Originally posted by TinyDancer
Well, I am a girl, so I doubt I will be laying any girls ever. When it comes to guys though, I intend on not having sex with anyone until I get married. Not for religious reasons or anything, just out of respect for my future husband. I think that the knowledge that you have saved yourself for him, and that you are entirely his to have is one of the greatest things you can give to the person you love.
If girls would really think about the long-run, they would see that people have a better chance of ending up happy if they believe in the 'old-fashioned' values and really embrace their femininity (which, contrary to popular belief, does not just come from between a woman's legs)
A truly classy woman:
- Is devoted to her husband or boyfriend
- Can take care of and enjoys children
- Can cook a good meal
- Can give a great backrub
- Prides herself on her honesty and integrity
- Is understanding of other peoples needs
- Dresses in ways that suit her figure, but does not flaunt herself, especially in public
- Is not lazy. She has a job, ambition and could support herself if she chose to. She is just very careful not to let her career cut into time that she should be spending with her family.
- Is gracious to her husbands friends and family
- Loves sex, but keeps her sex life between her and her husband. She knows what information is private.
- Works to maintain a good marriage. Although she loves her kids she doesn't ever allow them to sleep in the master bedroom, and she frequently goes out on dates with her husband. She actively sacrifices things and makes decisions that keep the passion alive.
- Is not stuck up. Her class does not come from being a snob, but from genuinely caring about how she presents herself and how the things she does affects other people.
It is partly because of the true selfishness of most women in America that so many men are becoming more attracted to foreign women. In America, people are taught to care for only themselves. In few other places are someone's individual feelings and decisions so much more important than what is good for everyone. It's pretty sad.
Yea, that's nice and all.... I didn't read your list of "a classy woman" because you are a woman. That's like a wolf telling a hunter what makes a good kill. I'll be the decider of that, thank you. Anyway, lets say you find your "man" and he displays everything you ever wanted, but he says that he doesn't wannna wait til marriage for sex. If you say you wanna wait, then this becomes no longer for you man but for yourself. Which goes against your "beliefs". However your possesive, submissive talk about a woman being just for one man is cute (tho naive) With all this feministic media coverage, I'd have thought every woman would have a different outlooks. But by your viewpoint, I'd assume that you'd think that men are more physical creatures and women are more emotional, so a man could (only theoretically of course
) fake emotions to get the end value, being physical, manipulating you to get in your jeans (and trust me, there is many people on the site here who, with incentive, could easily get you in bed)
In fact you must be pretty uptight having never got sexual release in your life. How would you feel if you built up anticipation in your head, kinda like when you are waiting for something to happen in a horror movie, MULTIPLED BY 100, to the point where you can barely breathe and you don't even care. And imagine on our honeymoon night when you turn the lights on and find out that your man is working with a small piece of equipment, or how about finding out weddin night that he's a transvestite? On the flipside, how many stories have you heard about men leaving marriages because the sex was non-existent or slowly diminshed. Are you some kind of anamolly? What makes your pvssy so powerful that it'll keep one guy sprung? This has to be in your head. There hasn't always been chivalry, engagement, or practicing abstinence, but from the beginning of mankind there has only been abou three constants: life, death, and reproduction (through Sex!) You are cutting out something that is programmed into our dna and memory.
Your marriage pool is limited to people who have never been in an intimate relationship (the nerds at Comp. U. are all yours) or people who are very religious, who will, no doubt have some kind of strong belief on current issues like gay people, black people, or even thinking the world will die tommorow and forcing you to join a cult with turtles as your new god. The reason they have such strong (though narrow-minded) beliefs is because for the most part they haven't experienced otherwise
That sounds like quite a good field, and I know you're telling yourself "I'll never marry someone closeminded like that, I want to be openminded..." but how can you be openminded if essentially your are doing the same thing as everyone else, by knocking something before you've even experienced it.
How do you know that you won't get soo obsessed with sex, always in the back of your mind, seeing the constant sexual connotations on every piece of advertising and product. What if this forces you just to rush into marriage? What if you get divorced? Will you then stay abstinent for the rest of your life, or what if you find another man? Won't you have disrespected him by sleeping with someone else? What if your husband dies? Do you become a desolate widow until you die? I suppose you would, staying away from physical contact for the rest of your life, too afraid to let yourself be vulnerable (you've had all these years of practice)
Just outta curiousity how old are you, because you sound old-fashioned and naive at the same time, soo my guess is between 15-32 because there are few gurls who would still be virgins after 30. I'm 17 yet more open-minded and i don't consider myself wise, but definetly not as "smart" as you.
Every heard Socrates and his outlook on life? This is applicable for this case "Tis better to be open-minded and wrong, then close-minded and right" Think of sex like the matrix, you believe something to be true for the majority of your life, until you had adulthood and someone gives you the red pill (that is what we will call the worst sexual experience in your life
) After you take the red pill you will just feel regret for the years wasted being closeminded and try and convert the non-believers...
