Do guys prefer to be asked out on dates?

[djgirl]

Good evening lads,

I'm actually interested in hearing your opinions as I have a situation going on and need your input.

There is this guy I am interested in, friend of my family who I have a big crush on. We get on really well and seem to have a lot in common and I would like to ask him out for dinner some time but I don't know if it's the right thing to do as it's usually the man's gesture to ask the girl out. I'm pretty sure he might like me back as we kinda flirt a lot and I know for a fact that his single and gave me his number and told me to call him and suggested we go out for lunch. He has a busy schedule though as he has a high powered job and btw this isn't the reason I'm after him.

I really am scared of getting rejected, I never really ask guys out on dates and would be totally embarrassed if he said no and I read all the signals wrong. And also before you bring it up he loves my tattoos.

So the question is, is it a good idea to ask him out for dinner? Or do guys find it weird if girls ask them out on dates? Honest answers thanks. I really don't want to fu** this up!

 

[( . )( . )]

You got the tatts and the modern gogrrrrl "tude" , may aswell just go the whole hog role reversal and ask him out. Tell him to wear something pretty and you'll pick him up around 7.

Just messin. Go for it, hesitation is masturbation.

 

[n52]

No. It's totally unethical to think a woman could ever do that. You must wallow in his almighty presence at all times until he deems you worthy.

But in all truth I don't see why not..? If I was him though, a girl asking me out I'd immediately assume she wants the D. So expect to be offering this on a plate if you do.

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm pretty sure he might like me back as we kinda flirt a lot and I know for a fact that his single and gave me his number and told me to call him and suggested we go out for lunch. He has a busy schedule though as he has a high powered job and btw this isn't the reason I'm after him.

I really am scared of getting rejected, I never really ask guys out on dates and would be totally embarrassed if he said no and I read all the signals wrong. And also before you bring it up he loves my tattoos.

So the question is, is it a good idea to ask him out for dinner? Or do guys find it weird if girls ask them out on dates? Honest answers thanks. I really don't want to fu** this up!

You have to use the male translator. It's kind of complicated.

"Here's my number. Call me, and we'll go out to lunch." = Here's my number. Call me, and we'll go out to lunch.

He pretty much told you to ask him out. So there should be nothing to worry about.

 

[djgirl]

He directed one of my relatives funeral so I don't know if it's unethical to ask him out on a date. However he is a very close family friend and I have great connection with him and would be pretty shattered if he turned me down. I'm pretty sure he likes me as well but maybe he could just be being friendly

 

[Mike32ct]

He directed one of my relatives funeral so I don't know if it's unethical to ask him out on a date. However he is a very close family friend and I have great connection with him and would be pretty shattered if he turned me down. I'm pretty sure he likes me as well but maybe he could just be being friendly

Then maybe suggest dinner instead of lunch. Lunch could possibly be seen as a friendly, business-like sort of thing or friends catching up. Dinner is more date-like.

It would be awkward if he was someone YOU paid to run a funeral for a family member of yours. But as long as he's not working for you, it's fine.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Women have bigger fear of rejection than even the AFC male haha.

mmhmmm . Ask him out, more likely than not he'll appreciate it an like you more.

Either that is the case or they just prefer to use the status quo to their advantage, after all its easier to do nothing than it is to take action

 

[TheCWord]

He has a busy schedule though as he has a high powered job and btw this isn't the reason I'm after him.

If that were completely true you would've just said work keeps him very busy or he has a demanding job. Your choice of words is either rehearsing how you would brag to friends about dating a guy with a "high powered job" or it's just the way you think of him in your head. Or both.

Nothing wrong with that at all. That's why we encourage guys on here to focus on themselves and their career first. You're providing a realtime example of why that works

Good luck with the boy. Give him your number.

 

[FortunateSon]

I wouldn't mind being asked out by a girl providing she pays for the date. We live in an equal society and I expect to be wined and dined, though I don't like wine, so a beer will go nicely with nice rump steak and chunky chips.

If you like someone just ask them out, what's the worst thing they'll say? "No"?

 

[Bokanovsky]

So the question is, is it a good idea to ask him out for dinner? Or do guys find it weird if girls ask them out on dates? Honest answers thanks. I really don't want to fu** this up!

There is definitely nothing "weird" about asking a guy out. If you get rejected, it will be because he doesn't find you attractive, not because you dared to take the initiative.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I wouldn't mind being asked out by a girl providing she pays for the date. We live in an equal society and I expect to be wined and dined, though I don't like wine, so a beer will go nicely with nice rump steak and chunky chips.

If you like someone just ask them out, what's the worst thing they'll say? "No"?

Yup but this area of life still is mostly, overwhelmingly one-sided still

 

[JoeMarron]

Ask him out and act like this when you're with him, he'll wife you up in no time.

http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/07/girl-game-gfe.html?m=1

 

[djgirl]

I do hate being rejected, it's the worse feeling and what would make it more awkward is that his a family friend so everyone would know about it. But I must have him! And it's funny because I asked a few male friends of mine if they think it's weird when a girl asks them out on dates and they said it makes them look desperate and I certainly don't want to come across that way.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I do hate being rejected, it's the worse feeling and what would make it more awkward is that his a family friend so everyone would know about it. But I must have him! And it's funny because I asked a few male friends of mine if they think it's weird when a girl asks them out on dates and they said it makes them look desperate and I certainly don't want to come across that way.

Those guys are idiots, dumb-asses who think that way

 

[VladPatton]

Yeah...we all hate being rejected, it sux a fat one.

 

[Jaylan]

OP just got for it.

Ive had a couple girls ask me to hang out in the past. Either they beat me to the punch, or I wasnt aware they were into me at the time. Go have fun.

 

[Mike32ct]

Approaching sux. Rejection sux. So if a female can take some of the pressure off and ask the guy out, great. I'm 100 percent supportive of that.

Have you ever read an SS post about a guy that is upset that women are asking him out? I haven't*.

*Although we are seeing more and more "problem" posts with no actual problem at all. Sort of like... "This girl told me I was hot, and she gave me a BJ. What did I do wrong?" LOL

 

[djgirl]

Haha yes true. But what are good ways to entice him to want to date me apart from sex?!

 

[Mike32ct]

Haha yes true. But what are good ways to entice him to want to date me apart from sex?!

That's a tough one. I'm not sure if there is much a female could consciously do to look more like a gf than a ONS or FWB. It's about who she is. Not so much a result of game tactics. There are so many factors. It mostly depends on the guy and what type of women he likes to date.

Yeah, men want to get laid. But we value our freedom. We won't give up our freedom and start exclusively dating someone unless she's really worth it to us (or the guy is really desperate and lonely and doesn't care lol).

So I can't speak for this guy, but besides looks (eg passing the boner test) I'd want someone:

Fun, interesting, classy (but not snobby), some common interests, intelligent, low(er) maintenance, good with kids, has her own life and isn't clingy, etc.* Once in a great while, after H a lley's Comet flies by 3x lol, we meet a female and don't really care when sex happens. The connection is great and the time flies by. That's the ideal.

Now your women's magazines will just say, "Hold back on the sex for a month" and he'll see you as LTR material. But that's a MAJOR oversimplification. That's like telling a guy just to be aloof and/or confident lol.

Ultimately, it's up to what he's looking for in a LTR. Only he can decide if the connection is there, and you are someone he wants to seriously date. Men and women have to deal with this, and sadly, we have no control over the other person's preferences.

But you're getting way ahead of yourself. Ask him out and see what happens.


*Or a teacher that wears glasses :cheer: . She can apply for a waiver of the other specified requirements.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

OP just got for it.

Ive had a couple girls ask me to hang out in the past. Either they beat me to the punch, or I wasnt aware they were into me at the time. Go have fun.

were any those successful, ended up being long-term?