Hello all!
I have been taking a break from this site for some time now. I wanted figure this stuff out for my self with first hand experience not from someone else I read on this board. I decided I would make a change the day I came back to Colorado to go to CU-Boulder. I arrived in Colorado with a new outlook: I could be whoever I wanted to be because it was my choice not anyone else’s.
I always had a huge fear of approaching women, and I assume most people have this fear to because we are programmed to think that approaching strangers is wrong. I wanted to achieve my goal of being able to approach any girl, any time, anywhere, have fun doing it, approach 40 chicks before summer session ends(August 8), and if I find a quality chick possibly have an LTR. So, I figured that I will be living in the dorms for the summer and I will be on campus most of the time. I should start doing cold approaches because this is where I would see most of the girls I would want to date, kiss, and have sex with.
I have learned a lot over the past month by approaching chicks cold. Every girl I have approached has been friendly, none have laughed in my face, and no one in the background really cares if you pick up a girl. These are some of the fears I had before I started to approach cold, and so far none have come true. I have noticed my comfort level goes up every time a approach a girl to, it just gets easier and easier, like saying hi to strangers, at first it is awkward because you never do it, then it becomes second nature to you. Same thing with approaching, yes, I still have a tick here and there, but if the chick is alone, she is toast!
Here are some posts that really inspired me to break out of my shell:
Walden’s journey through MOTU’s bootcamp, the progression of Walden can be seen with each post he makes, thanks Walden for sharing you experience:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30105
2ndTour’s Rejection Collection post really shows you persistence always pays off in the end:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16725
Photo 1’s post on a Are you a Guy who just can’t approach really changes your outlook:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
and countless others like SexPDX, Stuart Scott, Vassago, Umbra, icepick, Survivor, The Edge, Pro, wheelin&dealin, Mr. Mystery, Pecker and YOU reading this have all helped me believe that it is possible to be who you want to be.
I’m nowhere near where I want to be, but each day I get a little closer to my goal. I wrote this post, so I could inspire one person to go out there I risk rejection because they will learn more from that than ten Don Jon tips of the day. I will continue to update this everyday, and I hope other people will add there experiences also because I believe we can learn a lot from each other.
BTW, I asked every girl I’m interested in if she is single because I don’t want to mess around with a chick’s boyfriend, it is too much for me to handle.
First 23 Cold Approaches and Counting:
Approach 1 on June 30, 2003
I saw a HB9 brunette working as a hostess when I ate lunch at this Mexican restaurant. I asked if she was single, and she gave me an ambiguous answer like she had a boyfriend, but she wanted my number. I told her "No, I asked you first"(thanks sosuave) and she still wouldn't hand it over, but she told me to come back at the end of the summer. I tell you guys how this one turns out later; she did seem to have a high IL but had a boyfriend at the time.
Approach 2 on July 1, 2003
I saw a cute chick working at the hot dog stand, so, I knew, that she prefers the meat. I approached her, short convo, asked for number, got it. I called her a few days later to set up a date, and she told me she call me back. I’m still waiting for that call. Next!!!
Approach 3 on July 2, 2003
I was walking around the campus to get a feel for the school because I was starting in a week. I saw a girl that appeared to have a awesome body from a distance, and I was already asking where a certain building was before I realized she wasn’t that hot. She seemed interested because she asked my a bunch of questions, I could have gone for her number but I chose not to.
No approaches between July 3 and July 7 because I had my mom’s wedding to get ready for and attend and school was starting soon also and I was lazy.
Approach 4 on July 8, 2003
The first day of summer session, I was eating some eggs when I saw this HB8 slender brunette walk past, so I stopped her and had a short convo, and then went for the number, she gave it to me and I called her two days later. I got her voice mail, and I left a message telling her I like to meet her for some coffee sometime and she should call me back. She never did. Bring on the next chick!
Approach 5 on July 9, 2003
I saw a HB9 laying down outside my dorm. I immediately approached her without any hesitation. I was with a couple of guys, and we had an interesting conversation with her.
Subsequently, a couple of days later she comes into my room to talk. At first she seemed a bit nervous around, then after awhile she opened up. A week later; she spends the night, which I don’t have any problems with. She is definitely a quality chick who could be LTR material, but I still want to see what else is out there.
Approach 6 on July 10, 2003
I was walking to class on the sidewalk when I saw HB9 Blonde chick walking the other direction towards me. So, I decided to take action and I didn’t have much time because my class was soon. I asked if she was single, she said yes, then I told her “I got to go, but I really would like to meet you, what’s your number,” and she gave me her number. I called two days later and set up a coffee date the next week and she accepted. I’m about to go on a third date with her the end of this week. Also, I did this whole number close in about thirty seconds, so it is possible to get a future meeting with a HB without establishing rapport.
Approach 7 on July 11, 2003
I saw another hot chick walking toward me from another dorm. I stopped her, had a convo, and found out she was not single, and decided to bail.
Approach 8 on July 11, 2003
Then I saw another chick and I got her number she was seventeen. I couldn’t tell how old she was, but since I’m trying to go for college girls, I never called her and an interesting thing happen after that.
Approach 9 on July 11, 2003
After that I approached a chick on the stairs, she said she wasn’t single, but she wanted to know why I approached her? I decided to leave because I want to find hot single women no boyfriend attachments for me.
Approach 10 on July 13, 2003
I saw a cute chick at Safeway. I had a little convo with her then I asked if she was single. She said no. She said sorry as if she wanted to go out with me if she was single.
Approach 11 on July 13, 2003
I saw a woman standing on the ledge of a building with her bike. I said, “So what are you doing, taking a break?” And she seemed very friendly and interested because I had the balls to approach her. She didn’t look that old from a distance, but she was like 35 years old. We had a ten minute conversation, but I didn’t number close because I want a girl around my age.
Girls approaching me 1 on July 13, 2003
Three or Four of Kate’s friends approach me and wanted to find out what I was like. Then I gave them my number to call me(just to see if they would), and to my surprise they did, but I refused to go out with them because I don’t want to date 17 year old girls because I’m out of that high school scene.
Approach 12 on July 14, 2003
I saw a cute blond in the top floor of the bookstore. She did look over at me a couple of times, but I had to wait awhile to approach with all these people around. I’m glad that I did approach because she wasn’t single but seemed very interested in me because I did take that risk and she responding as if she was wanting me to approach. We had a short little fluff talk about what major, where are you from, etc. I left with my confidence boasted.
Approach 13 on July 16, 2003
I saw a cute brown hair girl that I decided to approach on the street. She was very direct and friendly, but I didn’t have success because she had a boyfriend or she was taken or had a husband or maybe she was a lesbian.
Approach 14 on July 17, 2003
I saw another cute brown hair girl in the library, so I decided to ask her if she was single(I didn’t want a conversation because people were studying). She responded with a silent “no” and I left. My confidence just keeps on improving with each approach I make.
Approach 15 on July 17, 2003
I saw a cute blonde chick working in the gym. She seemed very friendly and interested because she said she had a boyfriend in a depressing way after our convo.
I have been taking a break from this site for some time now. I wanted figure this stuff out for my self with first hand experience not from someone else I read on this board. I decided I would make a change the day I came back to Colorado to go to CU-Boulder. I arrived in Colorado with a new outlook: I could be whoever I wanted to be because it was my choice not anyone else’s.
I always had a huge fear of approaching women, and I assume most people have this fear to because we are programmed to think that approaching strangers is wrong. I wanted to achieve my goal of being able to approach any girl, any time, anywhere, have fun doing it, approach 40 chicks before summer session ends(August 8), and if I find a quality chick possibly have an LTR. So, I figured that I will be living in the dorms for the summer and I will be on campus most of the time. I should start doing cold approaches because this is where I would see most of the girls I would want to date, kiss, and have sex with.
I have learned a lot over the past month by approaching chicks cold. Every girl I have approached has been friendly, none have laughed in my face, and no one in the background really cares if you pick up a girl. These are some of the fears I had before I started to approach cold, and so far none have come true. I have noticed my comfort level goes up every time a approach a girl to, it just gets easier and easier, like saying hi to strangers, at first it is awkward because you never do it, then it becomes second nature to you. Same thing with approaching, yes, I still have a tick here and there, but if the chick is alone, she is toast!
Here are some posts that really inspired me to break out of my shell:
Walden’s journey through MOTU’s bootcamp, the progression of Walden can be seen with each post he makes, thanks Walden for sharing you experience:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30105
2ndTour’s Rejection Collection post really shows you persistence always pays off in the end:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16725
Photo 1’s post on a Are you a Guy who just can’t approach really changes your outlook:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096
and countless others like SexPDX, Stuart Scott, Vassago, Umbra, icepick, Survivor, The Edge, Pro, wheelin&dealin, Mr. Mystery, Pecker and YOU reading this have all helped me believe that it is possible to be who you want to be.
I’m nowhere near where I want to be, but each day I get a little closer to my goal. I wrote this post, so I could inspire one person to go out there I risk rejection because they will learn more from that than ten Don Jon tips of the day. I will continue to update this everyday, and I hope other people will add there experiences also because I believe we can learn a lot from each other.
BTW, I asked every girl I’m interested in if she is single because I don’t want to mess around with a chick’s boyfriend, it is too much for me to handle.
First 23 Cold Approaches and Counting:
Approach 1 on June 30, 2003
I saw a HB9 brunette working as a hostess when I ate lunch at this Mexican restaurant. I asked if she was single, and she gave me an ambiguous answer like she had a boyfriend, but she wanted my number. I told her "No, I asked you first"(thanks sosuave) and she still wouldn't hand it over, but she told me to come back at the end of the summer. I tell you guys how this one turns out later; she did seem to have a high IL but had a boyfriend at the time.
Approach 2 on July 1, 2003
I saw a cute chick working at the hot dog stand, so, I knew, that she prefers the meat. I approached her, short convo, asked for number, got it. I called her a few days later to set up a date, and she told me she call me back. I’m still waiting for that call. Next!!!
Approach 3 on July 2, 2003
I was walking around the campus to get a feel for the school because I was starting in a week. I saw a girl that appeared to have a awesome body from a distance, and I was already asking where a certain building was before I realized she wasn’t that hot. She seemed interested because she asked my a bunch of questions, I could have gone for her number but I chose not to.
No approaches between July 3 and July 7 because I had my mom’s wedding to get ready for and attend and school was starting soon also and I was lazy.
Approach 4 on July 8, 2003
The first day of summer session, I was eating some eggs when I saw this HB8 slender brunette walk past, so I stopped her and had a short convo, and then went for the number, she gave it to me and I called her two days later. I got her voice mail, and I left a message telling her I like to meet her for some coffee sometime and she should call me back. She never did. Bring on the next chick!
Approach 5 on July 9, 2003
I saw a HB9 laying down outside my dorm. I immediately approached her without any hesitation. I was with a couple of guys, and we had an interesting conversation with her.
Subsequently, a couple of days later she comes into my room to talk. At first she seemed a bit nervous around, then after awhile she opened up. A week later; she spends the night, which I don’t have any problems with. She is definitely a quality chick who could be LTR material, but I still want to see what else is out there.
Approach 6 on July 10, 2003
I was walking to class on the sidewalk when I saw HB9 Blonde chick walking the other direction towards me. So, I decided to take action and I didn’t have much time because my class was soon. I asked if she was single, she said yes, then I told her “I got to go, but I really would like to meet you, what’s your number,” and she gave me her number. I called two days later and set up a coffee date the next week and she accepted. I’m about to go on a third date with her the end of this week. Also, I did this whole number close in about thirty seconds, so it is possible to get a future meeting with a HB without establishing rapport.
Approach 7 on July 11, 2003
I saw another hot chick walking toward me from another dorm. I stopped her, had a convo, and found out she was not single, and decided to bail.
Approach 8 on July 11, 2003
Then I saw another chick and I got her number she was seventeen. I couldn’t tell how old she was, but since I’m trying to go for college girls, I never called her and an interesting thing happen after that.
Approach 9 on July 11, 2003
After that I approached a chick on the stairs, she said she wasn’t single, but she wanted to know why I approached her? I decided to leave because I want to find hot single women no boyfriend attachments for me.
Approach 10 on July 13, 2003
I saw a cute chick at Safeway. I had a little convo with her then I asked if she was single. She said no. She said sorry as if she wanted to go out with me if she was single.
Approach 11 on July 13, 2003
I saw a woman standing on the ledge of a building with her bike. I said, “So what are you doing, taking a break?” And she seemed very friendly and interested because I had the balls to approach her. She didn’t look that old from a distance, but she was like 35 years old. We had a ten minute conversation, but I didn’t number close because I want a girl around my age.
Girls approaching me 1 on July 13, 2003
Three or Four of Kate’s friends approach me and wanted to find out what I was like. Then I gave them my number to call me(just to see if they would), and to my surprise they did, but I refused to go out with them because I don’t want to date 17 year old girls because I’m out of that high school scene.
Approach 12 on July 14, 2003
I saw a cute blond in the top floor of the bookstore. She did look over at me a couple of times, but I had to wait awhile to approach with all these people around. I’m glad that I did approach because she wasn’t single but seemed very interested in me because I did take that risk and she responding as if she was wanting me to approach. We had a short little fluff talk about what major, where are you from, etc. I left with my confidence boasted.
Approach 13 on July 16, 2003
I saw a cute brown hair girl that I decided to approach on the street. She was very direct and friendly, but I didn’t have success because she had a boyfriend or she was taken or had a husband or maybe she was a lesbian.
Approach 14 on July 17, 2003
I saw another cute brown hair girl in the library, so I decided to ask her if she was single(I didn’t want a conversation because people were studying). She responded with a silent “no” and I left. My confidence just keeps on improving with each approach I make.
Approach 15 on July 17, 2003
I saw a cute blonde chick working in the gym. She seemed very friendly and interested because she said she had a boyfriend in a depressing way after our convo.
Then again, I'm just learning so what do I know.