jamesfromhouston
Senior Don Juan
Sorry to revive my own thread but I thought I'd post an update here to educate my future self and others that might be in this predicament and are tempted to re-engage with a flake.
I did end up attempting to re-engage with this flake after almost a month.
I messaged her over the weekend. At this point, I thought there was nothing to lose. Might as well try my luck and see how things are. I could learn from this.
I thought perhaps by 'freezing her out' her IL would hike again. To make things more encouraging, she was actively stalking me on my socials.
So I asked her out again. Once again same outcome. Slow reply. She told me she was busy with no counter offer. I deleted her phone number for good after this and cut her out.
It's quite surprising that we went from having hot sex to her suddenly flaking me and now just treating me like a non-existent corpse.
I learnt 2 things from this:
1) If the girl flakes with no counter offer, even if there was intensity between the two of you, it's basically a goner. The point at which she flakes indicates everything you need to know. Your mind might fight to deny it but the IL is gone. Girls don't flake on guys they have high IL for.
2) Time does not truly reignite IL or create second chances unless she reaches out to you. If she does not, you're deluding yourself and grabbing at straws.
3) With women, nothing is permanent, unexpected change can go from 100 degrees hot to -100 degrees cold in a blink of an eye. Until today I do not know why she suddenly became cold, (could be another guy in the picture or something I did) I will never know but who cares.
4) Social media behavior means nothing. Time and time again I feel girls use it to capture your attention, stalk and nothing more. Don't read into it.
I did end up attempting to re-engage with this flake after almost a month.
I messaged her over the weekend. At this point, I thought there was nothing to lose. Might as well try my luck and see how things are. I could learn from this.
I thought perhaps by 'freezing her out' her IL would hike again. To make things more encouraging, she was actively stalking me on my socials.
So I asked her out again. Once again same outcome. Slow reply. She told me she was busy with no counter offer. I deleted her phone number for good after this and cut her out.
It's quite surprising that we went from having hot sex to her suddenly flaking me and now just treating me like a non-existent corpse.
I learnt 2 things from this:
1) If the girl flakes with no counter offer, even if there was intensity between the two of you, it's basically a goner. The point at which she flakes indicates everything you need to know. Your mind might fight to deny it but the IL is gone. Girls don't flake on guys they have high IL for.
2) Time does not truly reignite IL or create second chances unless she reaches out to you. If she does not, you're deluding yourself and grabbing at straws.
3) With women, nothing is permanent, unexpected change can go from 100 degrees hot to -100 degrees cold in a blink of an eye. Until today I do not know why she suddenly became cold, (could be another guy in the picture or something I did) I will never know but who cares.
4) Social media behavior means nothing. Time and time again I feel girls use it to capture your attention, stalk and nothing more. Don't read into it.
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