Cold Approach - Never Realized How Hard This Would Be

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I think that is exaggerated. I don't buy it. It would come out to one a day, everyday, non-stop, for 5.4 years. You are better off selling vacuume cleaners door-to-door.

CoAp is not required, not effiecient, unnatural from a human behavoral perspective, and just a waste of time. But it helps some YouTubers make some money off of guys that believe them.

Any fella doing pickup not OLD I'd hard to fathom. Fellas simply don't do any. I watched a fella offer to buy a girl a drink. She took the drink and walked away. Very weakkkk play. And yet most don't talk to random girls what so ever.

 

[biggoal]

OLD depends just as much on your location as it does your pics.

Should move to my area.

 

[PRW63]

Couldn't it be argued that boys asking girls to prom is considered cold approach and has been done for decades.

It isn't cold approach. They are school mates and already either know or know "of" each other.

 

[PRW63]

"Guys, CA is not natural human behavior".
*Proceeds to swipe on tinder to meet girls.

Jk.

How do you meet girls then?

I have a life,...a social life,...a life that isn't online.
"Meeting" and "Approaching" are not the same thing. Meeting is having a social life. Approaching is the PUA picking up some "strange" in a bar hoping to get laid on something better then the Men's Room's Sink.

 

[PRW63]

Any fella doing pickup not OLD I'd hard to fathom. Fellas simply don't do any. I watched a fella offer to buy a girl a drink. She took the drink and walked away. Very weakkkk play. And yet most don't talk to random girls what so ever.

Yea, most pee down their leg that the thought of it. Most have Oneitis and won't attempt to go after another until the totally bomb out on the one they are drooling over. They might approach 5 a year if they are lucky. 2000? Not happening, or they have a very very "loose" definition of what a Cold Approach is. Then to have 2000 and have 0 results,...how woefully bad at it are they???

 

[DonJuanjr]

It isn't cold approach. They are school mates and already either know or know "of" each other.

I'd figure the fact that many of the boys don't know if the girls will accept or reject their proposition to go to prom makes it cold approach.

 

[PRW63]

I'd figure the fact that many of the boys don't know if the girls will accept or reject their proposition to go to prom makes it cold approach.

No cold approach by definition is strangers who have never met or had any prior interaction (like two strangers in a bar/club). If the guy wants to take her to the prom, then they know each other and have had a considerable amount of prior contact.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If you were a salesman who's job was to sell running shoes, and you settled on a telemarketing strategy that involved cold-calling random numbers in the phone book, chances are that you would sell very few (if any) pairs. From that, you might conclude that most people are simply not interested in running shoes. Of course, your conclusion would be 100% wrong, as just about everyone owns a pair of running shoes. However, there is a good reason why no one sells running shoes through telemarketing.

True. The marketing/PR aspect of my job was basically suspended during Covid. They wanted me to try Zoom or Teams. But I refused. Thankfully, we’re now doing live & in person.

 

[devilkingx2]

I'd figure the fact that many of the boys don't know if the girls will accept or reject their proposition to go to prom makes it cold approach.

I think it only counts as cold approaching if the girl you're asking to prom is one you barely/don't know. Most of the girls who go to the same school as you wouldn't count unless you had never talked to them before.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Yea, most pee down their leg that the thought of it. Most have Oneitis and won't attempt to go after another until the totally bomb out on the one they are drooling over. They might approach 5 a year if they are lucky. 2000? Not happening, or they have a very very "loose" definition of what a Cold Approach is. Then to have 2000 and have 0 results,...how woefully bad at it are they???

+1

PRW mate, I have had nights where I pulled from go or burned through fifty or a hundred in a night. Running through the bar or club with the ****ing flame thrower. 2000 on a year isn't impossible but I 100% agree with you, less than 1% are putting in even a fraction of that volume. I can't say I've put in that volume since the pandemic. Bars snd clubs have been closed.

How has your experience been with approaching since the pandemic? Since wave1 to now, women are 100% much more open then before. This doesn't negate the absurd volume necessary to learn game, acquire skill, and success.

 

[momentomori]

+1

PRW mate, I have had nights where I pulled from go or burned through fifty or a hundred in a night. Running through the bar or club with the ****ing flame thrower. 2000 on a year isn't impossible but I 100% agree with you, less than 1% are putting in even a fraction of that volume. I can't say I've put in that volume since the pandemic. Bars snd clubs have been closed.

How has your experience been with approaching since the pandemic? Since wave1 to now, women are 100% much more open then before. This doesn't negate the absurd volume necessary to learn game, acquire skill, and success.

I assume your asking me, since PRW doesn't even approach, but likes to dole out advice. JK!

I started approaching during the pandemic. I've noticed very little change in terms of women's receptiveness, which is generally speaking, low regardless. However, what has improved are the volume of people who are out, which has increased my volume of approaches, which has lead to more numbers and dates. On the negative side, its more of a pain in the ass to go out as traffic has gotten worse.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I assume your asking me, since PRW doesn't even approach, but likes to dole out advice. JK!

I started approaching during the pandemic. I've noticed very little change in terms of women's receptiveness, which is generally speaking, low regardless. However, what has improved are the volume of people who are out, which has increased my volume of approaches, which has lead to more numbers and dates. On the negative side, its more of a pain in the ass to go out as traffic has gotten worse.

It's much better now. If you were running a YouTube channel on approaching or even street interviews in wave1, you were lucky to catch tumbleweed. It wasn't to say you can't. It's your say the lack of volume available compounded by the pickup barrier to success in general was less than spectacular. I picked up in wave1 but the only positive was that only dtf girls were reciprocating to advances. Some of the most busy places in the world were dead. Game is easy to standout when most guys don't run game. Don't approach. Can't pull. The biggest critique is that most men are in spectator mode, beer on chest in a pub or bar and binging YouTube boomer pods not getting girls. Ironically enough, the gurus most men have don't get girls. There's a lack of masculinity in the world today. The past two years of absolute stupidity could have only occurred in a Era of low T. There's nothing more masculine then going out on your shield, shooting your shot, and letting the chips fall where they may. Almost nobody does this. This is the competition. Lulz!

 

[SW15]

Game is easy to standout when most guys don't run game. Don't approach. Can't pull. The biggest critique is that most men are in spectator mode, beer on chest in a pub or bar and binging YouTube boomer pods not getting girls. Ironically enough, the gurus most men have don't get girls. There's a lack of masculinity in the world today. The past two years of absolute stupidity could have only occurred in a Era of low T. There's nothing more masculine then going out on your shield, shooting your shot, and letting the chips fall where they may. Almost nobody does this. This is the competition. Lulz!

Cold approach was difficult 30 years ago before you and I hit puberty. 30 years ago, when dating websites and swipe apps did not exist, cold approaching difficult. Even in the 1980s and early 1990s, more men relied on their social circles. Some were doing approaches at bars. Dating websites and swipe apps wouldn't have existed if cold approach were something that was easy to do. They were invented because men were struggling with approaching in the 1980s and early 1990s.

There is a lot of male competition now. Every woman has a huge swipe queue and her social media DMs are filled. It's rare to see a woman now with an empty penis pipeline.

 

[MatureDJ]

You can't just approach women, you have to look good and approach women.....

If your not all that handsome/attractive then aim lower until you get more confident and comfortable with your approaches......

Cold Approaching is bread and butter, but it's not for the weak. Your success rate is a reflection of your SMV, Simple.

So I guess you're saying that men that are sub-5'8" should mack fat chicks?

 

[MatureDJ]

Here's an approach that I had heard a Ukrainian man (in Russian of course) use years ago:

When I first saw you, it moved

 

[MatureDJ]

It is a tough mating environment when a guy whose photos rate 8.5 has the problems you have or a 6'4" man with big muscles gets rejected regularly.

It's OVER for 76InchBigMuscleCels.

 

[MatureDJ]

Male Thirst acceleration.

Dudes are so thirsty now, because of this mass approaching both online and offline. It’s accelerated female hostility, accelerated reflexive rejection, accelerating male thirst in turn. Prior to swipe apps, socialcircles were smaller, women’s prospective pool was smaller, this made women easier. This in turn made dudes less thirsty. Society was healthier overall. Dudes didn’t feel like they needed to do 2000 approaches (which I think is a mental illness inducing amount of rejection, and simultaneously fvcking up the market. No guy should be spamming like that).

i’d describe what we have now as an absolute feeding frenzy. The Simp/Thirst Economy.

True Forced Loneliness prophet "Roller" Steve Hoca has discussed this; he basically said that the horrific dating environment is making every poonless man look at other man with suspicion as thieves of the poon he wants to get - especially for men that are not in the social group. It really is a dog-eat-dog mating war - evolutionarily not unlike mortal combat.

It's OVER for MaleThirstAccelerationCels.

 

[MatureDJ]

I'm 1 for about 47.

You must keep good records.

 

[MatureDJ]

Where do you find the time to approach 2000 women if you have a good job?

It means the only things in his life are his job, his approaches, and the comradery of SoSuave.

 

[MatureDJ]

Herein lies the best argument to enjoy the decline. To sit back and watch the world burn as you PILLAGE whatever the duck you can. I do that. More recently, I think the new way forward is to get up and go. There's better cultures, lower taxes, and FEMININITY ELSEWHERE. Similar to individual sovereignty and freedom, it is nonexistent in many but NOT ALL PLACES. Similarly, globalism and modern women reside in most of the western world BUT NOT EVERYWHERE.

But what if the places with better culture & feminity are watching their REAL WORLD get burned & pillaged?