Did I get rejected?

[sosuave213]

Look women aren't stupid if she's hot for you she will generally make it pretty easy for you

Her messages are flatline there's literally nothing in them and that's never a good sign

Also for future reference messaging a woman " I'm glad you've text me " is like asking her for a one way ticket into the friendzone

" I've kicked a$$ in this mornings workout " again why does she care ? it sounds like you're going out of your way trying to impress her

I'm guessing your pretty young so you can be forgiven but just remember in future when texting women

LESS IS MORE

It literally says "will call you back." Did you choose to skip that part or are you just like the others screaming "OMG YOU DIDNT FOLLOW THE RULEZ"

 

[Bingo-Player]

It literally says "will call you back." Did you choose to skip that part or are you just like the others screaming "OMG YOU DIDNT FOLLOW THE RULEZ"

I can't see anything about her saying she will call you back , just says "we'll talk later" which is vague at best and clearly she hasn't called you

Theres no "rules" there's just a general etiquette to follow when texting women your sexually interested in

most men will just text a woman anything that comes into their heads get ghosted and then end up on forums like this wondering wtf happened

its a tough pill to swallow but swallow it you shall

 

[sosuave213]

I can't see anything about her saying she will call you back , just says "we'll talk later" which is vague at best and clearly she hasn't called you

Theres no "rules" there's just a general etiquette to follow when texting women your sexually interested in

most men will just text a woman anything that comes into their heads get ghosted and then end up on forums like this wondering wtf happened

its a tough pill to swallow but swallow it you shall

Jumping the gun aren't we kiddo? It's literally not even been a day...are you really expecting her to call me during the morning or workday? Just ****ing LMAO at your logic.

 

[sosuave213]

Holy ****, LMAO.

After writing this post she literally just called.

Didn't pick up to leave her wondering but man some of you are absolute morans.

 

[Stanley]

We don't know her (you hardly know her), but always solid advice is to not smother the girl and let space be taken.

I am not saying you necessarily are making her 'feel' that way, but women pick up on that vibe very quickly and come to their own conclusions with little to nothing to go on. It is a self defense and self preservation mechanism and also allows her to entertain other 'seemingly' better options. Lame? Certainly, but it is what it is...

As others have said, she is on a dating app so the likelihood there are other men in the periphery is near 100%. No reason to get upset about that, but understand the competition and how the woman is the chooser. You should not make her want to choose you though!

From the onset you want a woman that is highly interested and you should not subjugate yourself to her will or wants in any capacity to garner her favor. That would be an ill founded investment. Instead, reflect on what you might have done 'wrong', or rather acknowledge what you could have done better. Don't spend too much time there though, if you go deep into thought about this chick than you are likely to over analyze and ruminate.

In my opinion, if the goal is to foster a relationship then I see no reason to not confirm the date, BUT if she was very interested in you she likely would have reached out to you to confirm. Some guys play the game where they intentionally do not confirm the date as a test of her interest. I don't do this at this point in my life, I would rather filter the girls out ASAP and not waste mental energy on some lukewarm wishy washy person. You will have less opportunities, but you will save yourself a heck of a lot of time and are more likely to only have experiences with women with high interest levels in you. Also, do not hesitate to lead and make definitive statements, but do your best to not suffocate her. That said, she did still come see you promptly and apologized... so take note of that.

Is this girl interested in you?​

I would say based off what limited info you've provided she is probably mildly interested or likely apprehensive. With that in mind I would ask yourself whether or not you want to continue moving forward with things. Can her interest level be increased alongside chemistry and whatnot? Sure it can work... but the net gain just might not be worth the effort.

In other words is the juice going to be worth the squeeze?

Me personally? I'd toss her to the back of my mind, focus on more important things, keep my options open and remain positive to future exchanges with women.

If you want to proceed with her I would cut back on communication this early on and be okay with space. If she is interested and receptive to you then she will initiate as well. You have already opened the barrier for communication so she is well aware that she can reach you. If she is genuinely busy and has made that clear you have to interpret that in your own way. It could be a degree of rejection? it could also be "No, not right now". The response (if you choose to move forward) is to leave the ball in her court and move on regardless.

Also, you certainly give off the vibes of a BF when you just met her and your last text was kinda goofy . No harm no foul, but I wouldn't ask her what her priorities are because she has told you with her actions "You aren't it".



I'm not a an avid fan of this writer, but this short article is pertinent. Good luck fella

https://markmanson.net/****-yes

 

[Bingo-Player]

Holy ****, LMAO.

After writing this post she literally just called.

Didn't pick up to leave her wondering but man some of you are absolute morans.

I think I just saw a flying pig

 

[Velasco]

Holy ****, LMAO.

After writing this post she literally just called.

Didn't pick up to leave her wondering but man some of you are absolute morans.

I asked two of my friends that are girls if I got rejected, showed them the convo and they said "idk, seems like you got rejected" and to "keep your options open." Surprising because girls are supposed to be nice about giving advice, so if they're being honest, it's troubling.

Girls are just as retarded as guys are about giving dating advice. The further you progress on the journey, the more it becomes apparent to you that nobody knows anything.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Holy ****, LMAO.

After writing this post she literally just called.

Didn't pick up to leave her wondering but man some of you are absolute morans.

Sounds pretty contrived to me.

 

[sosuave213]

We don't know her (you hardly know her), but always solid advice is to not smother the girl and let space be taken.

I am not saying you necessarily are making her 'feel' that way, but women pick up on that vibe very quickly and come to their own conclusions with little to nothing to go on. It is a self defense and self preservation mechanism and also allows her to entertain other 'seemingly' better options. Lame? Certainly, but it is what it is...

As others have said, she is on a dating app so the likelihood there are other men in the periphery is near 100%. No reason to get upset about that, but understand the competition and how the woman is the chooser. You should not make her want to choose you though!

From the onset you want a woman that is highly interested and you should not subjugate yourself to her will or wants in any capacity to garner her favor. That would be an ill founded investment. Instead, reflect on what you might have done 'wrong', or rather acknowledge what you could have done better. Don't spend too much time there though, if you go deep into thought about this chick than you are likely to over analyze and ruminate.

In my opinion, if the goal is to foster a relationship then I see no reason to not confirm the date, BUT if she was very interested in you she likely would have reached out to you to confirm. Some guys play the game where they intentionally do not confirm the date as a test of her interest. I don't do this at this point in my life, I would rather filter the girls out ASAP and not waste mental energy on some lukewarm wishy washy person. You will have less opportunities, but you will save yourself a heck of a lot of time and are more likely to only have experiences with women with high interest levels in you. Also, do not hesitate to lead and make definitive statements, but do your best to not suffocate her. That said, she did still come see you promptly and apologized... so take note of that.

Is this girl interested in you?​

I would say based off what limited info you've provided she is probably mildly interested or likely apprehensive. With that in mind I would ask yourself whether or not you want to continue moving forward with things. Can her interest level be increased alongside chemistry and whatnot? Sure it can work... but the net gain just might not be worth the effort.

In other words is the juice going to be worth the squeeze?

Me personally? I'd toss her to the back of my mind, focus on more important things, keep my options open and remain positive to future exchanges with women.

If you want to proceed with her I would cut back on communication this early on and be okay with space. If she is interested and receptive to you then she will initiate as well. You have already opened the barrier for communication so she is well aware that she can reach you. If she is genuinely busy and has made that clear you have to interpret that in your own way. It could be a degree of rejection? it could also be "No, not right now". The response (if you choose to move forward) is to leave the ball in her court and move on regardless.

Also, you certainly give off the vibes of a BF when you just met her and your last text was kinda goofy . No harm no foul, but I wouldn't ask her what her priorities are because she has told you with her actions "You aren't it".



I'm not a an avid fan of this writer, but this short article is pertinent. Good luck fella

https://markmanson.net/****-yes

Well, the last text was a pun: she has finals, so I'm testing her.

 

[The Duke]

- met girl on Hinge
- types paragraphs and is very Communicative pre-first date
- set date Sunday for Wednesday at 6
- Wednesday at 6, no-show. I call and she says "you didn't confirm, so I thought it wasn't happening"
-I told her I don't confirm dates and that she said "see you Wednesday at 6", so she apologizes by saying "my bad" and I'm sorry
- I say "I'm still here if you want to come" and she says she'll take a quick shower and be on the way.
- she shows up, we have a great time. We make out, kiss, she's laughing, and at the end of the date she gives me a long, 15-20 second embracing hug with her head on my chest.
- I call her yesterday to follow up on the date, but no answer. She texts me two hours later:

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We talked about dancing and she said she was free Saturday both pre-first date and also during the date, so that's why I asked about Saturday.

I asked two of my friends that are girls if I got rejected, showed them the convo and they said "idk, seems like you got rejected" and to "keep your options open." Surprising because girls are supposed to be nice about giving advice, so if they're being honest, it's troubling.

She's also going on vacation on the 16th for three weeks, has finals until Wednesday and my plan was to ask her out on Sunday for Wednesday night, but now the ball is in her court.

That's also why I texted her, so that she can make the next move.

Did I get rejected?

Seek out other women. This one won't matter so much. She is a nut anyways. Keep her for sport fuhking only. Exert minimal the effort.

 

[sosuave213]

Troll.

You mad?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Op, your personal dating abilities are pretty bad. I would advise getting off of Hinge and working on other things first. You basically just catfished a female.

 

[sosuave213]

Op, your personal dating abilities are pretty bad. I would advise getting off of Hinge and working on other things first. You basically just catfished a female.

What are you talking about son?

 

[sangheilios]

Just disappointed that you are so focused on this one chick and have such a scarce mindset. Be a man. Women come and go, stop being so desperate.

This is the unfortunate reality for the vast majority of young men today. Unless you are putting in a lot of time and energy into trying to meet women, the vast majority of interactions men are having with women are almost purely with OLD dating sites and apps. There are tons of stats showing how prevalent sexlessness is for young men today, it's actually the norm for men under 30 to have had 0 sex over the last year. Taking the actual sex stuff out of the equation, I'd wager that most men are literally going months without even getting a date. This is the unfortunate reality, there's really nothing more to it than that. Some guys are just lucky that they are in a position to meet and connect with women rather readily, most guys are not in this position.

 

[pipeman84]

Silly boy...that's how you get into relationships. This is the real world, not a Disney Movie. You don't start a relationship then get laid. You get laid then start a relationship.

That's how it actually works in real life.

Yeah, in that part of real life where the divorce rate is 50% and most of the rest are plagued by mediocre relationships, dead bedrooms, cheating and so on. That's almost guaranteed to happen when a guy enters a relationship with a woman who fvcks first and asks questions later. There's no clearer or better way for a woman to transmit she's not relationship worthy than having sex with a guy she barely knows.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah, in that part of real life where the divorce rate is 50% and most of the rest are plagued by mediocre relationships, dead bedrooms, cheating and so on. That's almost guaranteed to happen when a guy enters a relationship with a woman who fvcks first and asks questions later. There's no clearer or better way for a woman to transmit she's not relationship worthy than having sex with a guy she barely knows.

Right...so wait 6 months to have sex is going to fix that?

That's called I'm not interested in you physically but you are a nice person to hang out with.

I've got male friends I can hang out with platonically.

 

[sosuave213]

We just set a second date this morning. She texted me before work. We're going out dancing.

I playfully asked if I needed to confirm and she giggled "no its ok"

Rules are made to be broken fellas. The rules prevent you from getting in trouble unless you know what you're doing. Also remember that it's OK to trust other human beings...

 

[pipeman84]

Right...so wait 6 months to have sex is going to fix that?

In most cases it wouldn't take 1 month, let alone 6 to figure out if the guy is actually who he presents himself to be and if they both envision a future together.

That's called I'm not interested in you physically but you are a nice person to hang out with.

I though that meant having values, self esteem and looking beyond appearances.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

In most cases it wouldn't take 1 month, let alone 6 to figure out if the guy is actually who he presents himself to be and if they both envision a future together.

I though that meant having values, self esteem and looking beyond appearances.

Actually it means none of those things...simply that a woman isn't that into you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

We just set a second date this morning. She texted me before work. We're going out dancing.

I playfully asked if I needed to confirm and she giggled "no its ok"

Rules are made to be broken fellas. The rules prevent you from getting in trouble unless you know what you're doing. Also remember that it's OK to trust other human beings...

Right...so continuing to do it things with much lower success rates typically should be the norm we advise people to do...

More nonsense and drivel by people who know everything but are here asking for advice.