DJBC - WEEK 1 - Group Blue

[Quiksilver]

Al Moh. climbs on a hill, overlooking all the DJs and starts to talk.
“Gentlemen, it has been a while since I first had the idea of opening a BC for some people. What was thought of about 10 people helping each other through 13 weeks of crashing and burning has become a campaign of a much larger scale. However, this is a good thing.
Hold on, did he say 13 weeks???
Yes I did. If you would have done your homework, you would know that the BC has got 8 weeks that take the time of 13 real weeks. Weeks 5, 6 and 8 each take two weeks and for week 7 you’ll even have 3 weeks.
Gentlemen, I am looking forward to 13 weeks of constant social self-improvement, new experiences, numbers, kiss closes and maybe even f-closes. For that, I wish you good luck. And remember: It’s all about the fun too!”

Apostle IX
dice
PHAT Rabbit
czy
Colin O'Brien
Erasmus
Heart Break Kid
yungahdubz
Anthrax
rushing dude 123
OrangeCrusader
Miguel
DefiantIronist

Those are the people in this group. Now, it's your responsibility to complete every week on time. You have to:
- Do the reading
- Complete the exercises
- Write a Report at the end of the week
You may:
- Listen to the music (recommended to get into the mood )
- Report any time during the week in this thread
- Ask questions in this thread
- Give tips in this thread or a thread of the other BC-Groups
If you learn anything new that you think is valuable to others, you are encouraged to post this inside the Tips-Section.

In your Report at the end of the week please state if you were successful completing the week or not. If yes, I am going to move your name to the next week. If no you can either stop or give yourself more time. However, I am not going to take care of you anymore in terms of moving you name further. You have to organise yourself then but can still use this thread.

Thta's about it as general information goes.

The link to the BC one more time:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
or word Version:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.doc

There you will find each weeks reading material, music picks and exercises. I am just going to repeat the exercises in short form in this threads.

Exercises:

1) 2 Hours of establishing eye contact with strangers
2) Saying "Hi" to 50 strangers (you may also use any other greeting )

Good luck DJs!


EDIT: Forget to say that: Each week starts on thursday morning and ends wednesday evening (your time). Of course, you can do the reading for the next week already on wednesday if you wish.


EDIT: Group Points at the beginning of the week: 0

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Well here we are guys. We have all made a huge commitment and we should be proud of what we did. It shows willpower, strength and a desire for a better life. These next 11 weeks are going to be amazing. You'll be both excited and scared. Your stomach may knot up as you approach that girl but what a rush it is when you get that number -- not to mention what comes after. Now it is important to note you will have your ups and downs and you must be ready for them. There may be times you feel like quitting, times you feel absolutely awful. But remember we are part of a group, one where every member supports every other one completely. In fact think of each other as brothers. We are stuck here together for the next 11 weeks so you all better make the best of it.

On this note an essential part of succeeding is getting to know one another. You have to realize you are not in this alone and the feedback you will get from having a few friends help you out is invaluable. There is no one here who cannot learn something from someone else in the group.

Here is the AIM list for Group Blue, please do not feel shy to message anyone. Sign up if you do not have it, I did.

Heartbreak Kid: (Pm me for mine and send me yours so I can add you to the list)
DefiantIronist:Finn Devil 86
Apostle IX:jjthemwking
dice:
PHAT Rabbit:schwanndiggs
czy:
Colin O'Brien:
Erasmus:Erasmus1337
yungahdubz:
Anthrax:
rushing dude 123:
OrangeCrusader:
Miguel:Miguelgiveshell


Hope you are ready for what is to come. - HBK
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[rushing dude 123]

wow fantastic we got the most social bunch out of everyone i don't think this thread cud handle the amount of replys coming in, haha jk.

One of my goals is to complete this bootcamp along with two others, which i am doing in my spare time. I will probablly need to take advice later in the bootcamp, but ill try to help any people who needs it at the start and hopefully ill gain enough experience to help at the end 2.

Most important thing, let urself go and have fun with this.

 

[Erasmus]

Good call, lets all post a bit about ourselves, our skill levels, and what we want out of this.
Well, I'm a very very social person, I go to parties fairly often and know a lot of people. I just graduated from technical college, and I'm a programmer now. I have big internal game problems with girls though, because I'm really fat. The people I've dated in the past I felt lucky to be with -- I want to change that to them feeling lucky to be with me.
I know that a lot of people feel that looks count for a huge amount, and others that it doesn't matter at all -- I flip-flop between both camps. I intend to stick this through, though, even if I *do* find that I'm at a disadvantage 'cause of my weight. It's seriously just worth it.
As for skill level overall: Everything up to and including normal conversations will be a cinch for me, but when we get to attracting girls, I know I'm gonna stumble a bit. But then, I guess that's the whole point .
Oh, and for the record, rushing dude, it was 6:30 in the morning here when you posted .

 

[OrangeCrusader]

Alright, here's my intro, a bit of a re-copy from the stickied thread.

19 (20 in a month or so), got out of a superbly AFC 1.5 year LTR that was (by the end) sapping away my energy and motivation and worsening a good part of my life. Found the DJ/pua communities and scenes a few months ago and have been reading up a decent amount since, and using some of it. Approach anxiety and opening are my biggest hang-ups, though whenever I manage that, I can build interest and #close pretty often.

A good portion of the jobs I've held were retail/sales, so the early portions here shouldn't be too bad to do, though getting accustomed to it again and brushing up shouldn't hurt.

I have some shyness and lack of confidence in some situations, which I'd like to work on in this.

Along with this, I'll be working out and getting into the shape I was in last year, a year of engineering does little for one's physique.

Alright guys, let's do this!

 

[Anthrax]

hey all in group blue

My intro:

I am 20 years old, average looks and height, got out of a LTR about 2 months ago, have been looking up on DJ'ing and PUA since then.

Im a social person, i dont have a problem with going out to bars clubs etc. but in a group of friends I am usually not the Alpha one of the group. I get the classic approach anxiety like everybody, a not good with starting/holding a conversation with people I dont know, but I am practicing better conversational skills with my friends, family etc.

I want to learn to become the prize and attract women, and have them chasing me.

Go blue group lol!!!

 

[Miguel]

Lol Eramus, I used to be in the same boat as you. But man, at least you have the desire to change yourself and realize looks don’t matter for everything. (Most of the time at least!) I really missed out on my high school experience because I used to worry so much about my weight and not enough about what I did and my personality. So I ended up working my ass off, getting into tiptop shape, AND STILL FAILING! It hurt, and it was about the same time I discovered the community as well mind you. So it wasn’t a complete loss…

Man, I do miss my belly… gone for nothing. (kidding… mostly.)

Anyways, a little about me… I’m 20, tall, brown haired, blue/green-eyed and almost average looking. I guess you could call me a late social bloomer; I’m pretty well liked. I have too many friends. (And not enough F-buds.) But still tend to weird people out, cause I am still learning the basics of many social interactions. But overall, I guess I’m just really… normal.

Recently, I’ve really started to put some serious effort into the game and have started attempting to solve my inner game issues. (I have EXTREAM approach anxiety.) In regards to outer game, I’m pretty weak at openers and closing, but my mid game is decent enough. I’m hoping that by the end of this I can walk up to any girl, get her number, or… you know.

Anywho, It's nice to meet you all and I look forward to learning with you guys, and heck… maybe getting a couple laughs along the way!

 

[Heart Break Kid]

If anyone would like to share IM, pm me and I will update the thread. Also ask if you would like mine.

 

[DonGorgon]

WOW this is no joke... i wish you all good luck..

 

[Al Moh.]

Since I can't edit Quicksilvers post:


Group Points at the beginning of the week: 0

 

[DefiantIronist]

I'm 21 (whoo, drinkin!) and I go to uni far away from home, but have an internship in my hometown over the summer. I started getting into DJing in high school (though I never got anywhere with it since I had no game at all, no social network, and was immature). In college I didn't really read much DJ stuff but I've managed to have my share of drunken hookups and a few f-buds. I feel though as if it's been more due to luck and alcohol, and I'd like to get some real skill and develop some intuition. Also, last semester I tried a relationship for a couple months and then dumped her since it wasn't really what I expected (and I'm not so desperate as to maintain a mediocre relationship just for sex). However, since that meant I didn't do any pickups/hookups during that semester, my game got weak and rusty. I want to change that. I've got one more year left before they let me loose into the real world, and I'd like to get as much pvssy and more importantly, have as much fun as possible.

My biggest challenges this summer will be getting out and doing this stuff. I'm living at home (and can not bring girls back to my house), working a 9-5 and lifting pretty often. My friends from high school were mainly dungeons & dragons types (who stayed that way) so I'm pretty much trying to build a new social network on my own. Since I'm an engineering intern, my work doesn't help me at all (at least for women or a social life), so I'll have to find places other than the once-in-a-blue-moon visit to the grocery store and the gym to do the exercises and develop a temporary social life.

Game-wise, my biggest hangup is my height and general awkwardness. I rarely joke around unless I'm with friends, so I want to learn to do that more. I'm a good looking, fit guy but I'm not very tall-it gets in my way more than it should.

Also, I'm leaving at the end of July to staff a 3-week wilderness program so I will have to cut my camp off then, since I won't have any access to the internet (or, a shower...). I might try to plow through a few of the 2 or 3 week "weeks" to get through them quicker.

My aim is finn devil 86.

Good luck, all (by which I mean the hell with luck, lets go out there and approach!)

 

[Apostle IX]

Ill repost my first one and add on some more to it.

I'm 17 live in the US, started Djing about 3 months ago. I'm a athletic guy and I've gone to a all boys school. Grammar school wasn't the best as it helped put me in the hole that I am in now, with being the only black/mixed kid in the grade I was not liked much. As well I have always been to busy to go after girls with constant activities and the recent death of my mother has set me back. So I'm here to work on my social skills and getting back into the norm of things, I've become a lot more social and now with the end of high school I'll have more free time.

I've been working on improving my self image in terms of style, clothing, and getting back to the gym. Even though everyone tells me I have a great build, I don't want to get out of routine as I haven't worked out in about 3 to 4 months.

What I'm trying to mostly improve is conversational skills, and a lot of inner game issues that I have and AA, im usually pretty shy around new people, which im also trying to change all in all I hope to get a lot out of this of changing myself and learning alot and getting to know you guys better also.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

A little about myself.

I was born in Paris, France a little more than nineteen years ago. In junior high I was a huge afc. Recently moving to Toronto made me shy and I felt I did not truely belong. I supplicated terribly to girls and look wise I was perhaps a 7 at best.

Highschool came and I changed myself. I joined cross country, football and basketball and spent the better quantity of my time doing sports. My growth spurt kicked in and I bulked up to an even 6'1 170. Puberty, oily skin and the hell called adolescence came to an end and for the first time ever girls were looking at me. However I had very little social intelligence and if they girl wasn't into our high school sports I had no chance with her. I was not well versed in conversation.

University started later and again my interests changed. I spend most of my time at either the University of Tokyo or Toronto. Living far away from home, I became very interested in stocks which now is how I pay my tuition. Eventually comics were replaced by philosophy. 2% beer for aged wine. Coolio for Chopin.

Seduction as I see it now is no different from painting a picture. You have your brushes, your paints, and of course the canvas. But most important is you. You can draw the picture with whatever you like but it's the mind not the brush that conceives it. This I believe is the importance of inner game and so for the last year I have worked on perfecting it. Tapes, field, books, psychology and philosophy; I have done it all. I feel with enough time I can get any girl.

My problem is however that even though the mind creates it is much easier to draw those important details if you have the right brush and by analogy I would think that learning some outergame would be beneficial. And who could argue with a chance like this. =)

 

[czy]

looking good here group blue :]

Well, a small introduction is in place.
I'm 21 years old and i actually started the bootcamp a couple of weeks ago, but decided to wait so I could do it with you guys.
I have been into DJ'ing for a long time but i still haven't mastered approaching as much as I would like. I am a social person and have a lot of friends in my social circle. I really don't have a problem with attracting girls that I get introduced to but as soon as it comes to approaching girls, I'm completely hopeless. A reason to this is that I get quite a lot of approach anxiety and I hope this BC will help me to get rid of it.

I guess it's time to greet some people.. :]

 

[rushing dude 123]

and it begins.....

 

[Erasmus]

How you guys starting?

I think we should talk a bit about each week before we start actually doing it. Post after you've gone through the required reading and looked at the mission for the week.

I've done the first two weeks of the bootcamp before, and saying 'hi' to people isn't a problem for me. Moreover, I naturally make eye contact with people when I'm walking around anyways. I wouldn't be surprised if I've fulfilled the eye contact requirements already, just going through my day yesterday.
I intend to head out today after work to the university near me (University of Alberta), to say 'hi' to 50 people sitting around in the students union building or the central academic building. It's raining though, so busing around (yes, I don't have a car -- I just graduated and have never had the money, it's on the list now) is gonna suck.
If anyone has problems with this, last time I did the bootcamp (with other people) one of my friends had a problem with it. So we started off walking side-by-side, and I'd say 'hi' to the first person, then he'd say hi to the next, etc. Once we each got to 5 he was comfortable with doing it himself. If you don't have anyone to go with, maybe you could start by saying hi to clerks or salespeople or something like that. It really does get very easy very quickly.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

That's a great idea Erasmus, I think if you can get a friend to do it with you it helps a lot. Another great way that seems to work for people would be like this:

You: Hi (smile, do not say anything else)
HB: Hi
You: ...Do you have the time?

Then you can slowly drop the time part. It seems to work because you feel more comfortable as you know where the conversation is going and you know where it ends. Eventually you will develop this without the need for a line.

I would reccomend if you see an HB you say hi anyway as this would make next week much easier for you. If they do not respond do not let it bug you, her fish could have died today or maybe she's deaf. Just move on ! =)

 

[Al Moh.]

Some moderator please add krazyboy99 to the member list of this group. TY.

 

[Heart Break Kid]

Some moderator please add krazyboy99 to the member list of this group. TY.

Done.

 

[Apostle IX]

Yea or I find something to the area or what they are doing can help to a quick encounter, I went out and was able to say hi to 5 people today with one of them it was a older lady getting into her car next to mine. both of our car doors to enter were next to each other.


me: Hi, go ahead
her: Hi, no you, your far faster than me
me: I dont know about that im pretty old and slow
her: laughs

I then got into my car and drove away

I also notice that not many people will try to hold eye contact or look into someones eyes for long at all.

 

[Erasmus]

Well, although I had been intending to do all 50 hi's today, one of my roommates is moving out and moving to another city tomorrow, so after he called me up we decided to hang. I still had to go deposit some cheques downtown, so I got 10 hi's in there. It's definitely a bit harder than I remember, but still not too bad. Apostle IX -- I totally get the same thing with people not being willing to hold your eye contact. It can make it hard to actually say hi to someone when they're looking at you . Still, it gives a pretty big confidence boost to know that you can match gazes, and other people that look better can't.