EXACTLY.
If you're really not a woman's TYPE (see---the kind of guy who, ESPECIALLY physically, that turns her on), she will be FOREVER lusting after the type of guys who do. I don't want to put a woman through this, and I sure as hell don't want some babe putting ME through this either.
To me, this is another form of the woman "settling" for yo' asss. No one wants to be the consolation prize. No one really wants to be the "little engine that could". No we ALL want to be the "hot steamy LOCOMOTIVE that blew her off her tracks!!" lol
There's a reason why women today OPENLY lust after actors, music artists, male models, and other various HIMBOS...it's because women are far more vocal now about the type of guy that turns them on sexually.
If I were to "settle" for some babe who I knew was "settling" for me, then I will have resigned myself to a life of quiet desparation and suspicion.
Desparation because deep down I would know that I was supplicating to her---thinking I am lucky to have her.
Suspicion because I would also know that this babe would only be as faithful to me as her options. So whenever the Mr. BBD (Mr. bigger better deal) shows up, our "relationship" will be in major jeapordy.
Either way, my asss would be on a timer. And once she really finds someone who is more HER TYPE, then my time will be up!! lol
Victory Unlimited's Moment of Full Disclosure:
I guess the reason why I'm taking this thread so personally is because at one point in my life, I used to be the "cute and scrawny" type of guy that women didn't go for. But after working on myself, my looks, and my body---now I'm much more the "handsome and athletic" type of guy that most women SAY that they prefer.
Although, i'm no bodybuilder by any means, the change in me over the past ten years has been significant. But there is STILL a part of me that battles with all these "self-image vs. women's preferences" type of issues.
But having said all that. This is one of the major reasons why spinning plates for me is probably a little HARDER than it is for most guys. Why? Because I have vowed to never pursue a chick unless I ALREADY know that I am STRONGLY physically attracted to her.
You see, I KNOW me. I can have a wandering eye that will easily lead to a wanderLUST. A babe REALLY has to fit my physical wish list to keep me feeling satisfied.
That way, when the day finally comes when i've found a babe that's LTR /Marriage worthy, my desire to bang other chicks will not be AS strong. Why? Because THEN when I see a hot babe I won't have to just sit there and eat my heart out.
No, instead I'll be able to say "Dam, that babe is fine...
just like MY babe.