"Crazy" Chick--Should I Pursue?

[joesknows]

Recently met a tall blonde hot chick. It was at a party so it was a warm approach but I believe she initiated the approaching.

She interjected into a conversation I was having with another girl, overheard me saying I liked a particular band. She said it was also her favorite band and that she was a DJ. I didn't believe her because she really didn't seem the type. She started dropping some hardcore sexual innuendos, talking about how she loved to "play with knobs" and loved getting a crowd "turned on."

I wasn't buying any of it, but she re-approached me several times more later on, insisting she was a DJ. Then she said she wanted me to come to her house the following weekend.

Almost all of this talk was in a circle of people--I was pretty sure it was all b.s. but none of her friends were showing her hand so I went along with it somewhat.

I've texted her once with no reply. I'm wondering if I should bother trying a 2nd or 3rd time, just for practice. My take on it is that she's a cool chick but was embarrassed that I wouldn't go along with her wacky stories. I'm sure she gets lots of guys going along with any and all of her nonsense so she might've found it strange that I was displaying any skepticism at all. Probably also trying to pump up her value unnecessarily which didn't make much sense since she's a very pretty girl and doesn't really need to hype herself up, especially with a bunch of wacky lies.

 

[devilkingx2]

She sounds like a drunk attention ***** to me, but also fun. But yeah playing along or joking around with her would've been the right way to handle this.

Wait a while to see if she responds and if she doesn't after a few days you can send her exactly 1 more text. Make sure it's something that she would only not respond to if she was ignoring you on purpose.

The most likely reason she didn't respond is that she lost interest when she sobered up (if she's not just an AW to begin with). But the reason you're hoping for is that she just forgot to respond or was busy or something.

 

[bat soup]

Recently met a tall blonde hot chick. It was at a party so it was a warm approach but I believe she initiated the approaching.

She interjected into a conversation I was having with another girl, overheard me saying I liked a particular band. She said it was also her favorite band and that she was a DJ. I didn't believe her because she really didn't seem the type. She started dropping some hardcore sexual innuendos, talking about how she loved to "play with knobs" and loved getting a crowd "turned on."

I wasn't buying any of it, but she re-approached me several times more later on, insisting she was a DJ. Then she said she wanted me to come to her house the following weekend.

Almost all of this talk was in a circle of people--I was pretty sure it was all b.s. but none of her friends were showing her hand so I went along with it somewhat.

I've texted her once with no reply. I'm wondering if I should bother trying a 2nd or 3rd time, just for practice. My take on it is that she's a cool chick but was embarrassed that I wouldn't go along with her wacky stories. I'm sure she gets lots of guys going along with any and all of her nonsense so she might've found it strange that I was displaying any skepticism at all. Probably also trying to pump up her value unnecessarily which didn't make much sense since she's a very pretty girl and doesn't really need to hype herself up, especially with a bunch of wacky lies.

If she didn't reply then why waste your time? She's probably just getting off on the attention she gets when she does these stupid things.

 

[RBK]

Don't double text, you're better than her remember that. Every girl has her phone 24/7 if she doesn't reply she doesn't want to.

 

[joesknows]

It took me a few days, but I have a much better sense of how the gals wanted things to go. The thing is, yeah, I didnt get an explicit 'invite' to bounce with part of the group, but all of the ladies had shown so much interest it was not even a question that I would join up and then make plans from there.

I was being a bit too conservative in some cases, so I guess I'll know better next time. I just have to remember that teasing and story telling in these types of situations are just for fun and to not be so "rational" but to enjoy more.

 

[RangerMIke]

Drunk... out with friends having fun. I've seen this a lot. Don't give her another thought. If you had actually tried something with her that night, her friends would have stopped it.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Textbook attention wh0re. Don't text her again. Your first text to her is all she was looking for - the validation that she could have you if she wanted you, but she doesn't and that's why you aren't hearing from her. If she was interested she would reply. Never double text.

My take on it is that she's a cool chick but was embarrassed that I wouldn't go along with her wacky stories.

No. She wasn't embarrassed. You're second-guessing and blaming yourself. It has nothing to do with you.

 

[joesknows]

Wow, you guys are super cynical! I suppose I'm not as blackpilled as the rest of the forum.

As a bit of context, on an average (weekend) night out, I often have half a dozen women or so approach me, and maybe a dozen or more show strong signs of interest, so this chickie's behavior is not unusual.

What's different is how many months it's been since I've been in this type of environment--it's almost like starting over.

It probably didn't help that I waited nearly a week to text her back, I didn't even ask her a question so she didn't even have a prompt to reply back.

IME, whether a girl texts back or not is not in any way an indication of how strong her level of interest is. Many women who show no signs of texting or msging are all over me once they see me in person. I absolutely hate texting and msging unless absolutely necessary. It's so boring!

Drunk... out with friends having fun. I've seen this a lot. Don't give her another thought. If you had actually tried something with her that night, her friends would have stopped it.

Not really. She was with one other co-worker, but everyone else was just an acquaintance from other companies.

Textbook attention wh0re. Don't text her again. Your first text to her is all she was looking for - the validation that she could have you if she wanted you, but she doesn't and that's why you aren't hearing from her. If she was interested she would reply. Never double text.

No. She wasn't embarrassed. You're second-guessing and blaming yourself. It has nothing to do with you.

Actually she was. I guessed her true job/lifestyle very easily and she was embarrassed when she got "caught." She came up with some wacky drunk stories to try to boost her value and drop a bunch of sexual innuendo.

When I wasn't going along with her sexual innuendo, she had to resort to full on "sleep with me" rhetoric. When I didn't bite there for the second time (she obviously couldn't say "I want to sleep with you tonight"), that created huge embarrassment for her since now she can't walk it back at all.

 

[joesknows]

The main takeaway from all of this is that when a woman or in this case multiple women, feel sexually rejected, they can be enraged and fly off the handle. It's basically their last stand so this is one area which cannot be compromised.

 

[Mazer]

I would listen to the advice you have been given. We are here to help so please don’t insult us by labeling us “black pilled” and “super cynical” because it’s now what you wanted to hear. It also sounds like you are making excuses for the woman. It’s okay, we have all been there. You will see that all of the advice is correct.

 

[joesknows]

Blackpill is not necessarily an insult IMO, it's just a term for guys who focus on the negatives of contemporary dating life, rather than having a broader view of the positives and negatives. I can certainly see both the positives and negatives of modern dating so I don't categorize myself in this way. As far as being super cynical, unfortunately, that is the impression that many of you give off.

As far as "making excuses" for anyone, that doesn't even make any sense.

I don't really see how anyone much less everyone who's posted somehow has "master knowledge" of the dating life of a complete stranger. None of you were present, none of you know me, so claiming any sort of expertise is just kind of ridiculous. For all I know, you all could be a bunch of senior citizen incels. Or, maybe you are all experts who date endless strings of hotties. I would like to believe the reality is somewhere in between but can't verify that the worst case scenario isn't true, either.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

Wow, you guys are super cynical! I suppose I'm not as blackpilled as the rest of the forum.

You’ll find that the attitude of many guys on this forum is immediate nexting whenever a girl shows any signs of imperfection, especially non-submissiveness. It is pretty easy to recognize these people, so their advice is easy to avoid. Does not necessarily make them blackpilled, but you might notice that the same guys who say “she isn’t available that weekend? Immediate next!!!!!” are also usually whiny and post in a lot of complaining threads (which are becoming more and more common these days). I would just roll with it. They still have some good advice to contribute.

 

[joesknows]

You’ll find that the attitude of many guys on this forum is immediate nexting whenever a girl shows any signs of imperfection, especially non-submissiveness. It is pretty easy to recognize these people, so their advice is easy to avoid. Does not necessarily make them blackpilled, but you might notice that the same guys who say “she isn’t available that weekend? Immediate next!!!!!” are also usually whiny and post in a lot of complaining threads (which are becoming more and more common these days). I would just roll with it. They still have some good advice to contribute.

From my experience, the guys who complain the most about chicks are the ones who have the least success with women.

It's a low value mindset, the opposite of abundance. Then they try to boost their own value by bragging about themselves which they wouldn't need to do if they were actually successful. These guys are ridiculously easy to spot.

I'd like to see some guys who are actually successful with women chime in. These "attention hors" "next her" bot responses are just goofy. No one who spends time in the real world talks or thinks like that.

 

[GT40]

Text once more. If she replies then spin her as a plate. She’s not GF material at all.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Another know-it-all newcomer shows up asking questions, then criticizes not only the answers he receives, but takes it a step further and actually attacks the character and experience of the people trying to help him (and with quite a lengthy and detailed list of accusations).

The main takeaway from all of this is that when a woman or in this case multiple women, feel sexually rejected, they can be enraged and fly off the handle. It's basically their last stand so this is one area which cannot be compromised.

You see, you already have all the answers and don't need to ask us questions. Ask a mirror next time instead. It's clear you have a huge ego - one that doesn't allow you to accept that this woman isn't interested in you and you have to invent explanations as to why you rejected her instead of her rejecting you, and one that causes you to attack people who give you advice that doesn't fall in-line with what your ego wants to hear. But by all means, text her a few more times and see what happens. Regardless of the reason for her not responding to your text, your question was specifically whether or not you should text her again after she didn't reply to you, and that answer was, and still is: No.

I don't really see how anyone much less everyone who's posted somehow has "master knowledge" of the dating life of a complete stranger. None of you were present, none of you know me, so claiming any sort of expertise is just kind of ridiculous. For all I know, you all could be a bunch of senior citizen incels

Then why are you coming here asking questions? It sounds like we should be coming to you for advice, and you should stop asking us questions. The only problem is that I don't have any questions for you. I already know not to double text a girl who doesn't respond to me because it's 101 level knowledge.

The guys who have it the hardest are the narcissists who can't accept that a woman isn't interested them and who think they already know more than anyone else even though they are asking questions like whether or not they should keep texting a girl who doesn't reply.

Best of luck. You will need it.

 

[joesknows]

LOL bro butthurt because his sh-tty advice is being called out.

 

[bat soup]

OK, I won't be cynical because you don't like it. So here's my advice:

keep on texting her even if she doesn't reply. By the 10th message she'll surely remember how interesting and attractive you were and at that point she'll reply asking what time you want her to come over and suck your kok. However, if she continues to ignore you, write a poem to her that mentions the words "playing with knobs" and "turned on" and publish it in the local newspaper.

 

[joesknows]

The "attention whoare" bot strikes again. LMAO!

Notice these guys never have any of their own interactions with girls to report on....

Sounds like she's a huge attention whoare and/or an idiot. She's not cooperating, so forget her and move on.

There are some women on there just to get free dinners and attention. Those women match with everyone and stay there for years.

If she didn't reply then why waste your time? She's probably just getting off on the attention she gets when she does these stupid things.

 

[bat soup]

The "attention whoare" bot strikes again. LMAO!

Notice these guys never have any of their own interactions with girls to report on....

Seems like you took your time to get a few quotes together. Well done you! How's it going with the girl, by the way? Has she replied to your texts yet? If not, then why not send her a few more just to remind her how exciting and sane you are?

 

[joesknows]

And yet notice how batsh-t crazy never has any interactions with women to report on.....incel much?

In before....

Sounds like the kind of thing an attention whoare would do. They like to talk about sex instead of doing it. All talk, no action.