Many years ago, when I filed for my divorce and upgraded it to an annulment (the only way to legally erase a marriage), I looked for any chance of rehabilitation between me and her. That never happened, so I proceeded with the legal filing. She was shell shocked and only found out about it in advance as because one of my idiot friends and her got into an argument. When I lived in NY, you can file and not notify the defantant of the legal pettition for six months, so I quietly filed hoping that we'd reconcile, but if not, the divoce was on the books and division stopped. Anyways, all she said, once was, she didn't want a divorce, then left my pad. I proceeded and I went through a bevy of emotions, but I knew it was the best thing for me (not really for her). She fought both the divorce and subsequent annulment (she couldn't believe I wanted our marriage basically erased from the record books), but I got it after months of legal arguments in family court. Now, well, I'm sitting pretty financially and at peace with myself. She's, well, a financial wreck who is filing for bankruptcy reorganization. Considering she made double what I made, I am perplexed and bewildered by the news. However, it's not surprising. She never even had a retirement account prior to me setting one up for her and managing her investments. Most of those gains evaporated because she fought me on the divorce and annulment, and then she went to a family friend to manage her investments. All he did was drain her with fees.
Most ladies make very dumb financial decisions. Case-in-point, you never stick with a losing bet or a financial loser in life, no matter how attractive he or she may be. BTW, she lost most of her amazing looks now. Sad.