Dating Sites Question About Incentives

[davidsonj73]

Which dating sites have their incentives aligned with men's best interests? Whether that is to just get laid, find a significant other, or even get married. Which dating sites actually want men to succeed, not just get our money without us even meeting women from them?

 

[BPH]

Just go out and talk to women dude.

 

[corrector]

That's a wierd question since the success on dating sites depends on how much traction you have with the women there rather than the dating app or website policies. They are just the messenger and don't really have anything much to do with your success or lack of it. Generally if your picture and profile stands out (in a good way) compared to other guys then you should find success. I don't use dating apps/online dating much myself because I know I don't have a good profile or pics to use and will be wasting my time.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Any app or site that allows direct messaging (i.e. doesn't rely strictly on looks-based matching so you're not reduced to a physical commodity) and also anything not owned by the Match group as they are too ban-happy.

 

[Lean Baby Face]

Doesn't really matter, desperate thirsty men will always find their way to flood any dating website with an active female user base, even if its target group are traditional women. And, if it has a free messaging option, expect it to be overrun by scammers and bots as well.

Actually, this year I tried out a dating website/app I hadn't used since 2021, and the amount of fakes writing perverted messages to me with weird-looking links in them got so extreme and tiring that I had to delete my profile again.

I think the websites where you have to pay to do everything are slightly better because it centers the serious people (the ones that are left at least) more at one place and also keeps the fake profiles away.

 

[CornbreadFed]

All of them, now start swiping

 

[Hoodie]

Problem with dating apps, is there is no barrier to talk to them.
It doesn't require you to be confident and brave, like you need when going up to a girl.
And second, you don't know if the attraction is there until you meet up.
So you could be wasting alot of time, for someone who you don't even click with.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

And second, you don't know if the attraction is there until you meet up.

I would argue that, with photo based apps, you both are attracted to each other if you match.

 

[corrector]

Problem with dating apps, is there is no barrier to talk to them.
It doesn't require you to be confident and brave, like you need when going up to a girl.

You are more likely to get an interaction if you go up to a girl and talk to her. With dating websites (ie I tried them in the past but never did the app thing), there are so many ignores, no replies (ie and I would imagine left swipes for "modern" dating apps), that this would be a soul crushing experience in and of itself, especially if you know there is some Chad/Tyrone that is cleaning house. It sounds good on paper (ie no risk of rejection, hiding behind a screen, etc....) but when you go back to see if you got a reply or a match and you get nothing, that's still a disappointment/rejection.

I would venture to say that it is less soul-crushing if you interact with a lady in-person compared to online because you don't have this delayed rejection thing that plays with your head.

 

[Bingo-Player]

None of them as their all run by women

Women may "want" sex as much as men but the reality is most men are prepared to pay a far far higher price both in money and time to get sex from women

Be that directly or indirectly

The apps know theres a far greater number of needy men on there , men whom will pay for boosts and spotlights and all the other bullsh1t they've come up with

the worst part is theres hardly any interested women left on them , the women that are left are literally just on there to complain about what they don't want

You could put a piece of punctuation in the wrong place and you'd get ghosted

That's how pointless the whole thing has become

If modern men had any gumption they would just boycott the apps that's the only way you'll see any change

 

[Hamurabimbi]

You are more likely to get an interaction if you go up to a girl and talk to her. With dating websites (ie I tried them in the past but never did the app thing), there are so many ignores, no replies (ie and I would imagine left swipes for "modern" dating apps), that this would be a soul crushing experience in and of itself, especially if you know there is some Chad/Tyrone that is cleaning house. It sounds good on paper (ie no risk of rejection, hiding behind a screen, etc....) but when you go back to see if you got a reply or a match and you get nothing, that's still a disappointment/rejection.

I would venture to say that it is less soul-crushing if you interact with a lady in-person compared to online because you don't have this delayed rejection thing that plays with your head.

I would imagine getting no matches on OLD would indeed be soul crushing. Whereas getting that little jingle from Tinder that lets you know you got a match is definitely a dopamine rush.
It is a big risk-reward decision. One that shouldn’t be taken lightly.