Courtney Ryan made a video about inexperienced men

[pipeman84]

Anyways, get off the porn. It will stop you from pedestalizing women and start allowing you to see them as humans and not objects.

I think it's the other way round, if he watches porn he gets desensitised to the female body and sex and it would be less likely he'll pedestalize a woman. Not only from a physical POV but also mentally. You actually see what women get down to. They wilfully let themselves being degraded on camera. I know, porn stars are a tiny minority of female population, but virtually all girls he's going to meet have sucked dyck and been fvcked doggy, most probably by some loser. Yet OP acts like they're somewhat superior to him and he has to pass an interview regarding his inexperience.

It's the same with IG models who use filters, special photo angles and such to appear much more attractive than they are in real life ... if you're used to that, you won't fall in awe when you meet and talk to the average woman. But if you live like a monk, no fap, no porn, semen retention ... all that BS ... then quite soon, women you would've considered ugly before will appear attractive.

 

[GoodMan32]

You’re still more experienced than me just with your unpaid experiences, and that’s a respectable amount of experience.

I related to her first point the most too. I’ve been doing that all my life and yeah, you feel like you’re turning the tables on them by rejecting them before they get the chance to reject you. But that hurts you more than it helps because you miss every shot you don’t take.

Yeah a lot of members over analyze because we do have to do most of the heavy lifting when it come a to dating, especially when they have so many options so there isn’t much room for error. I had people say negative things to me about my dating prospects as well and like you, it did affect me too.

Agreed, on the surface, it sounds like I have a decent amount of experience.

A lot of that experience happened in a relatively short window, however. For example, of my 9 free sex partners, 8 took place between the ages of 20-23 (I'm currently 33)

Similar story for dates. My dates largely took place from 20-23. I've only been on 2 dates after age 23.

Personally, I don't view our approach as "rejecting her before she has a chance to reject us"

The reason I say that is because she never asked us out in the first place (so it isn't accurate to say we rejected her). For me at least (and probably for a lot of other men who sideline ourselves to avoid a likely rejection), my decision to sideline myself is mainly about damage control (I'm deliberately robbing her of the opportunity to damage my already nonexistent self-esteem)

It's true you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Also true, however, is the fact I've missed nearly 100% of the shots I have taken.

Here's an analogy I've used before: If an NBA coach loses over 90% of games, perhaps he simply isn't cut out to coach basketball.

In addition to female peers viewing me as a freaky creep in my youth, my own mom also made hurtful comments about my desirability.

 

[SW15]

Here's an analogy I've used before: If an NBA coach loses over 90% of games, perhaps he simply isn't cut out to coach basketball.

It's an imperfect analogy, but it has some merit.

Coaches in pro sports (including the NBA) are usually dependent upon the team's front office/executive management to provide them with players.

If the team's roster is devoid of talent, very few coaches can be successful in winning games.

There are plenty of examples of NBA coaches who walked into bad situations when they became head coaches and their results as head coaches were predictably bad.

A male inherits some genetics from his parents/family members. What he does with his genetic makeup is somewhat analogous to an NBA coach inheriting a roster and what that coach does with it.

Many males can alter looks and money to gets wins with women more than an NBA coach can get win games with a crap roster.

 

[GoodMan32]

It's an imperfect analogy, but it has some merit.

Coaches in pro sports (including the NBA) are usually dependent upon the team's front office/executive management to provide them with players.

If the team's roster is devoid of talent, very few coaches can be successful in winning games.

There are plenty of examples of NBA coaches who walked into bad situations when they became head coaches and their results as head coaches were predictably bad.

A male inherits some genetics from his parents/family members. What he does with his genetic makeup is somewhat analogous to an NBA coach inheriting a roster and what that coach does with it.

Many males can alter looks and money to gets wins with women more than an NBA coach can get win games with a crap roster.

You have to be pretty good at basketball to make it into the NBA in the first place.

I'm not sure how much we can use the bad players excuse for an NBA coach losing a lot of games.

The bad player explanation is more likely in high school sports.

 

[SW15]

You have to be pretty good at basketball to make it into the NBA in the first place.

I'm not sure how much we can use the bad players excuse for an NBA coach losing a lot of games.

The bad player explanation is more likely in high school sports.

There are some really bad rosters in the NBA in any given year. Teams get into crap situations on talent management all the time for a variety of reasons.

Here's an example below.

1993–94 Dallas Mavericks season - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

The 1993-1994 Dallas Mavericks had a first time coach with no experience as an assistant coach in the NBA and no experience as head coach in the NBA. This coach also had no experiencing coaching at the high school or college levels. He was not qualified to be an NBA coach at the time.

His name - Quinn Buckner

Quinn Buckner was a former pro player who had been a media personality for a few years after his retirement before taking over as Dallas Mavericks head coach.

By 1993, the Mavericks' roster was a mess. The guy they wanted to build their team around (Roy Tarpley) had been suspended multiple times for drug and alcohol violations. Tarpley ended up dying at age 50 from suspected liver failure, likely due to his drug and alcohol abuse. Their good players from 3-5 years earlier had left the team. The replacement players were awful (mostly old players past their prime) and some young players they had drafted weren't quite ready to do well in the NBA.

The 1993-1994 Mavericks were 13-69 and that was a winning percentage of 15.9%. The year before (1992-1993), the team had 2 more experienced coaches and they were 11-71. That's a winning percentage of 13.4%.

Quinn Buckner went back to working in the media and never coached again.

A really good coach might have been able to win 16-20 games with that roster. That's still pathetic.

 

[GoodMan32]

There are some really bad rosters in the NBA in any given year. Teams get into crap situations on talent management all the time for a variety of reasons.

Here's an example below.

1993–94 Dallas Mavericks season - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

The 1993-1994 Dallas Mavericks had a first time coach with no experience as an assistant coach in the NBA and no experience as head coach in the NBA. This coach also had no experiencing coaching at the high school or college levels. He was not qualified to be an NBA coach at the time.

His name - Quinn Buckner

Quinn Buckner was a former pro player who had been a media personality for a few years after his retirement before taking over as Dallas Mavericks head coach.

By 1993, the Mavericks' roster was a mess. The guy they wanted to build their team around (Roy Tarpley) had been suspended multiple times for drug and alcohol violations. Tarpley ended up dying at age 50 from suspected liver failure, likely due to his drug and alcohol abuse. Their good players from 3-5 years earlier had left the team. The replacement players were awful (mostly old players past their prime) and some young players they had drafted weren't quite ready to do well in the NBA.

The 1993-1994 Mavericks were 13-69 and that was a winning percentage of 15.9%. The year before (1992-1993), the team had 2 more experienced coaches and they were 11-71. That's a winning percentage of 13.4%.

Quinn Buckner went back to working in the media and never coached again.

A really good coach might have been able to win 16-20 games with that roster. That's still pathetic.

Ok, upon hearing what you've just shared, I admit there are scenarios where an NBA coach is set up for failure.

I've pursued gals in a number of settings, however. Even if we exclude tech methods, I've pursued total strangers, I've pursued gals I already knew (who I really thought would say yeah), and I've also pursued gals I already knew who (in retrospect) gave me no reason to think they were into me.

I have a pathetic success rate in all 3 scenarios.

So a better analogy, I suppose, would be a coach who's coached 3 different NBA teams, yet was a failure at all 3.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Yeah she tries to give dating advice for men, which normally I wouldn’t listen to because I believe that men shouldn’t take dating advice from women, but men who have plenty of success with women. This video from her specifically pertained to my situation though.

limited, a guy with successs with women might have success due to factors outside your grasp.

 

[Gamisch]

limited, a guy with successs with women might have success due to factors outside your grasp.

@corrector @GoodMan32 and OP might be the same guy using different alt accounts.

Their refusal to listen is...annoying to put it nicely. You see his reaction when I said he should go SOLDIER MODE and do everything we tell him to do? It's like trying to convince a woman who doesn't respect you..same outcome. She will argue and gaslight the fukk out of you and change the subject so she doesn't have to take any responsibility.

On God I would fight them in real life. A brotherly fight /SMACK just to wake them up.

I said SOLDIER MODE. "SIR YES SIR!!! IMMA START THAT SELF IMPROVEMENT ONE YEAR FOR STARTERS SIR!!"

 

[GoodMan32]

@corrector @GoodMan32 and OP might be the same guy using different alt accounts.

Their refusal to listen is...annoying to put it nicely. You see his reaction when I said he should go SOLDIER MODE and do everything we tell him to do? It's like trying to convince a woman who doesn't respect you..same outcome. She will argue and gaslight the fukk out of you and change the subject so she doesn't have to take any responsibility.

On God I would fight them in real life. A brotherly fight /SMACK just to wake them up.

I said SOLDIER MODE. "SIR YES SIR!!! IMMA START THAT SELF IMPROVEMENT ONE YEAR FOR STARTERS SIR!!"

Umm, no, @corrector and I have enough differences it's clear we're different posters.

As for the topic of this thread (Courtney Ryan), I found out a shocking tidbit about her: Turns out Courtney Ryan was born in 95 (I would have guessed she was early 40s...or at least knocking on the door of 40)