Chick didn't text back on day of date

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This is what I knew the whole deep down and did it till I decided to not text 5 days straight till the date. The 5-6 days we texted like 1-2 texts each way per day and it was high interest from her. I'm glad someone on here has confirmed that this is better then not texting till date day.
Yea , I experiment in the past with silence after set up the date, and got last minutes flaked, one after the other . Than changed it to text one or two message a day until the date day, and flaking dropped dramatically. keeping the "line open' will keep her IL high until the date.(asuming she had HIL to begin with).
 

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text one or two message a day
were you worried this comes off as needy or hungry? Im getting flakes/nocontact also if I wait a few days after asking out...
 

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were you worried this comes off as needy or hungry? Im getting flakes/nocontact also if I wait a few days after asking out...
It's not twice a day but one string of few funny, easygo messages back and forth.
if it's a week until the the date , than every second third day, and at a different time of the day.(don't be predictable)
I found keeping light convo flow every now and then, give her the feeling that you are still there,
I found also that If her IL is really high, she will initiate txt as well, b'cos she will afraid to lose you.

Don't worry about how she sees you, B'cos you are a man who do what he want, regardless of "social rules" , and by doing so you exebit you following no one rules excepet your own , and that exhibit confidant.
 

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were you worried this comes off as needy or hungry? Im getting flakes/nocontact also if I wait a few days after asking out...
It depends on what you are sending. If you dont send needy texts you wont be viewed as needy
 

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Text when you want to text, just don't be needy about it and blow her phone up. Somr of you guys shouldn't be giving advice. @R.U.G. as it's clear you lack real world experience. "The phone is for setting dates and hooking up". Who says? That's that scared to fail game I mentioned. Men should be learning the skills needed to be successful and operate fluidly, not some robot preprogrammed with archaic rules and regulations. To each their own, but to be successful at the highest level a man must be dynamic and possess a broad skill set.
 

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i agree with marmel, im no don juan, but if a girl i like gave me her number, i would be texting her right away telling her all about how cute she was and how bad i wanted to jump on top of her while i was talking her and whatnot.......i would try to get them worked up through texting instead of waiting a whole week to talk to them again because they will loose interest quick
I just puked a little in my mouth when I read this.

You dont text them as soon as you're out of sight and you sure dont start showering them with compliments. That is NOT being sexual, its being needy and clingy with no other options.
 

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I just puked a little in my mouth when I read this.

You dont text them as soon as you're out of sight and you sure dont start showering them with compliments. That is NOT being sexual, its being needy and clingy with no other options.
To be clear this is NOT what I'm advocating. Too many people view stuff as either black or what...

Either you are texting 24/7 and being desperate and needy or you arent texting at all. No...there is a happy middle ground in there that will work better than either of these extremes...as is the case in almost every aspect of life.
 

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@marmel75 I agree.

Just sending one or two texts can come across as very needy and clingy or you could text 20 times in 2-3 days until the date and not appear needy and clingy. Its all about context and mindset.

The not texting for days rule is stupid. The woman will start feeling uneasy and flake. There is definitely middle ground that gets the best results.

Guys need to learn the difference.
 

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Text when you want to text, just don't be needy about it and blow her phone up. Somr of you guys shouldn't be giving advice. @R.U.G. as it's clear you lack real world experience. "The phone is for setting dates and hooking up". Who says? That's that scared to fail game I mentioned. Men should be learning the skills needed to be successful and operate fluidly, not some robot preprogrammed with archaic rules and regulations. To each their own, but to be successful at the highest level a man must be dynamic and possess a broad skill set.
It's pretty common. Heck, Corey Wayne suggests the same. However, do as you may.

https://understandingrelationships.com/never-call-to-verify-dates/10984
 
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If the date is within 2-3 days you can end your text line after the date with something like this “I’ll find a fun place for us to have drinks and hang out. Enjoy your week, I’ll confirm with you on Thursday morning” ( assuming Thursday is the date). If you send that message on Monday or Tuesday, it’s appropriate to silence her until Thursday.
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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It's pretty common. Heck, Corey Wayne suggests the same. However, do as you may.

https://understandingrelationships.com/never-call-to-verify-dates/10984
I don't really follow many writers or writings. Mainly, personal experience, trial and error.I did at one point like anyone else. The guidelines as written are for noobs, but way outdated imo, as well as playing a scared game. The best and quickest way to learn social dynamics and calibration is by going out and doing. Trial and error. Some think it's allot to take in at once as newbie, but if the Marine Corp can take an 18 year old kid and teach him to remain calm under fire with a drill sergeant screaming in his face, surely it's not asking allot for a newbie on SS to get out and start experimenting, learning context and getting comfortable in social interactions with the opposite sex. Men are playing defense way too often and leaving the ball in the hands of women. It takes allot of L's to fine tune this chit and a man will lose allot of them, regardless of how good he gets at this, or he should if he's always trying to raise the bar, as he should be.
 

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Keeping communication open has NOTHING to do with confirming the date. Nothing at all. Completely different things.

Its goal is to ensure she ends up meeting because you can't bang air.
I don't really follow many writers or writings. Mainly, personal experience, trial and error.I did at one point like anyone else. The guidelines as written are for noobs, but way outdated imo, as well as playing a scared game. The best and quickest way to learn social dynamics and calibration is by going out and doing. Trial and error. Some think it's allot to take in at once as newbie, but if the Marine Corp can take an 18 year old kid and teach him to remain calm under fire with a drill sergeant screaming in his face, surely it's not asking allot for a newbie on SS to get out and start experimenting, learning context and getting comfortable in social interactions with the opposite sex. Men are playing defense way too often and leaving the ball in the hands of women. It takes allot of L's to fine tune this chit and a man will lose allot of them, regardless of how good he gets at this, or he should if he's always trying to raise the bar, as he should be.
We can agree to disagree. You can chit-chat once you get the woman and she starts to reach out to you. Chit chatting before can do more harm than good. But, as always, do as you wish and experience. Every woman is different. If you chat/text on the phone instead or more than meeting in person, then you run the risk of having her look at you as a friends, not a guy she'd like to fvck. What Corey states, in this case, has worked best for me in NYC. The chatting and texting game, was lack luster at best.
 

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Too many mistakes.

Chick I met at gym was obviously interested thru text
A woman cannot be interested through text. She's only interested by what her actions say.


and we set up date easily.(that feeling you know when chick likes you) didn't text for 5 days till day of date. She didn't reply when I gave her meet up time and location not gonna lie it was only an hour later to meet up from when i texted. I said I'm no longer interested when i realized she ghosted.
Wait, you thought you had a date? You were the only one that thought that my friend.

Setting up a date means the time and location are set, and she agrees. If that didn't happen, you never had a date.


A couple days later I asked why she ghosted and she said she doesn't know if she is ready to date and embarrassed to text back cause daughter had phone.
Then you made it worse by chasing.


I didn't buy it and told her I'm going to date other women while she learns to make decisions like a grown up.
She doesn't care.


She never texted back.
Confirmation that she doesn't care.


On one end I feel like I retained my self respect . On the other IDK why she ghosted when she was obviously into me for the 10 days from when I first met her at gym. Do women lose interest if don't text them for days till the actual date day??
Nope. Women actually increase their interest level when you don't chase them. Problem is pal, she was never interested in you. You didn't go on a date. You didn't kiss her. You were just some guy she reluctantly gave her number to in hopes that you would go away.
 

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Too many mistakes.



A woman cannot be interested through text. She's only interested by what her actions say.



Wait, you thought you had a date? You were the only one that thought that my friend.

Setting up a date means the time and location are set, and she agrees. If that didn't happen, you never had a date.

She agreed to a day at night I never gave her a time. She said "yes!!Are you on any social media" Pretty sure anyone would think that's a date stupid ass.


Then you made it worse by chasing.




She doesn't care.




Confirmation that she doesn't care.




Nope. Women actually increase their interest level when you don't chase them. Problem is pal, she was never interested in you. You didn't go on a date. You didn't kiss her. You were just some guy she reluctantly gave her number to in hopes that you would go away.
Too many mistakes.



A woman cannot be interested through text. She's only interested by what her actions say.




Wait, you thought you had a date? You were the only one that thought that my friend.

Setting up a date means the time and location are set, and she agrees. If that didn't happen, you never had a date.




Then you made it worse by chasing.




She doesn't care.




Confirmation that she doesn't care.




Nope. Women actually increase their interest level when you don't chase them. Problem is pal, she was never interested in you. You didn't go on a date. You didn't kiss her. You were just some guy she reluctantly gave her number to in hopes that you would go away.
 

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Guys always say ‘don’t send needy texts’, can someone(s) provide examples of needy and non needy texts?
 

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Guys always say ‘don’t send needy texts’, can someone(s) provide examples of needy and non needy texts?
I would think constant barrage of texts. Whatcha doing, thinking of you, when can I see you again, good morning sweetie, good night babe, etc... Shows a person has no life and not working to improve it. I think. Just what I've read in books and seen on Youtube.
 
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