Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
Yup.Did you discuss that with her? Early on, my plate was late all the time. I brought it up and now she comes on time or earlier.
Yup.Did you discuss that with her? Early on, my plate was late all the time. I brought it up and now she comes on time or earlier.
Why not just tell her you want her there 20 minutes before you actually want her there?Yup.
Because that’s not how things workWhy not just tell her you want her there 20 minutes before you actually want her there?
If she's early that's a quickie.
The ship sailed the relationship had other problems, thanks for the encouragement tho.Why not just tell her you want her there 20 minutes before you actually want her there?
If she's early that's a quickie.
Plenty of people make great decisions in some areas of their lives and terrible decisions in other areas of their lives.
The fact you are constantly putting the balme on others for the positions YOU put yourself in is very telling.
The only constant in all of this is YOU. When there are a lot of variables and one constant and the same problems, well...your ego doesn't want to allow you to see it, but the truth is there nonetheless.
Making sound financial decisions has no bearing on making good relationship decisions and the ability to screen women properly for what ACTUALLY matters for long term relationship suitability.
Your problem seems to be that you base 90% of their LTR qualifications off looks and that is not how to properly screen someone for an LTR. That's how to properly screen someone for a FWB only.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
See, that's really a cop out. People will pretty much ALWAYS show you who they really are within the first 3 dates, most of the time on the first date. It's up to you to know how to see the clues, know how to ask questions that seem innocuous but give insights into their personalities and then to believe them.That's an assumption you're making, an untrue one at that. I also expected them to be educated, good income (six figures +) and loyal. Thing is, narcissistic women are good at putting up a social mask. Each of my last three relationships has been shorter and shorter. Six, five and four months. In fact I had another one end (she's still trying to hoover me on and off) And I met these women within weeks of each breakup. I'm getting better at spotting the covert narcissists, but you purely make assumptions that I'm solely basing my selections off of looks. I don't date women who don't have their financials together and they must show certain signs. Trouble is, they are good at faking loyalty and stability for a while. Which is why they try to suck me into a relationship quickly and lock me down by marriage (no chance). It's because they can only keep the façade going for so long.
My last gf was:
-Top university educated.
-Six figure (total comp 200/250K) salary at Fortune 50 company.
-Parents still married.
-Never married.
-No kids.
-26.
-96 lbs
-A drop dead 10/11.
-Asian (Vietnamese, stay away from these, even she told me they are trouble, and neither I or any of my friends have had any non crazy ones....viet girls are usually very hot, remember the hot/crazy matrix....).
As the relationship progressed, I found out she was in therapy, on anti depressants, was up and down in past relationships as well, etc. She was manipulative, etc.
Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows you don't TRULY know the other person until you've been with them for a while. It's not like she admitted she was crazy in the first few dates (she did admit it a few months in, even saying she was REALLY crazy, not just a little). It's not like she acted unstable on our first few dates. She was on her best behavior until she got comfortable with me. That's when her TRUE self showed....
See, that's really a cop out. People will pretty much ALWAYS show you who they really are within the first 3 dates, most of the time on the first date. It's up to you to know how to see the clues, know how to ask questions that seem innocuous but give insights into their personalities and then to believe them.
Many guys fail at step 1, most fail at step 2. They see the red flags, they choose to ignore them.
Let's be real, there were red flags within the first 3 dates, you either didn't see them or chose to ignore them.
At the end of the day, this all comes back to ability to screen properly. Maybe instead of worrying about all those superficial things you should be more worried about what type of person she actually is. Money and Harvard educated doesn't mean sh!t in terms of who she is as a person. That's how I know you aren't screening for things that actually matter, because you said absolutely zero about the type of person she was, only about how much money she makes and other random things.
I'd much rather date a waitress who is a good person than some corporate manager who is a stone cold b!tch.
Imo if you focus on congruency that can lead to gleaning insightWell we'll have to agree to disagree. I think it's unreasonable to believe people will show you who they are in the first 3 dates. If that was the case, most women wouldn't end up in abusive relationships. People are on their best behavior early on. You don't really get to know somebody until a few months have passed.
Seems like most people would agree it takes a few months....
WTF.My last gf was:
-Top university educated.
-Six figure (total comp 200/250K) salary at Fortune 50 company.
-Parents still married.
-Never married.
-No kids.
-26.
-96 lbs
I used to live in California and there are many women like this. They come from Asia.WTF.
The average 13 year old teenage girl weighs 101 lbs.
How does a 26 year old woman weigh 96 lbs?
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Height...she was 5 feet tall. Vietnamese, they are petite.WTF.
The average 13 year old teenage girl weighs 101 lbs.
How does a 26 year old woman weigh 96 lbs?
She was Vietnamese...I used to live in California and there are many women like this. They come from Asia.
Imo if you focus on congruency that can lead to gleaning insight
Companies don’t give six figure salaries, $250K to Vietnamese girls who are 5’0.Height...she was 5 feet tall. Vietnamese, they are petite.
This made me wonder.... For all the well experienced men on here... I'm sure that most of the women from your pasts were still more experienced that you are due to their natural abundance.... How does that make you experienced fellas feel?THIS >> " I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough women that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable woman who understands how to treat a man. "
now, reverse this, to
I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough man that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable man who understands how to treat a woman.
something u can't unsee. next time you see a woman with a "BF" means, she sucked and ****ed enough dudes already..for that year..
You're a woman? Most women aren't like that. Some, sure. I've found most traditional Asian women have low body counts. My recent gf actually called the guys she dated before me and proved without them knowing I was on the phone that they never slept together. Kissed a couple times, couple dates, that's it. Her ex boyfriends, took months to sleep with her. She was 26, body count three, including me.THIS >> " I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough women that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable woman who understands how to treat a man. "
now, reverse this, to
I'm honestly at the point where I've slept with enough man that I don't really care. I got my "validation" and a high body count. I want a relationship with an attractive and stable man who understands how to treat a woman.
something u can't unsee. next time you see a woman with a "BF" means, she sucked and ****ed enough dudes already..for that year..
You're a woman? Most women aren't like that. Some, sure. I've found most traditional Asian women have low body counts. My recent gf actually called the guys she dated before me and proved without them knowing I was on the phone that they never slept together. Kissed a couple times, couple dates, that's it. Her ex boyfriends, took months to sleep with her. She was 26, body count three, including me.