Depression sets it... What's your cure?

[jakeyboy]

hey guys...

been having these bouts of depression of late. some point in the day my body would just lapse into ultimate AFC mode, and start worrying about whether a woman/women like me or not and mull over all the rejections that have happened so far and feel oh so bloody sorry for myself

this is seriously a pathetic state to be in and i know that. but i can't seem to snap out of it, any one out there has any miracle cures for depression and AFCness? how does one simply not give a f*ck about womens' interest level and such.. i need help before i totally lose it and become a full time AFC!!!

and i can't take the advice of going out and having a good time, i have a major exam coming up in november and studying for it occupies most of my time... but in my depressed state, its quite tough to get anything in my brain!~

advice will be greatly appreciated!!!

 

[ER!C L!VE]

I prescribe talking to a Dr. about it instead of bringing me down.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Eric Live doesnt pull any punches eh? haha

He's right though..if you think you can't help yourself..find it professionally.

Other than that...hit the gym..burn off some steam. Working out lets off endorphins that can help a depressed mood.

Or wank off to some porn..that always helps me..hahaha..

 

[b's nuts]

change that depression over to anger, and use the energy from that anger to work out. see if that helps, forget seeing a doctor, they will just med you up and you will forget what its like to be without them. you don't need that, you need to build yourself up. if i ever feel that way, i try to remember that deep down every woman is a slut, so treat them all the way you would treat a slut, then you won't worry about their interest level and you will trully not give a fvck.

 

[SirJLove]

Exercise.

 

[MrBond_Age]

Im studying psychology as my major and I am very opposed to the use of anti-depressant unless the person taking them cant function anymore in society.

Anti-depressants do not cure the problem.

 

[Alpine]

If you were really depressed would you be asking for help here?
Probably just one of life's blips

It could be anxiety though, check it out.

Here's some ideas anyway.

Watch a comedy DVD, fookin have a laugh

Think of 10 things you're grateful for

Do ten star jumps, stand up straight and look up, how do you feel?

Take action on something that's been bothering you.

Stroke a pet

Read an inspiring book

Stop buying things and start doing things

Well that's what I do anyway. Hope that helps.

 

[MrBond_Age]

Here`s one:

-Ignore the post just before this one.
-Find out whats wrong.
-If you can do something about it, try. If you cannot, accept the fact that you cant do anything about it.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

You are the cure. Only you can control your attitude, nobody can change it except you. You feel how you choose to feel, period.

When you were a little kid and didn't get the toy you wanted for christmas or your birthday did you cry and pout a lot?

Hopefully you've grown up enough to overcome life's disappointments, but perhaps not.

No matter how much of a crybaby, ugly, idiot you are, some girls somewhere will be attracted to you.

That's not the problem, the real judge is yourself, if you don't like yourself, you'll never be happy. Change the things you don't like about yourself and learn to accept the things you can't.

It's very simple if you have the desire to be happy.

 

[MrBond_Age]

My studies are made in french so bare with the bad technical translations:

Depending on the different school of thoughts, you would have many different reasons to tell why you feel anxiety.

The people working with the biological aspects are more prone to give you medicine.

The psychanalists(sp?) would say you got a power satruggle goin on between your "that","me" and "myself" (translate to something like this). Anxiety is a form of guilt. You fear the possibility that something bad might happen to you because you could betray your own rules.

Behaviorists would say your anxiety is learned. You assosciated your anxiety with a situation or an object. It would also be possible for you to "unlearn" this anxiety with conditionning (like Pavlov`s dog).

Example of someone afraid of dogs:

Its really simple but it is a working process. Watch the "mechanical orange"(or something like that.Im translating from french, rememer) for a good idea of how it works.


dog---------->fear
dog+relaxation------------>pleasure(eventually)(repeat and rinse for a long time)
dog------------->pleasure

 

[Alpine]

That's right Jakeyboy, ignore my post don't try and make youself happy, enstrust your feeling to a 'professional'.

Go and spend lots of money with a shrink for a few years so he too can pay off his psychology tuition fees and drive a Merc.

 

[MrBond_Age]

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Thats right! Just forget the source of your problems and do totally unrelated stuff and push everything under the iceberg hoping it will never come back again.

ppffffffffff......

 

[Alpine]

The only people without problems live in graveyards.

I don't see a major life problem that needs sorting, he's just low.

When you're focussed on something, that's all you see, and that includes pigeon-holeing people into mental illness categories, just like trainee real doctors think they've got some terminal disease when their going through training.

 

[Alpine]

Jakeyboy,

The number one thing is to change the way you feel right now, so that you have the energy to start solving some of your problems.

Reading historical/academic stuff about psychology will just make your eyes glaze over. All it does is let other people know how much someone can regurgitate from a class.

Follow the the things I've suggested that you can do straight away.

 

[mahon83050]

I am on Zoloft for anxiety and depression problems. It has been two months and I am finally starting to feel better. The only real bad thing is- NO ALCOHOL. Alcohol makes the depression worse. I went to the bar tonight with my friend and ended up drinking non-alcoholic beer.


My advice: Definitely exercise; it relieves stress. If you have anxiety, stay away from caffeine.

 

[MrBond_Age]

mahon I have a question for you: do you know why you feel anxious and depressive( as in: what problems do you currently have/had)?

 

[Alpine]

MrB

Before you flipently tell people to ignore my suggestions, why not do a bit of background reading first. You might learn something.


The use of laughter in treating depression:
Annova '04, article AJMS dec '89 S Sultonov , L Berk Phd.

Gratitude:
Ahrens '88 Self effecasy & social comparisons in Cognative T.

Physiology effects on mood:
Thackuk & Martin '99, K Jensen et al The lancet nov '75

Pet therapy:
Barker and Dawson '88, J Valiquette

Just because I don't use fancy language that people don't understand, doesn't mean I don't know what I'm f*ckin talking about.

 

[MrBond_Age]

What you do NOT understand is that even though you can make the symptoms disapear for a long while if the problem is still there the person will be depressive again.

Depression is not a cause, its an effect, a reaction.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

I know exactly how you feel. I don't know how to help though. I tried all those drugs but never felt any affects. I think it's because there are tangible things that I am depressed over and taking drugs did not fix them. Message me if you want to talk about it.

 

[00Kevin]

I play my guitar and improvise the blues, jazz, rock, metal, what ever I feel like.... Playing a musical instrument is amazing for the mind.

You also can't be expected to be happy all the time. Just like you can't be expected to be nice all the time. Being depressed every now and then is a natural part of life. It takes man to keep moving on and not to give up.

Write your thoughts out. Sometimes your unconscious mind is trying to make sense of something too complex. Snaping out of the cycle often just requires a conscious effort to solve the problem.

In general, the key to being happy is ......




GRATITUDE

Imagine if you had everything taken away from you and you felt like your life was completely worthless and completely shattered.
You would have to first draw some conclusions about your life, be patient for things to get better, pick yourself up, and then brush yourself off. When you did get up I'm sure you find that simple things in life made you happy. After that, maybe that morning coffee would be all you needed to put a smile on your face.

If you always make life complicated you will be complicated!

Women are actually simple not complicated as most would have you belive. You are just confused about them.