Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
I went to some natural hot springs this past weekend, and observed some interesting things. One particularly was this older couple, not in good shape, definitely had not likely taken care of themselves, but seemed to really have a strong companionship with one another -- we did the sauna and this old guy kept telling me about sweat lodges, and how he'd sought out genuine sweat lodge experiences with native wise men and how in the sauna these guys claim to travel to other mysterious worlds and other dimensions, etc...as much of a skeptic I am about most things, I have an active imagination...I went into the sauna and did some very deep breathing trying to fall deep into my mind...
I couldn't help but think about people like this guy, and the woman he has. Yes, nobody here is an HB10 that's for sure, but I was wondering about the microchasm of their experience with one another -- it got me thinking a lot about 'companionship' and all of that stuff -- I doubt this guy has any understandings of game -- in fact he was telling me more about some of the holy temples and massive buildings in Mexico and South America than anything else -- but I just couldn't help think to myself that most of what I seem to be concerned about is bullsh!t, superficial, meaningless.
I'm so concerned about the hotness of some ch!ck, or my levels of sexual expression, or if I'm being man enough, or all of this garbage, and I see this old guy just being himself talking about *out there* concepts (to the European-based western mind that is) but seemed to have such a simple free flowing relationship.
Granted, I value taking care of my body, I never want to just let myself go as perhaps this guy did -- but there was a level of mental ease he had that was inspiring...
When we seek the HB9 and she hurts us in the end, where were our motives in the beginning? We maybe do not deserve the hurt, or the BPD behavior, but what was our initial motive forged in?
If the initial motive is pure lust, can we expect anything other than for the bubble to pop?
I think those who desire companionship, likely ought to really investigate their initial motives for getting involved with a woman. If it is strictly sexual curiosity, that is fine, but label it as such. If it is something deeper, than label it as that too.
I wonder how many solid companionship started in the realms of pure sexual lust?
And there probably have been some. I know a long time ago, my first girlfriend, we didn't have sex for 4 months after we started dating. Can you believe this? I wanted to be comfortable with her and wait, I was a virgin at the time...some men might call this "gay", but I didn't want to rush things...we were together two years...we ended up having sex on my birthday which was really nice. It ended, but sometimes I look back and say hmmm...maybe there was something to that strategy...
The theory here is, you sarge, close the deal, get her hooked, maintain frame, be the man, and she should want to submit to you...does this always work I question?
Or if this does work, what is the microchasm of this relationship compared to another?
For those whom are not attractive, those couples who are mutually overweight, etc, etc, what is there level of love I question? Or what do they feel between each other? Are they as likely as to be as cut throat as some 27 year old dude in peak shape, or some HB9 who gets 10 dudes sexually lusting over her per half hour?
I'm not saying I want to let myself go or find a woman who has But I wonder, deep down, the differences these people have in their union...what holds them together?
Do most people here desire only sexual connection?
Or do people here also desire companionship? That is, the mutual growing together of two people?
Or is this an abandoned false ideal?
What are your thoughts?
I couldn't help but think about people like this guy, and the woman he has. Yes, nobody here is an HB10 that's for sure, but I was wondering about the microchasm of their experience with one another -- it got me thinking a lot about 'companionship' and all of that stuff -- I doubt this guy has any understandings of game -- in fact he was telling me more about some of the holy temples and massive buildings in Mexico and South America than anything else -- but I just couldn't help think to myself that most of what I seem to be concerned about is bullsh!t, superficial, meaningless.
I'm so concerned about the hotness of some ch!ck, or my levels of sexual expression, or if I'm being man enough, or all of this garbage, and I see this old guy just being himself talking about *out there* concepts (to the European-based western mind that is) but seemed to have such a simple free flowing relationship.
Granted, I value taking care of my body, I never want to just let myself go as perhaps this guy did -- but there was a level of mental ease he had that was inspiring...
When we seek the HB9 and she hurts us in the end, where were our motives in the beginning? We maybe do not deserve the hurt, or the BPD behavior, but what was our initial motive forged in?
If the initial motive is pure lust, can we expect anything other than for the bubble to pop?
I think those who desire companionship, likely ought to really investigate their initial motives for getting involved with a woman. If it is strictly sexual curiosity, that is fine, but label it as such. If it is something deeper, than label it as that too.
I wonder how many solid companionship started in the realms of pure sexual lust?
And there probably have been some. I know a long time ago, my first girlfriend, we didn't have sex for 4 months after we started dating. Can you believe this? I wanted to be comfortable with her and wait, I was a virgin at the time...some men might call this "gay", but I didn't want to rush things...we were together two years...we ended up having sex on my birthday which was really nice. It ended, but sometimes I look back and say hmmm...maybe there was something to that strategy...
The theory here is, you sarge, close the deal, get her hooked, maintain frame, be the man, and she should want to submit to you...does this always work I question?
Or if this does work, what is the microchasm of this relationship compared to another?
For those whom are not attractive, those couples who are mutually overweight, etc, etc, what is there level of love I question? Or what do they feel between each other? Are they as likely as to be as cut throat as some 27 year old dude in peak shape, or some HB9 who gets 10 dudes sexually lusting over her per half hour?
I'm not saying I want to let myself go or find a woman who has But I wonder, deep down, the differences these people have in their union...what holds them together?
Do most people here desire only sexual connection?
Or do people here also desire companionship? That is, the mutual growing together of two people?
Or is this an abandoned false ideal?
What are your thoughts?