did i just get put in the friendzone?

[chance-]

me:
perhaps when we get to know each other a lil more you should join me on a walk sometime.

me:
when it's not raining that is lol.

her:

Mayb, see wat happens. Im actually already seeing sum1 but its not official but I think its betr 2 let u knw

me:
as a friend i meant. just to hang out

her:
Ok gud, lol

me:
lol you sound umm, relieved... do many guys ask you out just to try hook up with ya

her:
Try hook up, only after 1 thing. Just coz im single dnt mean im easy or looking...u knw. Not trying 2 big note myself or anything...lol

me:
no that's good to know


- what you guys think? i think it's good she actually mentioned that... not many girls announce that and just be s!utty and see more than one guy at the same time.


- although she does comment alot that i'm funny and cute.

 

[Leisure Suit Larry]

You need to get off the damn computer and make a move on this girl. You need to be confident and set a place and time for this "walk".

You mentioned going on a "walk" with her but you didn't set it up. How are you going to get anywhere? You should have set up the time and place. And never acknowledge them when they say they are "seeing someone". You should have just said "well I want to walk with you not your boyfriend, you can leave him at home"

 

[chance]

i asked her what she was doin atm and she said reading a book and i fukn said: shall i leave you be to read? bit hard reading and chattin.

so she's like okay yeah. i'll talk to you soon.

im an idiot lol

i guess i just wanted to see if she'd say: no its okay i wanna talk to you

 

[chance]

You need to get off the damn computer and make a move on this girl. You need to be confident and set a place and time for this "walk".

You mentioned going on a "walk" with her but you didn't set it up. How are you going to get anywhere? You should have set up the time and place. And never acknowledge them when they say they are "seeing someone". You should have just said "well I want to walk with you not your boyfriend, you can leave him at home"

well she pretty much answered me when i asked... she said "maybe, see how it goes" - obviously if i said "let's do it this day and this time" she already told me maybe.. she never said yes :S

 

[Leisure Suit Larry]

Do you have her phone number yet? If not try this line next time you chat with her. Say "I want to talk to you but you have to help me out by filling in the blanks (xxx)-xxx-xxxx."

Then call her and go out with her, kiss her and proceed with getting laid.

 

[n00bPimp]

her:
Mayb, see wat happens. Im actually already seeing sum1 but its not official but I think its betr 2 let u knw

No girl that is interested in you would say this. EVER. Your whole interaction with her previous to this convo has not been enough to biuld comfort. So this is her excuse for avoiding the whole idea of "going for a walk". Pretty much the rest of the convo was suplication on your part.

- although she does comment alot that i'm funny and cute.

Funny is a good thing, but cute usually translates to 'nice'. If you can make her call you 'sexy' then you're in the sweet spot.

 

[lordson]

sounds to me like she didn't put you in the friendzone

you put yourself there

learn from mistakes, think faster on your feet

 

[ARrocket]

me:
as a friend i meant. just to hang out
.

NO NO NO NO!!!! Unless it is true, which it is not, NO!

 

[chance]

well i did want to just catch up as a friend. i don't wanna fuk her or anything. i wanted to just hang and get to know her. im lookin for LTR.

 

[scottfall]

well i did want to just catch up as a friend. i don't wanna fuk her or anything. i wanted to just hang and get to know her. im lookin for LTR.

Oh, you didnt want to have sex while in a LTR? Thats kinda weird...

 

[chance]

well its not the first thing i had in mind.

 

[BadBoyJake]

me:
perhaps when we get to know each other a lil more you should join me on a walk sometime.

me:
when it's not raining that is lol.

her:

Mayb, see wat happens. Im actually already seeing sum1 but its not official but I think its betr 2 let u knw

me:
as a friend i meant. just to hang out

her:
Ok gud, lol

me:
lol you sound umm, relieved... do many guys ask you out just to try hook up with ya

her:
Try hook up, only after 1 thing. Just coz im single dnt mean im easy or looking...u knw. Not trying 2 big note myself or anything...lol

me:
no that's good to know


- what you guys think? i think it's good she actually mentioned that... not many girls announce that and just be s!utty and see more than one guy at the same time.


- although she does comment alot that i'm funny and cute.

Dude!! That whole wussy scenario spells out friendship zone. Why would you put yourself in that position?

 

[LoneSilver]

You sound like you've been neutered.

LoneSilver

Originally Posted by chance
well i did want to just catch up as a friend. i don't wanna fuk her or anything. i wanted to just hang and get to know her. im lookin for LTR

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Ouch - Your in the friendzone sooo bad, a ladder and a rope wouldnt get you out that hole that YOU dug for yourself in that conversation.

the whole thing made me CRINGE...I hate to be negative, but there wasnt one line you said that was any good. Suggest you take immiediate action and start improving yourself, and socialising casually with as many folk as you can to improve your chat my man.

okay I feel i'm being harsh, but you need a good kick up the backside !

ahh, if only more guys were like you, my job would be made a walkover with ANY lady..the only thing I think you have on your side is age - you come off as very young, so theres plenty of time to learn the ropes.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

PS - WHY would you look for a LTR with a lady when you dont even know her...?? you dont find LTRs, they find you.

 

[lordson]

if you've hung out as an official friend date, then its completely over for you

but if you had left it open like she was going to at the start before you said "as a friend i meant. just to hang out "

then you had would have had a shot a few dates in

keep trying, try to get out of the friendship zone if you want a relationship with her, do all those seduction techniques and what not, put up a sexual aura around you and she might bite

 

[Mr. Bojangles]

The whole thing made me CRINGE

Yeah... my feelings exactly.

I wouldn't even bother going after this chick anymore if I were you. Keep her as a friend if you like, but don't expect anything more. I recommend that you read the DJ bible.

 

[K-Kov]

not to beat a horse to death...but that was a pretty rough read :/

one thing i noticed was that your conversation seemed really aimless, like you had no clue what you were gonna say 2 sec before you said it. you had needy written all over you but as PectoralisMajor said, you seem like you've got all the time in the world to learn so don't sweat it

take it from someone who a few years back (i'm a changed man) had the same "im not in this for the short term" ideal, you don't have to be superficial and act like you just wanna boss her up. just don't sound like going on this walk with her is the only thing in your life that has purpose

 

[Kev07]

wat

 

[chance]

not to be up myself but alot of you are wrong about me. i use to get many girls but i wanted to change. i didn't like being a "player" i felt fake. i am seriously not lying but i did get many girls when i went out to parties and clubs back in the day. i just don't go out much anymore and i'm sick of just sleeping around and being a wh0re. of course that conversation was terrible but i couldn't make myself be ****y and stuff. reminds me of my old self. i feel like a sleaze whenever i try ask girls their numbers or whatever.

btw soon as she came online few minutes ago she messaged me straight away, not that it means anything. i haven't even said anything cause i feel stupid. put it this way... first time i slept with a woman i did absolutely nothing, she chased me (she was married with a kid - also an ex model - very hot) - you might not believe me when i say this but i DO know how the game works... i know that i put myself in the friendzone cause i was being too nice and looked like a loser. i know you're meant to be ****y and slimey and get her number like 5 mins into the conversation, call her a few days later, ask her to catch up. what im tryin to say is.. im just being myself and if the chick thinks its weak or needy then she's obviously not for me? i like to be like this. friendly and nice. i hate being sleazy.

to be honest... i actually hate calling girls. being on the phone... feels dumb just tryin to chat em up on the phone. i prefer face to face... thats why i rarely ever call girls. they call me (yeah that sounds up myself but most the girls i been with have called me most times and i never had to spend a cent )