When one recognizes that SS has(and I say this as a compliment)more or less come to function as online equivalent of
My advice is not to miss the forest for the trees. There are many more insightful threads, posts, and users here than the ones you've mentioned.
And I likewise encourage us to handle posts and posters we find objectionable in a fashion like so https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...-fear-of-rejection.283452/page-2#post-3144844 , rather than routinely banning speech we find objectionable. Ignore them, and they'll more than likely vanish on their own. This is a malady in our culture at large currently, not just SS
The ignore button doesn't fully solve the issue because it's part of human nature to want to help others, especially when we see someone struggling or making questionable posts. When we choose to ignore someone, the option to view their posts is still there with a simple click, and often, curiosity gets the best of us. I think some people—both those who provoke and those who complain without seeking improvement—take advantage of this, playing on our instinct to engage and respond.
The capacity to NOT simply give in to our visceral urges/ask ourselves "Is it wise to ride to the rescue here?" is one of the many attributes which seperates us from the beasts of the field. Pretending that we have no choice but to react in a prescribed way is more preposterous than asserting a drunkard has no choice BUT to walk into the liquor store, because there's one on every street corner
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.