BPH
Master Don Juan
I've asked about this before and I'm at the point where I want some more feedback.
Lately my plates have fallen off or been knocked out of commission; one just had spinal fusion for a herniated disc, another is going through grief with her cat dying of cancer, another found a simp during Valentine's and is now committed, the one from New Years hasn't visited America since, the older flight attendant from my Tinder FR in Philly I lost interest in, and the one from NJ wanted something more serious.
So just like that I'm back to needing to do some recruiting.
Unfortunately, it's been very cold for several months now, and there's not much to do in Delaware. Last weekend I caved and met some friends out in Trolley (the only real go-to spot for post-college young people) and was immediately reminded why I chose to stop going - 1 or 2 cute girls, packed with guys, only slightly closer than the fun places like Philadelphia or West Chester. I left early and visited a closer bar to my home and saw the same gym employees and 40-somethings that I see there every time. Needless to say, I didn't see anybody I wanted and went home alone.
For the first time in a long time, I'm mentally debating whether I should bother with the college bars again.
Back when I would frequent these spots, part of the reason I visited so often was because I was friends with so many of the staff and had a bunch of perks; I skipped lines, my drinks were often free, and it was always a short drive home/to whatever girl's place.
However, almost all of those friends are gone - I would be waiting in long lines with a bunch of college kids like everybody else. Beyond that, I recall plenty of issues related to my age. I'm currently 30, turning 31 in a month, and when I was 28 I remember a lot of girls going from hot to cold when they asked whether I go to school there and discovered I was several years older. There WERE also a couple of times this worked in my favor - I had a really nice lay where the girl thought it was hot that I was older and kept saying that I was "pushing 30" at the time.
Anyway, I just want to see what some of you think and what you'd recommend here. On one hand, I feel "too old" for this scene; the way I dress, talk, act, carry myself, etc is way different than a lot of these kids do, and waiting in long lines or being crammed shoulder-to-shoulder with them during the downtime of not talking to girls wouldn't be the most fun - especially without friends to go with me or staff to lean on and kill time with. On the other hand, I really don't have good alternatives; Philly and West Chester are each about 40 minutes away, and the former only makes sense if I'm staying over with my friend who lives there with his girlfriend, which rarely happens. I have friends who aren't interested because they've "outgrown" college women by graduating - I still don't mind the gap, but I do think a lot of the girls will, since I'd already run into it when I was even younger than I am now.
Curious what you guys think. I'm not looking for anything serious with any of these women right now so I'd prefer to get advice from guys who are sleeping around with attractive women as opposed to those who are more philosophical or relationship-driven.
Lately my plates have fallen off or been knocked out of commission; one just had spinal fusion for a herniated disc, another is going through grief with her cat dying of cancer, another found a simp during Valentine's and is now committed, the one from New Years hasn't visited America since, the older flight attendant from my Tinder FR in Philly I lost interest in, and the one from NJ wanted something more serious.
So just like that I'm back to needing to do some recruiting.
Unfortunately, it's been very cold for several months now, and there's not much to do in Delaware. Last weekend I caved and met some friends out in Trolley (the only real go-to spot for post-college young people) and was immediately reminded why I chose to stop going - 1 or 2 cute girls, packed with guys, only slightly closer than the fun places like Philadelphia or West Chester. I left early and visited a closer bar to my home and saw the same gym employees and 40-somethings that I see there every time. Needless to say, I didn't see anybody I wanted and went home alone.
For the first time in a long time, I'm mentally debating whether I should bother with the college bars again.
Back when I would frequent these spots, part of the reason I visited so often was because I was friends with so many of the staff and had a bunch of perks; I skipped lines, my drinks were often free, and it was always a short drive home/to whatever girl's place.
However, almost all of those friends are gone - I would be waiting in long lines with a bunch of college kids like everybody else. Beyond that, I recall plenty of issues related to my age. I'm currently 30, turning 31 in a month, and when I was 28 I remember a lot of girls going from hot to cold when they asked whether I go to school there and discovered I was several years older. There WERE also a couple of times this worked in my favor - I had a really nice lay where the girl thought it was hot that I was older and kept saying that I was "pushing 30" at the time.
Anyway, I just want to see what some of you think and what you'd recommend here. On one hand, I feel "too old" for this scene; the way I dress, talk, act, carry myself, etc is way different than a lot of these kids do, and waiting in long lines or being crammed shoulder-to-shoulder with them during the downtime of not talking to girls wouldn't be the most fun - especially without friends to go with me or staff to lean on and kill time with. On the other hand, I really don't have good alternatives; Philly and West Chester are each about 40 minutes away, and the former only makes sense if I'm staying over with my friend who lives there with his girlfriend, which rarely happens. I have friends who aren't interested because they've "outgrown" college women by graduating - I still don't mind the gap, but I do think a lot of the girls will, since I'd already run into it when I was even younger than I am now.
Curious what you guys think. I'm not looking for anything serious with any of these women right now so I'd prefer to get advice from guys who are sleeping around with attractive women as opposed to those who are more philosophical or relationship-driven.