Can men still be good looking at 35+?

[StevenR]

Right now I am overweight, by about 30 pounds, but I am making a major effort to cut that weight and also build muscles. My goal is to have a nice toned body like an olympic swimmer. Now if I was in my 20's in this good of shape I would probably get lots of positive attention. Unfortunately, I will not be there, if I manage at all, until my 35th birthday probably. Fortunately I still have all my hair, and none of it is gray yet, so I will probably look relatively good for my age if I can get into top physical shape.

And please don't tell me it is all about game, I am an introvert and feel I am better off if I can have game and be as good looking as possible for my age. On more than one occasion now a woman I met off an online dating site took one look at me and decided she was no longer attracted at all to me, and I presume it is because I am overweight so I do know that looks matter. I figure I will have to work a lot less hard at game if I can have good looks.

Have any of you guys over 35, who are in excellent physical shape, get positive attention from the ladies based on your looks, in spite of your advanced age? Or once you are that age and older, should you forget about your looks and concentrate on game, status, and becoming financially established? Can a guy in this age compete at all still with a 20 something based on looks, or are there other factors like aged skin and bone structure that make a man that age and up no longer physically attractive to women?

Did anyone who was overweight get in good shape after 35 and get a lot more attention than when they were younger but fatter?

 

[Mr.Positive]

Have any of you guys over 35, who are in excellent physical shape, get positive attention from the ladies based on your looks, in spite of your advanced age?

StevenR, I'm 35 and in excellent physical shape. It's funny, because at this age, it seems like women of all ages respond. I have 19 year old gal neighbor, flirting like crazy with me, but also had a 40 year old gal come on to me.

I think, if you can lose the weight, you will be pleasantly surprised. Not just from the attention from women, but also how YOU feel. You will feel a lot younger than you are.

You will also gain a lot of confidence, from achieving your goal. It's not the weight you lost, it's the change in you. You have more energy, you stand taller, more confidence...it all adds up.

Don't worry about age. Take action, you only live once. You can do anything you put your mind too. Get it done. Achieve your goal. It WILL make a huge difference, in everything.

 

[jophil28]

Did anyone who was overweight get in good shape after 35 and get a lot more attention than when they were younger but fatter?

Ha ha ha - I am speaking as one of the 'elderly' gentlemen on this board.

I date women from 20 years old thru to a great lady of 57 who dances like Ginger Rogers and still looks good in hipsters..

Just get out there and do it, but first, free your mind of all the self limitimg beliefs about who you "should" date and who is off limits.
No woman is off limits,age wise - and no activity is age specific unless you make it that way.

I lost 7 kgs a couple years ago (about 17 lbs ) by changing my eating habits and I do the gym thing three times a week. I also dance a lot and walk every day. NO alcohol and no cigarettes.

It is not really very difficult once you get off the couch.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Have any of you guys over 35, who are in excellent physical shape, get positive attention from the ladies based on your looks, in spite of your advanced age? Or once you are that age and older, should you forget about your looks and concentrate on game, status, and becoming financially established? Can a guy in this age compete at all still with a 20 something based on looks?

Steven, 35 is not old, there are UFC fighters in their late 30's. I am soon to be an amateur mma cage fighter myself. I will fight at 155 pounds, so it will likely be 19 and 20 year old kids that I fight. I have no worries about it, because in submission grappling at my dojo, I frequently beat up on kids who did well wrestling in high school and even some who are current college wrestlers. It's hard to feel old after that. I also have the best physique of my life right now, and I get a lot of attention and compliments from women.

Truthfully, there's no age where you should just give up on your body based upon your age. A cut 60 y/o DJ is going to get laid ten times as much as a 30 y/o overweight AFC. You can look however you want to look, you just have to want it badly enough.

By the way, although competition is not for everyone, anyone can train in a fighting sport. You will lose weight, get in shape, improve your health, and possibly protect yourself and your loved ones someday. I have chosen Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and mma, but I respect anyone who has the courage to walk into a gym that trains any fighting sport.

 

[02hero]

I've got a couple more years to go until I'm 35. but so far so good

I'm pretty lucky as I'm in decent shape despite never being a fan of going down to the gym. Personally it bores the hell outta me. I've always played alot of football (soccer) and kept myself reasonably active though. I think if you eat healthily, cut down on the booze, mixed with some exercise, maybe take up a sport or do a bit of running you'll defiately get good results.
I think at this age you can get women of all ages, as already stated above.

Go watch American Beauty for some inspiration

 

[FM 3321]

Daniel Craig was about 38 in his first James Bond movie and he looked damn good.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

Having been a dork in High School, and now a fairly good looking guy I would have to say that there is this double standard going on. I tend to think that women place more value in looks than men do - it is just that the media (especially the American media) would have you believe otherwise.

Especially when you are dealing with women over 35. Case in point, Hulk Hogan's ex. Demi Moore. These are extreme but a lot of women these days are having that "because I can" philosophy. Women have a "Mendoza Line" upon first contact where if you don't cut it, you're out.... and there is not much you can do to get back in.

 

[azanon]

In my honest opinion, I've gotten better looking every year of my life. Of course that trend will eventually change, but not yet. See my age <----

 

[thedeparted]

it's true, women can be as shallow as men. looks matter. so stop looking online

the problem with online is that it's all about the pic. women are not affected by the words you type. it doesn't affect them emotionally. so they just look at the pic. you are competing against millions of chumps in a beauty pageant. you often lose

online, I get dissed by warhogs with three kids, girls with babies, and other untouchables that would not get a second look from me in real life. there is just some prettier boy for them to choose

in real life, you blast past the pretty boys with kino, e.c., c&f, the energy of your approach, your wit and charm, etc. meanwhile those guys sit their passively thinking, "gosh, aren't i good looking, come to me, ladies..."

in real life i've pulled 9's wearing gay looking gym shorts whereas online those same women would not even click my profile.

so the main thing to do is tighten your game IRL

 

[Jitterbug]

My late grandfather at 65 still had an athletic body and looked like he's in his 30s (if you don't look at the face). At that age, when he appeared at my parents' wedding, he still had the ladies, young and old, going gaga over him.

I know a professor at uni who's in his mid-50s. Goes to the gym regularly, cooks & eats well. He's still very athletic and has a 6-packs (bastard, I'm working on mine!) I've seen him pull students less than half his age.

At 35, you're still a kid compared to those men.

 

[PTC]

StevenR,

As Samspade said men get better with age and women don't. But you have to want to look good. I myself was right at 200lbs. about 3 years ago while I was dating this socialite that liked to go to all these dinner parties and I wasn't working out.

I started working out 6 days a week and running and eating right and now I'm down to 170 and in the best shape I've ever been in. Of course I've got gray patches coming in on the side of my head but I don't care. And not to brag but I have girls telling me all the time how good I look for being 42! And I have 20 -50 yr old women hitting on ME which is the best part of it! Most people guess my age at 35 but I guess my gray spots give it away!

You just have to get the right mindset. Make a goal for yourself and follow thru with it. Alot of people say, "I just don't have time to work out or run." But I guarantee you, if a doctor told you that if you didn't get into shape in say 3 months or so,...you were going to die, you would make time.

 

[STR8UP]

This is a dumb question. What are you looking for? Reassurance?

My 21 yr old ex g/f used to make comments about how sexy Sean Connery is. How old is that guy? 70? She never made comments like that about guys her age. BTW.....I was 31 when I started dating her and she was barely 21.....

I don't like the question, but this is actually a good topic.

I myself am lucky in that I am almost 37, but still get carded all the time. Bartenders sometimes get embarrassed and some have said "You age very well".

So I have a more youthful appearance. The only problem is, my life has been a little screwed up for the past year or two so I have slipped into an unhealthy lifestyle, and whether it's a confidence thing or an actual physical thing I definitely believe that not being at my peak and looking tired is having a negative impact on my "game", so to speak.

I'm already starting to get myself back on track, and despite the fact that I'm not in top shape I have still have multiple women age 22-32 say I'm "really hot" regularly.

Can't wait to get my gym regimen underway and see just how good I can look and feel.

And no, women are NOT as visually stimulated as men are. Never have been, never will be. That doesn't mean that looks don't matter, it just means that men are lucky cause there are other mitigating factors that can make them attractive to the opposite sex aside from physical attributes.

Even women know that in their 30's-40's it's the MAN who holds the cards. Even the hottest 38 year old is less desirable than a 22 yr old of similar attractiveness. I have had several women admit that men age much better than women.

So STOP worrying about it!

 

[mtnkng]

yo!
42, bald (and what I have is gray), cleft palate.

Dropped 30 lbs 4 months ago and another 10 along the way. I look better now than when I left college. I shave the gray off. Im carrying way more muscle than I ever have. I look good.

Was at the beach a week ago. I caught many 20 year old hbs lookin my way. Im getting lots of positive feedback from the women Im dating.

But really, this place helped me with some self improvement. Im confident, happy and feel like I got the world on a string (go, ole blue eyes, go). I think that shows through.

So....yeah, inner and outer game. Worked for me. And many thanks, gentlemen.

 

[MatureDJ]

The key to staying attractive is to be NOT be fat. There is nothing that makes a person unattractive like being FAT. A 60 y.o. who is not fat is a good looking mature man.

The key to NOT being FAT is to exercise. When a person regularly exercises, his metabolism is set so that his body does not put away energy for a rainy day, but rather keeps it in a form that can be burned easily. All the FAT slobs you see around do not do enough exercise, so their body stores the extra energy as fat.

Did you know that the average American has the energy equivalent of 15 gallon of gasoline stored in fat? We ought to start drilling on the tubby women to meet our energy needs.

 

[STR8UP]

.Did you know that the average American has the energy equivalent of 15 gallon of gasoline stored in fat? We ought to start drilling on the tubby women to meet our energy needs.

That's AWESOME!

Seriously though, I agree with you. I carry my body weight fairly well ( I have broad shoulders and decent size arms), but there is no substitute for losing a little bodyfat. I know this. If I could drop 20 pounds I would look great. 30 and I would be RIPPED. Even though my body has a decent shape, I know that I need to lose the fat to slim down my face and neck and such.

My uncle is in his 60's. He still works his farm, same way he has done since he was old enough to drive a tractor. Last time I saw him with his shirt off he was RIPPED. There's no substitute for physical labor.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

I am 47 and just attended my 30th High School reunion. I "won" the youngest looking award, and thanks to a fairly strict regimen of yoga and tennis, I am in the best shape of my life. I have all my hair, and people I meet for the first time routinely think I am in my low 30's. Certainly, much of this has to do with genes, and probably the type of life one has led. At 6'2", 185, I could still stand to lower my body fat percentage though, and that definitely is something that gets harder to do as I get older.

 

[Blackmm]

I'll be 39 on 7/30/08

 

[FM 3321]

This guy seems to doing VERY well. He was born in 1950 according to Wikipedia:


Article with some interesting pictures:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...dy-honeymoon--Sir-Philip-Green-tags-ride.html

 

[02hero]

This guy seems to doing VERY well. He was born in 1950 according to Wikipedia:


Article with some interesting pictures:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...dy-honeymoon--Sir-Philip-Green-tags-ride.html

I wonder what she sees in the billionaire Flavio......

 

[Latinoman]

This guy seems to doing VERY well. He was born in 1950 according to Wikipedia:


Article with some interesting pictures:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...dy-honeymoon--Sir-Philip-Green-tags-ride.html

He is obviously overweight. And much older than his wife. But the guy is a well known playboy. And don't let a picture in the beach fool anyone.

The dude has a great presence when he is in his own environment (which obviously is not the beach).



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