Dealing with an Adult Bully?

[Reyaj]

Jariel I hear what you are saying but this kid has fought before and I've witnessed it. I think that by acting tough in front of him it will egg him on to fight where as if I'm non confrontational it won't give him anymore fuel.

I guess after reading all theses posts and deliberating this: Here is what I come up with....

I will go about my life and try not to worry about him. While I won't go to places I know he may be at, I will go anywhere I need to go. If I run into him and he starts talking **** or looking at me hard etc... I'll just ignore him.

Now if he lays a hand on me to the point where I feel threatned I will fight as hard as I can....

I guess the only thing I'm not sure of is whether I should say hi to him in a friendly manner if I see him or ignore him completely

If I say hi he might start with me or act stupid where as if I ignore him maybe he won't bother me but I'll look like I'm mad which might make the bitterness more proliferating in him.

 

[insidious]

yeah so i see this post happened on cinco de mayo. i'm a little late lol.

anyways. if this gargantuan dude can bench 400 lbs, just move on.

if he clinches the chick from you, good for him, whatever. that's her loss, not yours. move on.

the laws of nature dictate thus> there will always be someone bigger, stronger, more virile, and better looking that you. so what.

how many more jaryers are there?

you're one of a kind dude. give it up and move on. why fight over a bytch?

that dude is not gonna treat her nearly half as good as you did. he'll drop her and steal another ***** somewhere down the line.

until you find the resouces and manpower to deal with "adult bullies" like this, just move on. when the day comes, you can have him extinguished with all your delightful connections lol :rockon:

 

[Reyaj]

right on brother even though it wasnt about the chick i like your words!

 

[smorgan]

This is just a reply to the OP... I'm a wrestler and have been in a couple of fights myself so I think I could shed a little light on this subject..

First off, I would agree with you. Avoid the fight, it's immature and really not worth the trouble. If you don't think you can take the guy, then you're probably right. What's worse is you have a chance of getting f'ed up. A fights not exactly a safe bet, bad things can happen, and you can die. Now I don't think some little girl is worth all that trouble right?

Anyways, the problem is avoiding a fight is not as simple as it seems. If some guy is gonna openly disrespect you, it's only natural for you to want to fight back, in some shape or form. Again though, fighting, is what we're trying not to do. The trick is to not let the other guy get to you. Whatever bvll**** he says you're way, simply blow it off. Know that his little opinion don't mean shvt to you, so that guy can just fvck right off. If he doesn't rile you up, he doesn't win and then theres no fight. That's the best scenario. He looks like a fool and you are just the man.

It could go another way though and lets just say this guy is really pissed. There's no conversation this time and he's just straight up attacking you. Let's say he's throwing punches, Now a lot of guys here are gonna say "hit him back." This is good advice, but it can backfire. If you hit him and he can take it, and this being a big dude probably can, then it's only gonna piss him off and give him an excuse to beat the hell out of you. If you hit him it better fvcking hurt him. You better not **** around and you better let him know that too. Your body, your life is at stake. Do whatever you gotta do.

Otherwise the best advice I can give is don't get hit. If he swings avoid it. You dodge enough and eventually he'll get tired and give up. Remember, it's not how many hits you get in but in how many he doesn't.

Handle that pvss and then the real pvss is gonna love you!

 

[Ravish]

simple solution sir......

Carry a taser gun

Play his game and goad his ass, from a safe distance ofcourse. Then blast that ass while explaining to him how a good boy is supposed to ask.

 

[bigjohnson]

simple solution sir......

Carry a taser gun

Play his game and goad his ass, from a safe distance ofcourse. Then blast that ass while explaining to him how a good boy is supposed to ask.

Taser guns are very expensive and each shot is also very costly. Additionally it would still be assault. Tasers are also quite big and hard to conceal, as they are designed for duty carry.

 

[Mr_Aries]

Just walk right up to him and smash the **** out of him, might be childish but at least he'll leave you alone....probably.

 

[6-heads lewis]

Many good comments in here.

One thing Id like to add about self defence - nothing is perfect. Every art has its benefits, but they are all vastly inferior to a gun. And if you have no weapon but formal training, it's inferior to an insane, fearless hooligan, who will attack you from behind, bite your nose, call his friends, poke your eye, etc.

If you're willing to kill somebody, your problems are over. You never have to train any martial arts, spend money on anything, go to the gym, etc. I trained as a boxer for several years, and eventually admitted it only really helped me in a boxing ring. If I ever enter a serious situation, hopefully there will be no witnesses and I'll have a gun to threaten them with. This is about 1,000,000X better than attempting to box him.

 

[Reyaj]

Didnt Ricardo Mayorga knock your ass out?