Theboss said:
Perhapps that's why Pdubs truly ended so hard cause she was the one. on to the next one...maybe
She's the one alright.... the one for someone else! There is some validity to what you are saying. But, I often question one thing in particular:
Every guy that has ever had a crush on a girl knows one thing - crushes come and go. If you get rejected, most of the time you simply move on and go on to the next girl. But when they come back to you on their own, what happens? What EXACTLY makes us still want to be with them?
Is it simply that once you have a crush on someone, it never truly leaves, but rather you force yourself to deal with it? In that case, it makes perfect sense that you would still get with them. After all, she wants you and you want her. It would be stupid not to.
But my question was, what if that isn't the case? What if we still get with them only to try to prove they were wrong to start? Men are competitive. Can anyone say "winning"? (Not you, Charlie Sheen, we know you can) We want to win all the time.
At that point, I don't think it's much of a stretch to say that we may end up overlooking problems and issues that would normally end a relationship for us. If we are still slightly in that competitive mindset, we may deflect some issues. That could be the exact reason my relationship went so long, Jordan's got to kids and marriage, and Theboss' got to the point it did. Yet they all ended eventually.
Bankai brings up a great point. Maybe we would all be better off if we had said no when they came crawling back. Tough to say...