Crazy College Experiences

[TinyDancer]

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend

In fact you must be pretty uptight having never got sexual release in your life. How would you feel if you built up anticipation in your head, kinda like when you are waiting for something to happen in a horror movie, MULTIPLED BY 100, to the point where you can barely breathe and you don't even care. And imagine on our honeymoon night when you turn the lights on and find out that your man is working with a small piece of equipment, or how about finding out weddin night that he's a transvestite?

Unfortunately for me, I don't think I took the time to talk about what saving yourself until marriage entails. You can certainly be physically intimate with a person without having intercourse, you can certainly give someone oral sex three times a day and still be a virgin.
I am not sexually unfufilled, I have given and recieved sexual satisfaction, I have dropped to my knees in the kitchen and given my boyfriend pleasure simply because I felt like it...I'm making myself a replica of Princess Leia's metal bikini to wear for my him... I am not a prude, I do not think sex is dirty, just because our fooling around does not lead to sex does not belie either of these things. I am holding off on having intercourse only because I want my future husband to know that there is no question that part of me is only for him.

I don't think you understand what I am trying to say when I assert my concerns about how girls act today. There is a significant difference between getting drunk and fondling another girl's breasts in order to get attention, and being in a committed relationship with one person and keeping your sex life private. Everyone will have a different opinion on this, which is just fine.

I am not puritanical. I just feel that there is a lack of respect in today's relationships. It's a shame you didn't read my list Microphone, if you had, you would see that the vast majority of points did not pertain to sex at all, but instead to things that would make a woman the type of wife a man could be proud of.

I am 17. I am not any smarter than anyone else, I do believe in things that are slightly old-fashioned, like fidelity and respect in a relationship, but I am not naive. I have had several relationships, some more satisfactory than others. Right now I am in a great LTR, I am devoted to my boyfriend and I know that he appreciates the things that I do for him. It makes me happy to make him happy. It's just that simple.

 

[JohnJones]

Either way, I think the girl who aims to save things for marriage may be better off than someone who does not, whether that is realistic or even doable long term. Tiny has a DJ idea: she knows what she wants (and has evaluated the universe as best she can to determine that what she wants is rational) and is sticking to it.


As to society, I honestly think that once you combine the insecurity identified above (and we've seen a million posts on it) with some simple economics, you get the double standard: so long as there is any woman who for whatever reason decides to ration her sexual activity (because it seems like the thing for her, or she's just not into sex that much or whatever), there will be some men who value that and will pursue women like that. So, even if people are free to be/do what they want, someone will determine, whether shallow or not, that they have an edge or marketability or differentiation and someone will respond to it.

All of supply and demand aside, though, the viciousnous that gets visited on wanton women can only come from some primal fears in men.

Back on the original post, frankly I am shocked too: my worst story is when I was older but she was in college (a KD at Northwestern I believe). I met her in a bar in NYC and she told me all about her b/f and how great he was. As we drunkenly made out all up and down 7th Ave and back to the hotel, I kept saying "what about your b/f?" I was reassured by her that he was nowhere around.

2nd story is a [female] friend of mine's: Was an engaged 19 yo on Thanksgiving break for a weekend in Miami with her roomate, met a "fighter pilot" [because Miami is really close to Pensacola, I guess] and ended up in a hot tub with him. But she only wanted innocent cheating with him and he wanted to take off her bikini, so to ward off a bad situation, she gave him a 5-finger massage.

Only college girl logic could come up with the excuse that she "had" to give him the HJ to ward off potentially "having" to have sex with him (because she led him on) -- what about not getting into the hot tub at all when you have another dude's engagement ring on...

But if you're drunk and on vacation, it's not cheating.

 

[djcolon]

first time poster long time reader,......tiny's right, who wants to marry "free **** dolls", women with "class" are better than "sluts" we all love sluts cos they spread their legs easily, but i doubt anyone respects them, such women are a disgrace to the society, and in american society where "hoes, *****es, sluts" are glamorized with shows like "sex and the city" and if ur a virgin or chose to be, r laughed at cos u ain't cool really shows how ****ed up this society is, there is no element of dignity or morality left in women these days. Wait till those *****es get old, wrinkly, ugly and fat lets see how much love would u have for them. Real men want Real women not cheap, free ****ing, American hoes.

 

[MrCode]

I respect your ideas TinyDancer, and your description of a classy woman is fantastic. BUT, I find you logic regarding sex as being a little flawed. Maybe I don't understand it being a man (and therefore not having a vagina), but how are you keeping yourself "sacred" or whatever by doing everything BUT vaginal intercourse? Won't your future, possibly old-fashioned, husband be as disappointed in your giving old boyfriends BJs and whatever else you do (anal? Him performing cunnilingus?) Just because you didn't let a penis enter your vagina doesn't mean you are pure.

I'm not trying to rain in on your parade (well maybe I am), but it seems like a funny distinction, almost a rationalization ("well, I've done everything but vaginal intercourse, so I've saved myself very nicely for Prince Charming in the future.")

Still in an ideal world I would like to thoroughly sow my oats with several of the sluts in the world, then marry a girl like you

To actually address the original topic of the thread, I was an introverted computer geek in college so didn't do crap. In fact several girls practically put themselves on a platter for me and I still didn't do squat. Oh well, I can't change the past, but I intend to make my future much different

 

[TinyDancer]

Originally posted by MrCode
I respect your ideas TinyDancer, and your description of a classy woman is fantastic. BUT, I find you logic regarding sex as being a little flawed. Maybe I don't understand it being a man (and therefore not having a vagina), but how are you keeping yourself "sacred" or whatever by doing everything BUT vaginal intercourse? Won't your future, possibly old-fashioned, husband be as disappointed in your giving old boyfriends BJs and whatever else you do (anal? Him performing cunnilingus?) Just because you didn't let a penis enter your vagina doesn't mean you are pure.

The things you say have a lot of truth to them, but there is no way to define what purity is. It is now just a matter of opinion, where one person draws their line is very different than where someone else may draw it. I cannot argue with you because to you feel the way you feel. It's your opinion, and your opinion by definition, cannot be wrong, I can only say that I draw my line in a different place.

 

[Ice Cold]

No sh1t college girls are sluts.

hooray for slutty girls

Met one in a lab. What's your name? Blah blah blah

We're walking out of the lab...
She: "so, where you going?"
Me: "to your dorm"
She: "ok"

I pat her ass

She smiles, shows me in. We grab a bite, I look at her room, we fukk for 4 months straight.

 

[MrCode]

Originally posted by TinyDancer
The things you say have a lot of truth to them, but there is no way to define what purity is. It is now just a matter of opinion, where one person draws their line is very different than where someone else may draw it. I cannot argue with you because to you feel the way you feel. It's your opinion, and your opinion by definition, cannot be wrong, I can only say that I draw my line in a different place.

Fair enough. But what if your future Prince Charming draws the line further back than you do? For example, you putting a penis in your mouth may taint you in his eyes.

By the way, I'm not one of the "my girl must be pure" guys, I just think you are fooling yourself a bit here. Because if you were doing this for yourself, to make yourself feel better, great. But you said in a previous post you are doing this for your future husband, yet since you have not met him yet, you do not know for sure whether he really requires said purity, or whether his requirements will be more strict than yours. Logically, you cannot guarantee success, as long as you are doing this for him.

But I know women are not logical, so nevermind

 

[MrCode]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
No sh1t college girls are sluts.

hooray for slutty girls

Met one in a lab. What's your name? Blah blah blah

We're walking out of the lab...
She: "so, where you going?"
Me: "to your dorm"
She: "ok"

I pat her ass

She smiles, shows me in. We grab a bite, I look at her room, we fukk for 4 months straight.

I don't know man, you just asked for what you wanted, and got it. Doesn't mean she is a slut. Still, nice story

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by MrCode
I don't know man, you just asked for what you wanted, and got it. Doesn't mean she is a slut. Still, nice story

Oh nooo...

I'm not saying she was a slut. Looks like she needed a d1ck and I needed a pvssy and we were secure enough to act on it.

That's my ideal kind of girl.

 

[Snatchmaster]

Originally posted by TinyDancer
I intend on not having sex with anyone until I get married. Not for religious reasons or anything, just out of respect for my future husband. I think that the knowledge that you have saved yourself for him, and that you are entirely his to have is one of the greatest things you can give to the person you love.

Yeah, just what every man needs, a virgin bride.

Personally, I would rather have a woman who knows how to f***, who has a healthy sex drive and who isn't screwed up in the head about how precious her p***y is.

As the saying goes:
Virgins, if theyre that young I don't want them, and if they're that old and still a virgin, I definitely don't want them.