Criticism

[tatlongxxx]

Can i ask you people, have you experienced being criticized by your friends including your parents, brothers and sisters?

What will you do?

Pls reply…. this is important to me!

 

[FM 3321]

Criticized about what?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Criticism isn't necessarily a bad thing. Whats as important as the content is the way it's presented though.

 

[So Many Ways]

I don't understand, you need to be more specific. Criticism is a part of life.

 

[tatlongxxx]

its all about you...

on what you are doing in life.....
underestimating my capabilities....
decisions......
or in any other words they treat you shiiiit..


how to handle this situations?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Commit this to memory and use it whenever someone attempts to sh1t on you in the disguise as critisism.

"Thank's for your concern, I will give it the thought and careful consideration that it deserves."

Repeat it frequently if necessary.

 

[Desdinova]

I usually just let the person speak their piece of 5hit opinion and just ignore it. Just nod and say "uh huh". I hate people who try to dictate my life. I've learned how to deal with it quite well.

Only you can decide if their opinion is valuable or not. Only you can choose to follow their advice or not.

 

[NewMan]

You have to evaluate the person and the criticism.

If the person is close to you - and has concern about you, then you need to evaluate what they are saying.

You make the ultimate decision.

Are you sure it is criticism - it maybe just unasked for advice.

 

[GirlCrazy]

Seize the day, make the world your b1tch, and don't listen to people that critisize you. Chances are they are just trying to project their own insecurities, fears and failures upon you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by GirlCrazy
Seize the day, make the world your b1tch, and don't listen to people that critisize you. Chances are they are just trying to project their own insecurities, fears and failures upon you.

You're crazy, you don't know what you're talking about. Who do you think you are? What do you think you are doing here, what do you know???!!!

Isn't this forum about criticizing what DJ wannabes are doing wrong and how to correct it? Why should they ignore it?

 

[GirlCrazy]

Isn't this forum about criticizing what DJ wannabes are doing wrong and how to correct it? Why should they ignore it?

What I really meant to say is "be the world's b1tch" and "listen to people who critisize you"

LOL

 

[Chrispy]

think of it a a favor, but judge from whom the criticism is coming from. What you will find later is that girls that like you don't criticise you if they like you a lot...so it's best to get a shot of reality from those closer to you.

 

[tatlongxxx]

situation is....
i am living with my parents and my sister is just besides us. My girlfriend lives with me, and i dont want her to hear the criticisms in me.

It hurts my feeling when they criticizes me in-front of my girlfriend. Likewise, I’m afraid that this may fracture our relationship.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Sorry to say this but your girlfriend is going to make her own decision about her impression of you. All you can try to do is show that the criticism isn't accurate.

Now, does any of the criticisms have anything to do about you still living at home? There's only one way to deal with that.

 

[Desdinova]

i am living with my parents and my sister is just besides us. My girlfriend lives with me, and i dont want her to hear the criticisms in me.

If it's really a problem, why don't you and your gf get a place of your own? Since the both of you are living with your parents, she's going to hear things anyway since she's under the same roof as them.

your girlfriend is going to make her own decision about her impression of you.

Agreed. She's either going to allow your parents to influence her impression of you, or she won't. The influence may be stronger since she's also living with them.

 

[NewMan]

Your living with your parents. So deal with it.

if you don't want someone hanging over your shoulder move out to your own place.


You don't want your GF having a bad opinion of you?

Well let's start from the top.

Your living with your parents. Your not yet a man. Your realying on someone else to take care fo you.

Enough said.

And buy the way, this is the MATURE forum.

Over 30's.

If your still living with your parents and your over 30 - you need to pull your socks up.

 

[NewMan]

I oppologize. Over 25's.

dat's cool.

 

[Alpine]

There's nothing wrong with listening, you may evaluate it as valid feedback that is useful.

However you are yiur own gatekeeper to your brain. This is the key. If it's negative, whining rubbish, then refuse to let it in.

Always remember people have their own reasons. As you grow, the people around you sometimes feel they are being left behind, in a way they want to hold you back for their own unconscious reasons.

Or....

Maybe people are saying, get off your butt and do something with your life, and you are in denial.

Who knows.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by tatlongxxx
situation is....
i am living with my parents and my sister is just besides us. My girlfriend lives with me, and i dont want her to hear the criticisms in me.

It hurts my feeling when they criticizes me in-front of my girlfriend. Likewise, I’m afraid that this may fracture our relationship.

Relax...your girlfriend has parents too, and probably brothers or sisters. Families criticize each other out of love. Yes, it's annoying and quite frequently it's either unfair or a case of them applying their own thoughts and feelings to your life. Take it with a grain of salt.

If the criticism is valid, then do what you can to improve those areas of your life. If it's not, your gf should be sharp enough to know that.

 

[TheMainMan]

British Saying. Says it all- 'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing...be nothing'. Need I say any more.