Courtney Ryan made a video about inexperienced men

[needimprovement250]

One way to think about this, hoss:

Unless you're Warren Beatty or Robert Evans at the height of their fame, every man on this planet COULD always, potentially, benefit from more experience. If you're a fairly regular guy, like 98% of the male population, there's going to be plenty of sex you haven't engaged in

This is only an impediment to your success, IF you choose to dwell on what you don't have at the moment, rather than identifying your goals, then crafting viable strategies to achieve them

You can be the most experienced person in the world and still fail. More than inexperience, it is something else.

Do you know when you are in a group and there is always that person who tries to "control" or "take charge" of the situation?

Imagine you are ten people going to a restaurant, and no one can decide where to eat. Then, one person arrives and makes everyone agree or moves the situation forward. In this case, he takes the reins of the conversation.

Another example would be fixing a screw or doing manual labor that someone else could handle. Let’s say there are five men in the room; even if he doesn’t have the skill, he will take responsibility for doing it.

Or consider when you need to travel from point A to point B, and he organizes the seating arrangements for everyone in the car.

Or when you go to a restaurant, and he takes charge to ensure everyone is positioned well, especially those with kids.

You know what I’m talking about. This type of man seems to be everywhere. Is this what it means to be a man that women love—someone who takes the lead?

This is a strong doubt I have always had because I have seen people respond in different ways to this behavior. Is this what it means to be a "mature man" in those circumstances, or does it come across as clingy?

Good points made in both of these replies, deep down I know that having no experience with women in my 30's isn't the end of the world and probably a big reason why I feel so bad about it is because I keep comparing myself to other people who have more experience and making myself think that there's no point now because I'm so far behind everyone and who would even want to help me get caught up.

 

[needimprovement250]

The only way to defeat inexperience is to practice and get experience.

You can't be afraid to date and learn from failure. If you are worried about failure you will never learn.

If you are the honest/best version of yourself and sh1t goes sideways, you are with the wrong woman... so move on.

Fail forward.

This is very true. I have to look at it where each and every date I go on is a learning experience and I will walk away from each date with more knowledge even if they don't go anywhere beyond that date. We all learn from failure whenever we try something new from the first time regardless of what it is and dating is no exception. I've claimed on the forum before that if I went out with 50 different women that all 50 would reject me for being inexperienced but honestly, I would have significantly more experience after date 50 than I did before date 1.

 

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he only other explanation is that she got enlightened earlier in life and decided she should settle for a beta earlier than most women. She started dating Teddy around 24-25. Most women are right around 30 when they decided to settle for beta bucks guy. She may have learned from her pumps and dumps faster than most.

That could be the case. I don't know if you've ever heard of Strong Successful Male and his videos, but he's also covered several relationships like Courtney's with a beta bucks guy and the men eventually find out how much more their girlfriends or wives did for alpha Chad tier men they were with before him, especially when it came to sex. There's been several times when she refused to do anything adventurous in bed with the beta bucks, only for him to later find out she's done those activities several times with alpha Chad tier men in the past while giving him bare minimum vanilla sex. She then would absurdly claim that the fact that she won't do these things with him despite doing them with other men in the past means that she values him way more lol.

 

[Gamisch]

I agree with this and another thing I've noticed is that porn seems to make you get bored of one individual woman so much quicker and require variety. Just try and get off to only one woman's pics and videos for months at a time as a porn addict and you'll see how difficult this is. Now if you're someone who wants to spin plates, this isn't that big of an issue but it will be if you want a committed relationship. I'm not so much worried about passing some kind of interview, but dreading the topic of past relationships and dating history being brought up by a woman. Obviously I wouldn't outright admit that I have no experience if that gets brought up, but I feel like that's difficult to get through without getting rejected in the process because you have to conceal your lack of experience to her.


No problem man, I know you were just trying to give advice by using constructive criticism. I am trying to take steps to improve my life by taking steps that I feel most would agree are more important than dating women. In the era of modern dating, finding that dream woman is much more difficult sadly. OLD and social media has wrecked the dating world.

Here the problem: men like you want a "dream woman ".

That's like someone who never drove a car wants to be a formala 1 driver. Why don't you start by learning how to drive a Honda?

First try to hook up with women and have FUN. In your case that might be a less attractive, old ,fat woman or a combination of those. I'm normally hesitant to advice men to sleep with less attractive women but in your case it might help.

IF big IF you would "get" a woman today and she has mal intentions..you'll be in trouble. You need experience to be able to keep a woman in check without going berserk when she becomes uncooperative.

 

[Gamisch]

Here the problem: men like you want a "dream woman ".

That's like someone who never drove a car wants to be a formala 1 driver. Why don't you start by learning how to drive a Honda?

First try to hook up with women and have FUN. In your case that might be a less attractive, old ,fat woman or a combination of those. I'm normally hesitant to advice men to sleep with less attractive women but in your case it might help.

IF big IF you would "get" a woman today and she has mal intentions..you'll be in trouble. You need experience to be able to keep a woman in check without going berserk when she becomes uncooperative.

And when I say going berserk I'm being serious.

If you bet on love and things do go south it will be all-consuming. It might literally turn your life upside down. Many men attempt suicide after their relationship fails miserably and they find out it was all a lie( including the nasty details such as lies ,cheating, gaslighting ect). Or to be less dramatic: it might consume all your mental energy and drain you so much so that you basically stop functioning like a normal person.

This is something that we don't wanna talk about..that inexperienced men are putting themselves in danger because they are unaware of the depth of "love" especially failed love.

Sounds doom and gloom and that's exactly how I meant it. E.g I would be EXTREMELY hesitant to live together with a stranger nowadays. Done it twice and learned the hard way..an inexperienced dude on the other hand can't wait and sees it as a flex to move a woman in or worse: move into HER place.