Unlock the Secrets to Dating Success

New to the SoSuave forum? Start your journey to becoming a dating rockstar with our essential guide.

This comprehensive resource will give you the tools and strategies you need to overcome obstacles, build confidence, and attract the women you've always wanted.

Don't let another day go by without taking control of your dating life - start now and get ready to experience the success and fulfillment you deserve.

Thanks for visiting, and I look forward to your success!

Calling chicks "dude" in conversation..

sam3083

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2007
Messages
232
Reaction score
2
Do whatever you want. But, YOU figure out whether it puts you in the friendzone or not. You have to learn whether your personality and status can do something like that.
 

ZenGodMod

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2008
Messages
297
Reaction score
11
Dudess

Haha!

When you call a chick a "dude", you've just put her in the same level as yours "dudes". You placed her in the friendzone.

So if your intention is not the friendzone, don't "dude" her.
 

Silverant

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2008
Messages
26
Reaction score
0
yeah lol. I have a lesbian friend at school and occasionally while in a convo I'll address her as "dude" by accident. But then i stop myself and am like "woops."

So i guess don't call a chick dude unless she gives off lesbian vibes or you're strictly platonic friends, or you call everyone dude cuz it's your style.
 

Jokerlsk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2008
Messages
646
Reaction score
5
Lol, I call girls "dude" all the time, but it's my style. Everyone knows that's how I talk lol. Like Silverant said, If it's a self-conscious thing and everyone knows that's how you address people I dont think it should matter, just make sure it doesnt offend them.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Crazy Asian

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 29, 2007
Messages
1,063
Reaction score
9
Age
33
it's ok, and maybe even good.
who knows, every girl is different.

do w/e u want.
 

ElStud

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 29, 2007
Messages
1,899
Reaction score
24
It's honestly not that big of a deal. I do it sometimes and they don't really even seem to care. Infact, I know chicks who call other chicks "dude".
 

GaryUranga

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2006
Messages
835
Reaction score
7
brett012 said:
thank you for that lol, so its it generally a good or bad thing?
it doesnt really make much of a difference if you wanan get technical though, someone said youre placing her in your "friendzone"

my reply to that is that your friendzone is her more than friends zone, ive read lot about treatign her like one of the guys and it seems to be completly ok and actually good, thats what I read/heard.

anyways I really dont think it makes a difference if she likes you already it might amplify her attraction if she thinks youre befriending her, however thats just technical stuff, doesnt really matter imo
 

AnitaBum

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 8, 2008
Messages
12
Reaction score
0
Location
Australia, Sydney
Yes, I call girls and women, who are not in the friends zone "dude" and "man".
It does not put you in their mind into a friends zone.
If you're interested in the girl and showing sings that you are, and then you come out and say 'sup dude' or just call her 'dude', you're sending a mixed message to her, making her debate in her mind, "does he really like me or not?"
And thats a good thing, women LOVE mixed messages, it plays around with their mind.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

AnitaBum

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 8, 2008
Messages
12
Reaction score
0
Location
Australia, Sydney
brett012 said:
Truuuue, what is the difference in calling her dude as opposed to calling her man?
I don't think there is a difference, as long as you call her something she's not use to being called when being picked up by a guy.
Its got to make her wonder whether you like her. But don't take it too far. Dude is fine.
 

DismantleRepair

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2007
Messages
113
Reaction score
1
Location
New Zealand
I call girls dude all the time. I even like to think they are guys when we're making out.

But seriously... I prefer a somewhat cutesy "Hey you" when meeting/greeting. I wouldn't call a girl "man", no matter how close a friend she is, this implies she has manly characteristics, whereas "dude" is more of a between-friends term and would work better.

Note that I said "between friends". If you're into a girl, I wouldn't do anything to imply that you're only (or should only be) friends.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top