I read about this example: HB talks/crack joke, you turn and acknowledge her then turn your back to her again.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
I assume you mean directive glances and body language? If you can pull it off and it works for you then by all means share what you did (ie how you brought her down without verbalising)
Sarge On...
In my example, you actually have not made any contact with her yet. But I do see your point in your examples. Yup Sarge on...!Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Its not really a neg - its more of a punishment for her not flowing with your vibe.
Eg - If you go in for the Evolution Phase Shift and she refuses to bite, turn your back on her (punish her) - then turn around a bit later and ask again.
This can also be done in the bedroom, if theres any ASD just get out of the sexual state (or pretend at least) and punish her for not going with it....let her get stressed about this and slowly ease back into the zone.
From your example - her cracking a joke - a neg would be something like:
YOU: (looking at her like shes weird) - non verbal
YOU: (hold your stomach and sarcastically laugh) semi non verbal
YOU: "Yeaa..Eve told that to Adam..and even he didnt laugh..
Sarge On...
I'd say that was a neg ...and a stroke of genius at that. It works on the same principle as a neg - give her some recognition for something good and then retract it to an extent...or more importantly, make her wonder if you did. Which is why:Its not really a neg - its more of a punishment for her not flowing with your vibe.
...I don't view these as negs at all. Where's the compliment?From your example - her cracking a joke - a neg would be something like:
YOU: (looking at her like shes weird) - non verbal
YOU: (hold your stomach and sarcastically laugh) semi non verbal
YOU: "Yeaa..Eve told that to Adam..and even he didnt laugh..
Sarge On...
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
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I think it would do both to a point. If you don't let them know you can tease, their IL will not be good. Plus, if they know you are teasing and still don't open up, then their not going to have any interest anyway, so you have the chance to move on and make the best of your time.The trouble with adding any kind of humour to a neg is that it takes some of the power away. If she thinks you're just teasing, then you're not knocking her off her pedestal, you're just trying to be funny (and that in itself can backfire)
I've been naturally using that one for about 12 years, even in middle school"Wow, that was a GREAT story"
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
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How is that a compliment at all? Dude you have to send a mixed message. Backhanded compliment.Originally posted by The Daddy
How about...
"I'm looking for the sort of girl who wouldn't go to a place like this."
Who says a neg has to be a backhanded compliment? I think you have misinterpreted what a neg is supposed to be.Originally posted by locarius
How is that a compliment at all? Dude you have to send a mixed message. Backhanded compliment.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
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