The Dämned it really seems right about now from your ORIGINAL post (i'm not gonna pay any attention to the ones you replied to people flaming you) that you are seeking someone else who has gone through shït to piggyback and to get support from people who have been through loss and grief.
Let me tell you now, experiences won't really help you, if they are from other people. Sure, they can tell you "oh, don't make the same mistakes I've made" but the way people have gone through loss and have succeeded as DJs are pretty much all the same. In ever way, whether through medicine or by self-reliance, each person who has gone through a loss of some sort has ALWAYS manned up from the inside. They realize that no one else is going to help them become a man and succeed with women. Its an internal change that YOU have to make yourself go through.
Realize that no one is going to make you better but yourself. If you were a woman, would you want a guy who has depended on other men to surpass adversity, or would you want a man who has seen adversity and jumped over all barriers himself? If your answer is the former, you are only lying to yourself.
I know what you are expecting in "The post that can save The Dämned" You want someone who has gone through worse sh1t than you have to come as your savior and tell you how things should be done. It won't happen. No one is going to turn your life around for you. Listen, EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE experiences adversity. You can't expect someone here to do it for you.
You ask for ways to turn your life around. You let your life turn this way in the first place. You can either move on from a loss or let it hold you down, and you've obviously done the latter. How does the death of a relative even bring down your game in the first place? I don't get it. My grandmother died a couple of months ago, and I respect her more than my own god dämn parents....she's taught me more in a week than my parents have for my whole life. Sure I had a time of grieving, but I don't see how its really hurt my game.
Honestly, you said your tragedies have made you more of a man and have given you more courage. Is that even true? Or are you saying that to try to avoid people flaming you for whining? BAWWWWWW, go see a therapist. You might actually have depression. And if you do, they can help you get rid of depression and change your mentality. Your honestly wasting your time, making threads that are worded differently but say the same dämn thing: Your a guy thats been through alot, and people don't give you the respect you deserve.
Look at yourself. You are asking a forum on seduction on how to cope with your loss and bounce back. And don't say "you don't get it" because I honestly do. Why? Because a couple of years ago, I was in your shoes. I tried to take my life and failed. TWICE. How could you be more of a failure than that? I would go to pathetic emo forums and seek support, seek people who relate to me, and then I stumbled on SoSuave in the middle of 2007, a lost and confused kid. Sure, you will be able to find people who relate with you, people who have experienced such social shutdowns. I've had it bad. But I made myself get better, I realized that no one would help but myself. I'm still lost, but I'm getting there (see the sig).
The truth hurts.
Demand that respect.