Courtney Ryan made a video about inexperienced men

[pipeman84]

Anyways, get off the porn. It will stop you from pedestalizing women and start allowing you to see them as humans and not objects.

I think it's the other way round, if he watches porn he gets desensitised to the female body and sex and it would be less likely he'll pedestalize a woman. Not only from a physical POV but also mentally. You actually see what women get down to. They wilfully let themselves being degraded on camera. I know, porn stars are a tiny minority of female population, but virtually all girls he's going to meet have sucked dyck and been fvcked doggy, most probably by some loser. Yet OP acts like they're somewhat superior to him and he has to pass an interview regarding his inexperience.

It's the same with IG models who use filters, special photo angles and such to appear much more attractive than they are in real life ... if you're used to that, you won't fall in awe when you meet and talk to the average woman. But if you live like a monk, no fap, no porn, semen retention ... all that BS ... then quite soon, women you would've considered ugly before will appear attractive.

 

[GoodMan32]

You’re still more experienced than me just with your unpaid experiences, and that’s a respectable amount of experience.

I related to her first point the most too. I’ve been doing that all my life and yeah, you feel like you’re turning the tables on them by rejecting them before they get the chance to reject you. But that hurts you more than it helps because you miss every shot you don’t take.

Yeah a lot of members over analyze because we do have to do most of the heavy lifting when it come a to dating, especially when they have so many options so there isn’t much room for error. I had people say negative things to me about my dating prospects as well and like you, it did affect me too.

Agreed, on the surface, it sounds like I have a decent amount of experience.

A lot of that experience happened in a relatively short window, however. For example, of my 9 free sex partners, 8 took place between the ages of 20-23 (I'm currently 33)

Similar story for dates. My dates largely took place from 20-23. I've only been on 2 dates after age 23.

Personally, I don't view our approach as "rejecting her before she has a chance to reject us"

The reason I say that is because she never asked us out in the first place (so it isn't accurate to say we rejected her). For me at least (and probably for a lot of other men who sideline ourselves to avoid a likely rejection), my decision to sideline myself is mainly about damage control (I'm deliberately robbing her of the opportunity to damage my already nonexistent self-esteem)

It's true you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Also true, however, is the fact I've missed nearly 100% of the shots I have taken.

Here's an analogy I've used before: If an NBA coach loses over 90% of games, perhaps he simply isn't cut out to coach basketball.

In addition to female peers viewing me as a freaky creep in my youth, my own mom also made hurtful comments about my desirability.

 

[SW15]

Here's an analogy I've used before: If an NBA coach loses over 90% of games, perhaps he simply isn't cut out to coach basketball.

It's an imperfect analogy, but it has some merit.

Coaches in pro sports (including the NBA) are usually dependent upon the team's front office/executive management to provide them with players.

If the team's roster is devoid of talent, very few coaches can be successful in winning games.

There are plenty of examples of NBA coaches who walked into bad situations when they became head coaches and their results as head coaches were predictably bad.

A male inherits some genetics from his parents/family members. What he does with his genetic makeup is somewhat analogous to an NBA coach inheriting a roster and what that coach does with it.

Many males can alter looks and money to gets wins with women more than an NBA coach can get win games with a crap roster.

 

[GoodMan32]

It's an imperfect analogy, but it has some merit.

Coaches in pro sports (including the NBA) are usually dependent upon the team's front office/executive management to provide them with players.

If the team's roster is devoid of talent, very few coaches can be successful in winning games.

There are plenty of examples of NBA coaches who walked into bad situations when they became head coaches and their results as head coaches were predictably bad.

A male inherits some genetics from his parents/family members. What he does with his genetic makeup is somewhat analogous to an NBA coach inheriting a roster and what that coach does with it.

Many males can alter looks and money to gets wins with women more than an NBA coach can get win games with a crap roster.

You have to be pretty good at basketball to make it into the NBA in the first place.

I'm not sure how much we can use the bad players excuse for an NBA coach losing a lot of games.

The bad player explanation is more likely in high school sports.

 

[SW15]

You have to be pretty good at basketball to make it into the NBA in the first place.

I'm not sure how much we can use the bad players excuse for an NBA coach losing a lot of games.

The bad player explanation is more likely in high school sports.

There are some really bad rosters in the NBA in any given year. Teams get into crap situations on talent management all the time for a variety of reasons.

Here's an example below.

1993–94 Dallas Mavericks season - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

The 1993-1994 Dallas Mavericks had a first time coach with no experience as an assistant coach in the NBA and no experience as head coach in the NBA. This coach also had no experiencing coaching at the high school or college levels. He was not qualified to be an NBA coach at the time.

His name - Quinn Buckner

Quinn Buckner was a former pro player who had been a media personality for a few years after his retirement before taking over as Dallas Mavericks head coach.

By 1993, the Mavericks' roster was a mess. The guy they wanted to build their team around (Roy Tarpley) had been suspended multiple times for drug and alcohol violations. Tarpley ended up dying at age 50 from suspected liver failure, likely due to his drug and alcohol abuse. Their good players from 3-5 years earlier had left the team. The replacement players were awful (mostly old players past their prime) and some young players they had drafted weren't quite ready to do well in the NBA.

The 1993-1994 Mavericks were 13-69 and that was a winning percentage of 15.9%. The year before (1992-1993), the team had 2 more experienced coaches and they were 11-71. That's a winning percentage of 13.4%.

Quinn Buckner went back to working in the media and never coached again.

A really good coach might have been able to win 16-20 games with that roster. That's still pathetic.

 

[GoodMan32]

There are some really bad rosters in the NBA in any given year. Teams get into crap situations on talent management all the time for a variety of reasons.

Here's an example below.

1993–94 Dallas Mavericks season - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

The 1993-1994 Dallas Mavericks had a first time coach with no experience as an assistant coach in the NBA and no experience as head coach in the NBA. This coach also had no experiencing coaching at the high school or college levels. He was not qualified to be an NBA coach at the time.

His name - Quinn Buckner

Quinn Buckner was a former pro player who had been a media personality for a few years after his retirement before taking over as Dallas Mavericks head coach.

By 1993, the Mavericks' roster was a mess. The guy they wanted to build their team around (Roy Tarpley) had been suspended multiple times for drug and alcohol violations. Tarpley ended up dying at age 50 from suspected liver failure, likely due to his drug and alcohol abuse. Their good players from 3-5 years earlier had left the team. The replacement players were awful (mostly old players past their prime) and some young players they had drafted weren't quite ready to do well in the NBA.

The 1993-1994 Mavericks were 13-69 and that was a winning percentage of 15.9%. The year before (1992-1993), the team had 2 more experienced coaches and they were 11-71. That's a winning percentage of 13.4%.

Quinn Buckner went back to working in the media and never coached again.

A really good coach might have been able to win 16-20 games with that roster. That's still pathetic.

Ok, upon hearing what you've just shared, I admit there are scenarios where an NBA coach is set up for failure.

I've pursued gals in a number of settings, however. Even if we exclude tech methods, I've pursued total strangers, I've pursued gals I already knew (who I really thought would say yeah), and I've also pursued gals I already knew who (in retrospect) gave me no reason to think they were into me.

I have a pathetic success rate in all 3 scenarios.

So a better analogy, I suppose, would be a coach who's coached 3 different NBA teams, yet was a failure at all 3.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yeah she tries to give dating advice for men, which normally I wouldn’t listen to because I believe that men shouldn’t take dating advice from women, but men who have plenty of success with women. This video from her specifically pertained to my situation though.

limited, a guy with successs with women might have success due to factors outside your grasp.

 

[Gamisch]

limited, a guy with successs with women might have success due to factors outside your grasp.

@corrector @GoodMan32 and OP might be the same guy using different alt accounts.

Their refusal to listen is...annoying to put it nicely. You see his reaction when I said he should go SOLDIER MODE and do everything we tell him to do? It's like trying to convince a woman who doesn't respect you..same outcome. She will argue and gaslight the fukk out of you and change the subject so she doesn't have to take any responsibility.

On God I would fight them in real life. A brotherly fight /SMACK just to wake them up.

I said SOLDIER MODE. "SIR YES SIR!!! IMMA START THAT SELF IMPROVEMENT ONE YEAR FOR STARTERS SIR!!"

 

[GoodMan32]

@corrector @GoodMan32 and OP might be the same guy using different alt accounts.

Their refusal to listen is...annoying to put it nicely. You see his reaction when I said he should go SOLDIER MODE and do everything we tell him to do? It's like trying to convince a woman who doesn't respect you..same outcome. She will argue and gaslight the fukk out of you and change the subject so she doesn't have to take any responsibility.

On God I would fight them in real life. A brotherly fight /SMACK just to wake them up.

I said SOLDIER MODE. "SIR YES SIR!!! IMMA START THAT SELF IMPROVEMENT ONE YEAR FOR STARTERS SIR!!"

Umm, no, @corrector and I have enough differences it's clear we're different posters.

As for the topic of this thread (Courtney Ryan), I found out a shocking tidbit about her: Turns out Courtney Ryan was born in 95 (I would have guessed she was early 40s...or at least knocking on the door of 40)

 

[SW15]

As for the topic of this thread (Courtney Ryan), I found out a shocking tidbit about her: Turns out Courtney Ryan was born in 95 (I would have guessed she was early 40s...or at least knocking on the door of 40)

What made you think she was late 30s/early 40s instead of late 20s?

In her own life, she did some things that many women don't do until their 30s. She settled for a beta male in her mid-20s, likely after she saw in college and maybe the first 1-2 years post college that she wasn't going to get commitment from an alpha/sigma tier male. Her beta husband is a dweeb with money.

 

[GoodMan32]

What made you think she was late 30s/early 40s instead of late 20s?

In her own life, she did some things that many women don't do until their 30s. She settled for a beta male in her mid-20s, likely after she saw in college and maybe the first 1-2 years post college that she wasn't going to get commitment from an alpha/sigma tier male. Her beta husband is a dweeb with money.

Her appearance made me think she was older. I think she looks like she's either pushing 40 or in her early 40s.

 

[SW15]

Her appearance made me think she was older. I think she looks like she's either pushing 40 or in her early 40s.

Courtney Ryan's looks have changed noticeably from June 2021 to January 2025. Any guy that looks at these side-by-side would see the difference.

June 2021

January 2025

 

[GoodMan32]

Courtney Ryan's looks have changed noticeably from June 2021 to January 2025. Any guy that looks at these side-by-side would see the difference.

June 2021

January 2025

Yeah. She's dyed her hair, she's aged more than one would expect, and it looks like she might have gotten chest implants.

 

[SW15]

it looks like she might have gotten chest implants.

She's always had big natural breasts. I doubt she's gotten breast implants. There would be no point in enhancing big, natural breasts.

Her facial structure looks a little bit different to me. Perhaps she has lost some weight and gotten a better fitness routine. I wonder how her skin care routine has changed (she has promoted skin care products on her channel). I suspect she might have had work done on her nose and maybe had botox/fillers.

 

[needimprovement250]

Their refusal to listen is...annoying to put it nicely. You see his reaction when I said he should go SOLDIER MODE and do everything we tell him to do?

I literally said in my first post when creating this thread that I’m taking the necessary steps to move my life forward... Those steps are more related to building savings, completing education, and launching a career and those are more important than my situation with women right now, something I’m sure you would agree with. And no, me and those other users are not the same people on alts and goodman32 told you the same.

 

[needimprovement250]

Courtney Ryan's looks have changed noticeably from June 2021 to January 2025. Any guy that looks at these side-by-side would see the difference.

June 2021

January 2025

Wow never realized, there’s a noticeable difference.

In her own life, she did some things that many women don't do until their 30s. She settled for a beta male in her mid-20s, likely after she saw in college and maybe the first 1-2 years post college that she wasn't going to get commitment from an alpha/sigma tier male. Her beta husband is a dweeb with money.

Yep, here’s a pic of her and her husband for anyone who’s curious.

 

[Gamisch]

I literally said in my first post when creating this thread that I’m taking the necessary steps to move my life forward... Those steps are more related to building savings, completing education, and launching a career and those are more important than my situation with women right now, something I’m sure you would agree with. And no, me and those other users are not the same people on alts and goodman32 told you the same.

Oke my bad if I'm being a d1ck.

I just dont understand why so many men ask the same thing but NEVER report back about actually taking those steps.

I personally, and many with me have the same struggle that you have. Mind you, I've been in multiple long long LTRs, have kids, seen I all done it all. Yet I HAVE to find ways do this this all by myself. I am probably bluepilled at heart and I doubt it will ever vanish.

I also have to fight every single day to make tomorrow better. I would LOVE to find that dream woman yesterday and be done with it. But that's not how it works. I soak up information and EXECUTE.

Action speaks louder than words.

 

[SW15]

here’s a pic of her and her husband for anyone who’s curious.

It is well known that she ended up settling for a dweeb with money. Teddy Baldassarre also has status from having interactions with Kevin O'Leary of Shark Tank fame.

It is debatable if she has burning desire for him. It is more likely a beta bucks type situation.

For the video:
It looks like Courtney made it about a year ago because she got a lot of requests for that video. I completely agree with her first point about anticipatory rejection and I’m guilty of doing exactly what she describes. I can’t let go of the belief that no women will want me due to my lack of experience and I’m pre-rejecting myself as a defense mechanism. As for her second point, I definitely wouldn’t ever volunteer that info about me being inexperienced, but my inexperience definitely does own me, its made me its b*tch these past 11 years and has become a self fulfilling prophecy where I felt that I didn’t stand a chance back then because I didn’t have experience and just started feeling that belief even stronger as I continued to get older with no experience, which left me even more discouraged of course. I also don’t feel that what she said about how dating didn’t happen because I was focused on other things would work for me due to my age. If I was still in my 20’s it probably would, but I think saying that won’t work in my 30’s. So my inexperience still has me feeling hopeless.

She makes some decent points in the video. She is limited about what she actually knows since she's never been a man and she's never tried to mate as a man. She's a fish trying to teach men how to catch fish. Fishermen know more about catching fish than fish know about catching fish.

Her fashion and style videos are more applicable.

I can imagine that the anticipatory rejection point would happen. The behaviors from inexperience are almost always bad and turn off women too.

 

[GoodMan32]

It is well known that she ended up settling for a dweeb with money. Teddy Baldassarre also has status from having interactions with Kevin O'Leary of Shark Tank fame.

It is debatable if she has burning desire for him. It is more likely a beta bucks type situation.



She makes some decent points in the video. She is limited about what she actually knows since she's never been a man and she's never tried to mate as a man. She's a fish trying to teach men how to catch fish. Fishermen know more about catching fish than fish know about catching fish.

Her fashion and style videos are more applicable.

I can imagine that the anticipatory rejection point would happen. The behaviors from inexperience are almost always bad and turn off women too.

Here's an analogy I have for anticipatory rejection.

Imagine you've stuck your finger in a beehive many times. There might be the rare time you don't get stung. The vast majority of the time, however, you'll get stung.

Eventually you'll expect to get stung every time (and be reluctant to stick your finger in again)

In my experience, expressing interest in a woman is like sticking my finger in a beehive.