Seems like we see things differently, which makes the world more interesting. In the original post, I read "all standing around in a circle saying where we were from"[1] and OP "did blurt out"[1]. To me, that means everyone addressed the group, and then OP asked this woman a question. I disagree "these woman being cold and distant after THEY initiated a conversation" [3]. And if you stand corrected, then I don't know why you claim to have "qualities of an eidetic memory" [2] when Meriam-Webster defines "eidetic" as "extraordinarily accurate" [4].
If you want to "brainstorm some 'why's" [4], "these chicks just seem a little nutty" [2] seems like a poor place to start.
OP wrote "She was very attractive back in the day and still looks good" [1], and then he "did blurt out"[1] a question that includes "her first and last name" [1]. No brainstorming needed to connect those dots: an attractive woman hears her full name from some guy she's never met.
In my experience, when another poster has a long reply to my short post, we're not going to end up on the same page. I feel like this reply captures what I want to say, and I don't want to make this thread about me (and to any women reading this: maybe consider my example and ask your therapist if anti-solipism is right for you).
[1]
We were all standing around in a circle saying where we were from.
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She was very attractive back in the day and still looks good.
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I did blurt out while we were in the circle "You look familiar aren't you so and so? (said her first and last name).
[2]
Dude you're fine, these chicks just seem a little nutty.
I also have qualities of eidetic memory ...
[3]
Ahh, I see what you mean, let me explain.
Just because someone has a good memory doesn't mean anything other than they have a good memory.
I think these woman being cold and distant after THEY initiated a conversation and inquiring about op is odd behavior. The mom asked about him and what side of town he's from and there were mutual connections. Most sane secure people would just chalk this up as a string of coincidences from living in the same town. Happens all the time, thus the phrase "small world".
We could brainstorm some 'why's to this behavior. Maybe there is some beef between some connections they share? Maybe this girl projected some qualifier onto this guy? Maybe she didn't actually give a **** an op is reading too deeply into it. Maybe she's a narcissists who thinks everything revolves around her...But Who cares? This is a her problem (if it is even considered a problem to begin with)
[4]
"eidetic : marked by or involving extraordinarily accurate and vivid recall"
marked by or involving extraordinarily accurate and vivid recall especially of visual images… See the full definition
www.merriam-webster.com
