2]

Rules, rules, rules, rules. Thats why so many of the people here are screwed up and dont know what theyre doing.

 

[DonGorgon]

Rules, rules, rules, rules. Thats why so many of the people here are screwed up and dont know what theyre doing.

Yeh rules suck but breaking them and getting no Fs sucks more... yOu have to play the game to win.. opting not to play is an automatic loss...

*whenever a chic tells you she does not like BS and game playing - she is BSing and playing games....

 

[Cashew]

If you aren't actually out doing something or busy somewhere... why wouldn;t you pick up the phone? She is calling you, not you calling her. If you don't pick up because of some stupid rule you put yourself under... she might not call you first next time since you're so busy and instead some other guy will be going out with her instead.

Following any rule strictly is pretty stupid in my opinion. If you get called and you want to talk to whoever is calling and are able to, then why the hell wouldn't you answer the phone?!

Stop trying to live by a set of rules and just live for youself and just do what you want to do at any given time.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Yeh rules suck but breaking them and getting no Fs sucks more... yOu have to play the game to win.. opting not to play is an automatic loss...

*whenever a chic tells you she does not like BS and game playing - she is BSing and playing games....

Breaking them CAN work, depending on the situation. The absolutist thinking on this site is the demise of these newbs posting stupid mundane questions. There more like guidlines that can be calibrated in particular situations. The point is to get enough experience and adjusting accordingly once one knows how to approach situations. The problem is people like to type bs and ask gay questions instead of trying to get some tang.

 

[verysuave]

Breaking them CAN work, depending on the situation. The absolutist thinking on this site is the demise of these newbs posting stupid mundane questions. There more like guidlines that can be calibrated in particular situations. The point is to get enough experience and adjusting accordingly once one knows how to approach situations. The problem is people like to type bs and ask gay questions instead of trying to get some tang.

it increases your CHANCE OF WINNING if you play the game vs NOT PLAYING. It may not be a guarantee, but it INCREASES THE ODDS

 

[verysuave]

It is understood in the game that friday and sat are collection nights or nights when everyone goes looking for new prospects....

If you are male you should never contact your plates on these nights as they interpret that as you being needy and having no other options... If your plates contact you respond very late unless they contact you during booty call time , ie. after 12 am...

wait wait, so, u WOULD answer to texts which are past 12? u respond to it?
but if they text you like 9-11 then, for u its a no no?
tnx

 

[verysuave]

ive always thought that when a chick calls or text you asking you "what are you doing" you friday-saturday 9-12:30pm PST

IF YOU PICK UP YOUR PHONE OR REPLY BACK, IT MEANS GAME EFFING OVER

THE VERY MOMENT SHE HEARS YOUR VOICE OR RECEIVES A TEXT FROM YOU THAT LATE, THIS B1TCH IS GONA THINK

"OH MY EFFING GOD, I CAN"T BELIEVE THIS EFFING LOOSER PICKED UP HIS PHONE THIS LATE.. SHOULDN'T HE BE BUSY EFFING OTHER WOMEN?????, NOW I KNOW FOR SURE HE'S NOT GETTING LAID AT ALL BY ANYBODY.. WHAT A DESPERATE AND NEEDY GUY, HOLY SHIET!, NOW I KNOW NOT TO CALL THIS MOTHER EFFING LOOSER EVER AGAIN, HA HA HA"

yep..

 

[f283000]

You really shouldn't be too strict on following cell phone rules. To me the most important rule is ALWAYS BEING THE ONE TO END IT.

Sure you can txt back and forth on a saturday, just make sure that when the conversation starts getting dull or when it has been going on for too long and you are near 8 or 9pm or so, just say "i gotta go, talk to ya later." As long as you end it by showing you are about to do something or got somewhere to go youre fine (even if you don't got nothing else to do but talk to the b|tch)

ALWAYS BE THE ONE TO END CONVERSATIONS!

ive always thought that when a chick calls or text you asking you "what are you doing" you friday-saturday 9-12:30pm PST

IF YOU PICK UP YOUR PHONE OR REPLY BACK, IT MEANS GAME EFFING OVER

You're right you shouldn't be answering txts or phone calls after 9 from girls you are trying to game. With a girlfriend you should do it once in a while just so she doesn't get pissed off but you should set the expectation that you are busy man on weekends even when not with her.

if a girl asks you what you're doing just make up something not hard

"i'm shilling with some friends, then heading for a poker game later tonight"

or

"im taking care of some business at my college, then heading to a poker game later tonight with my friends" (this is a good one for weekdays, should raise your value in her eyes as it shows that you take care of your school work and priorities, then still have time and energy to have fun later on with friends)

 

[On_the_Top]

She probably had low intrest before you started trying to play games. You could have told her you were studying figuring you ARE a med student. Most people understand, and if they dont, eff them. Theres no reason to play these trivial games and pretend youre super rad and cool and busy.

It has been a while since I posted here, but cosign to the fullest.

The moment you start going out of your way to change up your personality and or play games is the moment you have already wasted your time. What is the purpose of jumping through hoops or going out of your way for something that comes a dime a dozen? Unless you are married, she is close family/friend, have a child support order, or she took a bullet for you, then you owe her nothing and vice versa.

From my experience, I saved myself a lot of trouble, stress, and annoyance by focusing on me and not on how I thought others (especially females) wanted to perceive me.

Did (do) I answer my phone on Friday or Saturday night?

Yeah, depending if I felt like talking or not.

If I was out home doing nothing (which my IMHO is the best way to unwind, no noise, no dealing with people, and no worries) then I was at home doing nothing. In essence, although not to be taken literally, I had no qualms about telling a female I was at home in my boxers eating a bowl of Franken Berry.

If I was out, then I was out and probably couldn't answer the phone anyway, more than likely because I was busy, it was too noisy, or I was busy. And I would call back when I got some free time.

If was studying or writing a paper then that is were all of my focus was devoted.

If it was past a certain time, even if I was up or out and about, I didn't answer. No reason for you to call someone you barely know at 3am, and the hospital should be contacting the next of kin, not me.

Weekends had always been up in the air for me (especially when I was in college) could go from chilling in my room playing video games, to going out somewhere or with someone at 2am, or from having plans to sitting at home all weekend. Toss in a random work schedule and there you have it.

As far as trying to convey the message that I was super busy, super social, and super cool in order to "hook" a female's attention...not really worth the time or effort. Had too many other things to do and a lot of other responsibilities to handle. I was glad when I got the time to lounge about and actually hear myself think.

So as far as answering the phone goes do as YOU please...if you truly have things you have to do then you got things to do. *IMHO answering and giving a quick "Hey I'll call you back in a few minutes" always worked for me, (to be honest with you a lot of times I would forget or lose track).
If you are doing nothing, then be thankful for the spare time you do have. Hell , you can even use the "I'll call you right back" for when are lounging but just don't feel like talking.